Do I make enough money to be attractive to women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look OP you do not make enough money for women in this area. For a guy in this area 450- 500k is the minimum.

The funny thing is a lot of the women who know this to be true will not see their sons as unattractive.

A lot of women here make that as well. Even Club Fed if you keep rounding Go every year, you're making $100-175k a year by age 35 if you started at age 22.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Q. Do I make enough money to be attractive to women?

A. A 35 yo in an urban city making $90k gross is not attractive. I would wonder what your life goals are if that's where you are at by now.
Try other states where that is more average white collar or blue collar salary. That's bottom quartile in WDC working professionals that age. If you're going for free-lancing or something else, you'll have to stick to those circles.

Good grief. OP, don't listen to this nonsense. Just stay optimistic and keep looking, and you surely will find the right person right here in DC.

[Anonymous]

My SIL is a 35 yo journlist in London, she makes six figures for a not-top newpaper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're 35, you don't want kids, you rent, and you make (for DC) a solidly middle-class salary. Assuming you're saving for retirement (you are, aren't you?) that isn't going to afford a lot of the things childless couples often stay childless to do, like adventuresome vacations.

So, yeah. I'm sure you're a nice guy, but you're not exactly exuding "life partner." Do you have any ambitions that might make you seem more exciting than you do here?

The problem is at your income level and renting your place instead of owning, you exude a kind of diconnection with financial reality.... how are you going to retire one day?


If you don't want kids, then OK, but if you want to marry someone at your income level and have more than 1 kid, you're a little financially delusional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 35 year old male and work as a reporter in the city making 90K. I don't see myself ever making some of the figures touted on this forum. I don't have trouble getting dates. I am a decent looking guy with an athletic build and interesting background. But the stumbling block always seems to be women looking for a LTR that are not happy with the income I make. I get by alright in DC and don't have a roommate and pay about 1700 for a 1 bedroom. With other overhead expenses, that doesn't leave much for frivolous spending.

I don't usually date younger women and I am looking for something meaningful and I don't want kids. The kids aspect of course has some women turned off, but that is usually revealed early on. I don't want to mislead anyone.

The reason i state is that my last relationship floundered after 6 months when she, a person making about the same salary, was wondering (mentioned it like 1000 times) how i can boost my salary.

You don’t want kids? I have one kid and make slightly less than you, but would LOVE to find a guy around my age who didn’t want kids. I have no desire to have more, and all the guys I find to date want 1-2 kids.

He also said he doesn't want a woman who already has kids. You're out of the running.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look OP you do not make enough money for women in this area. For a guy in this area 450- 500k is the minimum.

The funny thing is a lot of the women who know this to be true will not see their sons as unattractive.

A lot of women here make that as well. Even Club Fed if you keep rounding Go every year, you're making $100-175k a year by age 35 if you started at age 22.

I know. Women want a man who will provide. We had a guy friend when we were in our 20’s who would get no play. At one party, my friend and I mentioned to every women there that he made a lot of money(like 500k). Guess what happen

[Anonymous]

Hey OP...you sound like my type. I'm your age, fit, and have zero problems getting dates with attractive and successful men. My problem is that most of these men seem either shallow or not interested in commitment. I want something with someone of substance and depth, who is outgoing and fun, but cares about more in the world than where he's drinking Saturday night. I'm also not really in to the having kids thing. Would rather travel! Let's hang out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP...you sound like my type. I'm your age, fit, and have zero problems getting dates with attractive and successful men. My problem is that most of these men seem either shallow or not interested in commitment. I want something with someone of substance and depth, who is outgoing and fun, but cares about more in the world than where he's drinking Saturday night. I'm also not really in to the having kids thing. Would rather travel! Let's hang out.

Yeah! I hope this works out for you and OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP...you sound like my type. I'm your age, fit, and have zero problems getting dates with attractive and successful men. My problem is that most of these men seem either shallow or not interested in commitment. I want something with someone of substance and depth, who is outgoing and fun, but cares about more in the world than where he's drinking Saturday night. I'm also not really in to the having kids thing. Would rather travel! Let's hang out.

Op here. I hope this isn’t some sort of joke. You sound great. Too bad this is anonymous and I don’t have a have a way of getting ahold of you.

[Anonymous]

I'm the PP...totally weird, I know, but not a joke!

Hopefully this isn't a terrible idea, but email me at BelStar712 at gmail. Its a throw away account I use mostly for internet junk, but I'll be sure to check it later on and can give you my real contact info.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP...totally weird, I know, but not a joke!

Hopefully this isn't a terrible idea, but email me at BelStar712 at gmail. Its a throw away account I use mostly for internet junk, but I'll be sure to check it later on and can give you my real contact info.

Awwrrigghtttt! You guys go for it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Q. Do I make enough money to be attractive to women?

A. A 35 yo in an urban city making $90k gross is not attractive. I would wonder what your life goals are if that's where you are at by now.
Try other states where that is more average white collar or blue collar salary. That's bottom quartile in WDC working professionals that age. If you're going for free-lancing or something else, you'll have to stick to those circles.

The OP wouldn’t be making $90k in another smaller market, probably $50-60 at best

[Anonymous]

I want to see how this plays out. I bet the person that left the email is a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want to see how this plays out. I bet the person that left the email is a troll.

Equally surprised. Two single professionals without kids (and no desire to have kids) on DCUM!

[Anonymous]

In case anyone wanted an update, I'm the pp that left the email. OP emailed and we chatted for a while, then texted a bit, then he ghosted.

Sigh. No one can say I didn't try...