Is it wrong to day dream about being a trophy wife?

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Anonymous wrote:I am a trophy wife and it's not a dream come true. I married a 50 year old divorced guy when I was 32. I'm now 37 with two young children and my DH, who has two older children, really doesn't care to be fully engaged in parenting. I've got a beautiful home, nice car, household help, a country club etc. he does like to show me off and I still do show well but we sometimes seem to be leading separate lives. It's very difficult for me to complain but I do wish there was a lot more love and partnership. I do realize that many women wish they had my life but if you have love with a real partner you have something special.

Gold digger you made your bed, so now lay in it!!
lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a first wife, Southern, never worked, kids all grown, I do what I want, commence with the hate.

I don't hate you, I just don't want to be friends with you.

I want to be friends with you! You probably know how to make awesome stuff and I always wanted to go to someone's house where they use formal plate settings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew I'd never be a trophy wife. To be honest I'm not pretty enough. So what did I do instead? Made myself rich. Now I sleep til whenever and take midday lunches. Every month I go on vacation somewhere new.

Here's a tip ladies: you can have the same benefits of being a trophy wife without the hassle of a blowjob contract. Just use your damned brains.

I'm a 60 year old man and I love this attitude. I have a SIL that married a surgeon and tells her daughters, often, that they should do the same.
I tell them to study hard, work hard and make their own success.

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Anonymous wrote:there's a difference between SAHM and trophy wife.

what is difference?

Big difference. Trophy wives are beautiful. They could be models. They are also smart, sohisticated, and cultured. They are show pieces and are trohies for very wealthy husbands. A sahm could be any one.

Smart is not a requirement. Being smart enough to know when to be quiet is. Looking good and being his sexual plaything are the main requirements.

Aren't you describing the mistress, not the trophy wife? What does the mistress do, if not all this?

I thought the trophy wife was there to look good in public, the mistress is there to look good at home.

The trophy wife is there to look good everywhere. Think about a trophy, you like to show it off but it doesn't talk. Guys that want trophy wives are insecure and superficial. They drive 300k sports cars to impress others. They want to be the smart ones and all they care about is that everyone notices how hot their wife is. It's to prove the guy wins at everything.

I disagree. I am an attractive, educated, middle class
class woman. I married an atractive, smart guy because I could. Does that make me shallow or insecure? Most peole would choose hot over mediocre looks.

Congrats but that doesn't make you a trophy wife.

Newsflash: you can look beautiful and have a husband that is proud to show you off and not be a trophy wife.

I am not saying I am a trophy wife. I am saying most people want hot and attractive. My point is why would anyone choose an unattractive partner if they could do better? I was responding to the negative attitudes about trophy wives. I don't get the hate.

[Anonymous]

It has never occurred to me to dream of being incredibly bored 24/7, but hell, whatever works for you, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I sit at my desk at work, sipping my coffee and day dream about how nice it would be if I was a trophy wife. Nothing to do except look pretty, go to tea with the ladies and take afternoon naps.

Even trophy wives do more than that, lol. I would stop dreaming and find a guy with a decent income that doesn't care if you work or stay home.

Right, so where do I find these guys??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a trophy wife and it's not a dream come true. I married a 50 year old divorced guy when I was 32. I'm now 37 with two young children and my DH, who has two older children, really doesn't care to be fully engaged in parenting. I've got a beautiful home, nice car, household help, a country club etc. he does like to show me off and I still do show well but we sometimes seem to be leading separate lives. It's very difficult for me to complain but I do wish there was a lot more love and partnership. I do realize that many women wish they had my life but if you have love with a real partner you have something special.

Have you considered leaving? Seems like your life will go downhill in a few years with an old man to take care of.

[Anonymous]

Keep in mind what I read on dcum recently: those women who marry for money really earn it ???

Frankly if you are willing to have sex for money (and have the looks for it) you should be an escort, make a lot, save it and invest it and retire in ten years.

I couldn't do it (pesky morals) but it would be much less hassle and more happiness than, say, melania faces.

[Anonymous]

Depends on your definition of trophy wife:
If it means model gorgeous woman married to ugly rich guy - that's not me.
But if it means educated attractive woman who worked ina career until 37 then decided to stay home with kids while high earning husband advanced his career - that's me. Now I'm an at home mom with teens. We live comfortably. Travel. Entertain. Enjoy life. I spend my days in all sorts of ways including excersise and lunching with friends and shopping. As well as maintaining our home, planning travel, managing finances which includes a side business we run together, summer on nantucket, etc. etc.
it's what you describe except I'm not "having sex for money".

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I'd be worried my butt would always be sore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your definition of trophy wife:
If it means model gorgeous woman married to ugly rich guy - that's not me.
But if it means educated attractive woman who worked ina career until 37 then decided to stay home with kids while high earning husband advanced his career - that's me. Now I'm an at home mom with teens. We live comfortably. Travel. Entertain. Enjoy life. I spend my days in all sorts of ways including excersise and lunching with friends and shopping. As well as maintaining our home, planning travel, managing finances which includes a side business we run together, summer on nantucket, etc. etc.
it's what you describe except I'm not "having sex for money".

nope, you're not a trophy wife.

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don't you have to be "sex-ready" 24/7 thou?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:don't you have to be "sex-ready" 24/7 thou?

Do you actually live in the real world? No, no more than you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on your definition of trophy wife:
If it means model gorgeous woman married to ugly rich guy - that's not me.
But if it means educated attractive woman who worked ina career until 37 then decided to stay home with kids while high earning husband advanced his career - that's me. Now I'm an at home mom with teens. We live comfortably. Travel. Entertain. Enjoy life. I spend my days in all sorts of ways including excersise and lunching with friends and shopping. As well as maintaining our home, planning travel, managing finances which includes a side business we run together, summer on nantucket, etc. etc.
it's what you describe except I'm not "having sex for money".

Are you sleeping with the gardener or the pool boy?

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Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I sit at my desk at work, sipping my coffee and day dream about how nice it would be if I was a trophy wife. Nothing to do except look pretty, go to tea with the ladies and take afternoon naps.

Many women want to be a trophy wife however very, very few are attractive enough to pull it off.

It doesn't work this way for all attractive women. I was very attractive when I was young (l was approached by modeling scouts all the time), and I was very sweet and nice, but for some reason, I was invisible to the rich successful guys. Meanwhile, my plain SIL and some other less attractive friends have scored rich men. None of the men are the good looking rich ones. One was way older and another was nerdy with no dating experience, but still. Yes, I admit to being confused by this and bitter, so flame away.