Is it wrong to day dream about being a trophy wife?

[Anonymous]

Op, it's so unbelievably fun! Worked my but off in corporate America and interestingly enough it was a female boss who sent me down this route with her nastiness and craziness. At some point I just wanted to have fun and took my then fiancé up on the offer and it's been amazing. That being said, I did already have a sizable retirement fund built up from my years in corporate USA. Not one ounce of desire to go back to the grind.

[Anonymous]

I guess I'm sort of a trophy wife. My kids are grown. I don't work outside the home. I spend a lot of time taking care of my DH and our home. I spend a lot of time volunteering. And admittedly, I spend a lot of time shopping, going out to eat, and at the gym. I love my life and the freedom of not being tied to a job. I love that I can travel with my DH. I love that I have the flexibility to respond when one of my adult kids needs me. Occasionally I daydream about what it would be like to have a career. I think there are trade-offs either way. The grass is always greener...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm sort of a trophy wife. My kids are grown. I don't work outside the home. I spend a lot of time taking care of my DH and our home. I spend a lot of time volunteering. And admittedly, I spend a lot of time shopping, going out to eat, and at the gym. I love my life and the freedom of not being tied to a job. I love that I can travel with my DH. I love that I have the flexibility to respond when one of my adult kids needs me. Occasionally I daydream about what it would be like to have a career. I think there are trade-offs either way. The grass is always greener...

Good for you! I think if you married your husband out of love, you are not a trophy wife no matter what your lifestyle is, which by the way sounds wonderful.

To me a trophy wife is when a woman marries a man simply because of the lifestyle he can provide, and he marries for her looks. No real love, she is just his trophy for being successful because there is the expectation that if a man is rich he should have a good looking wife.

[Anonymous]

Same here. Best thing I did was quit my job!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I daydream sometimes about being retired young, which is basically what a trophy wife is. I've always worked but I have enough hobbies and volunteer gigs that I could absolutely fill my time without a full-time job. It would be amazing.

My wife does this. We are both very happy, although I wonder if she ever gets bored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I'm sort of a trophy wife. My kids are grown. I don't work outside the home. I spend a lot of time taking care of my DH and our home. I spend a lot of time volunteering. And admittedly, I spend a lot of time shopping, going out to eat, and at the gym. I love my life and the freedom of not being tied to a job. I love that I can travel with my DH. I love that I have the flexibility to respond when one of my adult kids needs me. Occasionally I daydream about what it would be like to have a career. I think there are trade-offs either way. The grass is always greener...

tell us more please....

[Anonymous]

I think most people do mot understand that there is work and pressure in being a trophy wife. I used to teach internationally. My students were either very wealthy nationals or wealthy internationals. Most of their mothers were trophy wives. When I asked my students what their mothers did they would say, "she goes to the gym". The moms were all beautiful, super skinny, cosmetic surgery. It takes a lot of work to maintain that image. Also many get replaced by younger versions.

I have had the day dream. But in mine I am married to a man that is much older.

[Anonymous]

I had a 20 year corporate career but once my kids were reaching middle school age and we relocated I scaled back to a 30 hour work week running a local non profit for about 25% of my former salary but far more fulfilling and my DH was doing very well. When we became empty nesters I retired and took up silversmithing and jewelry making plus took over all home management stuff. I got to do some nice business travel with my DH, I took up a sport and now winter where it's warm. Now I feel like a trophy wife but I worked pretty hard to deserve it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, it's so unbelievably fun! Worked my but off in corporate America and interestingly enough it was a female boss who sent me down this route with her nastiness and craziness. At some point I just wanted to have fun and took my then fiancé up on the offer and it's been amazing. That being said, I did already have a sizable retirement fund built up from my years in corporate USA. Not one ounce of desire to go back to the grind.

How do you spend your days?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think most people do mot understand that there is work and pressure in being a trophy wife. I used to teach internationally. My students were either very wealthy nationals or wealthy internationals. Most of their mothers were trophy wives. When I asked my students what their mothers did they would say, "she goes to the gym". The moms were all beautiful, super skinny, cosmetic surgery. It takes a lot of work to maintain that image. Also many get replaced by younger versions.

I have had the day dream. But in mine I am married to a man that is much older.

Yup. When you are really a trophy wife, your job is to look good and project the right image. And you know that it's a competition, and that you will be replaced if you fall short. My grandmother always told me that women who marry for money earn every penny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I sit at my desk at work, sipping my coffee and day dream about how nice it would be if I was a trophy wife. Nothing to do except look pretty, go to tea with the ladies and take afternoon naps.

Thank you for reconfirming the DCUM stereotype that it is every woman's dream to not work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I sit at my desk at work, sipping my coffee and day dream about how nice it would be if I was a trophy wife. Nothing to do except look pretty, go to tea with the ladies and take afternoon naps.

Thank you for reconfirming the DCUM stereotype that it is every woman's dream to not work.

I'm a man...its my dream too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I'm a man...its my dream too.

Sucks to be you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, it's so unbelievably fun! Worked my but off in corporate America and interestingly enough it was a female boss who sent me down this route with her nastiness and craziness. At some point I just wanted to have fun and took my then fiancé up on the offer and it's been amazing. That being said, I did already have a sizable retirement fund built up from my years in corporate USA. Not one ounce of desire to go back to the grind.

How do you spend your days?

Why is this often a question? Will watching tv and exercising suffice? Or must it be a life full of activities?

[Anonymous]

Yes. Just ask Melania.