Do I make enough money to be attractive to women?

[Anonymous]

OP HEre

I really am not a couch potato. I am not looking to win the nobel prize or anything, but I am pretty active overall.

I haven't written off women with kids, but i have dated a couple and its just too much. I respect them, and i like their strength, but I didn't get to see them often, which was a dealbreaker. I like a good partner in my life.

I guess i should have mentioned...i am divorced, which may be another deal breaker for some. It was amicable, we married young and in the end...she wanted kids despite telling me the day we married she didn't want any. I asked her every year whether she wanted any, just to make sure.

So yeah. Minds do change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be turned off by the fact you're a journalist.

I'm somewhat turned on by you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be turned off by the fact you're a journalist.

I'm somewhat turned on by you!

+1. I love brainy guys.

[Anonymous]

average-looking women are usually not "fit". average looking women are usually in the overweight range.

[Anonymous]

I met my DH when he was a 35 yo reporter in DC making 50k. I never gave his income a second thought. He did want kids, though. I’d have never gotten serious with him if he hadn’t. That’s just too important to me and, I’d guess, to a lot of other women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met my DH when he was a 35 yo reporter in DC making 50k. I never gave his income a second thought. He did want kids, though. I’d have never gotten serious with him if he hadn’t. That’s just too important to me and, I’d guess, to a lot of other women.

This. I'd guess probably 95% of women in OP's age range or lower want kids. Not a judgment at all on that decision--hey, if kids aren't for you, good thing to know that before they get here--but I think that's OP's main issue with finding compatible women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my DH when he was a 35 yo reporter in DC making 50k. I never gave his income a second thought. He did want kids, though. I’d have never gotten serious with him if he hadn’t. That’s just too important to me and, I’d guess, to a lot of other women.

This. I'd guess probably 95% of women in OP's age range or lower want kids, or want to keep that option open. Not a judgment at all on that decision--hey, if kids aren't for you, good thing to know that before they get here--but I think that's OP's main issue with finding compatible women.

ETA the underlined.

[Anonymous]

Is the number really that high, 95 percent, that want kids. I mean, that's a tough number to beat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the number really that high, 95 percent, that want kids. I mean, that's a tough number to beat.

Just anecdotally from the women I know, yes, it's that high, especially if you include "keep the option" open, which was me. If DH were absolutely certain he didn't want kids early on, then I probably wouldn't have continued the relationship with him. Kids wasn't my goal, but keeping that option open was important to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the number really that high, 95 percent, that want kids. I mean, that's a tough number to beat.

Probably, or they at least haven’t definitely ruled it out yet in their early 30s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the number really that high, 95 percent, that want kids. I mean, that's a tough number to beat.

I don't believe it is. The number is high for sure, but there is a lot of social pressure for women to of course want marriage and kids, which is why people can say "every woman they know" wants kids.

[Anonymous]

Plus, this started as a parenting forum, and is still laregelt based around this. You're going to find a heavy bias towards children here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the number really that high, 95 percent, that want kids. I mean, that's a tough number to beat.

I don't believe it is. The number is high for sure, but there is a lot of social pressure for women to of course want marriage and kids, which is why people can say "every woman they know" wants kids.

No, I don't think now a days women feel that same pressure, especially in the DC area.

[Anonymous]

You need to find a divorced women with a kid or two who doesn't want any more babies AND shares 50% custody with her ex. Those women are great, since they have a good amount of free time to actually date and spend time with you.

Unfortunately, even today, most divorced women end up with a majority of custody of the kids. If a woman has the kids 80-100% of the week, it leaves no time for a dating life.

[Anonymous]

average-looking women are usually not "fit". average looking women are usually in the overweight range.

I'm slender (5'5" and 110 lbs) and average looking - I just have a plain face. I think there are many others like me.