Admit it, how many of you purposely got knocked up so your man would marry you?

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Anonymous wrote:Well, prior to getting married I was dating my now DW who was in the US on a green card. She got pregnant. I was content to stay single but she said we needed to get married because . . . well . . . something about the child's citizenship status in her home country. It sounded kind of important, like the child's status could be lessened if the child ever decided to live in that country as an adult. So we got married. A couple years after we were married DW said, oops, she was wrong about the need to get married. And oh by the way, now that we are married I can get a better, longer term green card (marriage visa) than the one I have. I wonder if I was taken on a ride, in more ways than one.

There is no "better, longer term" green card. A green card means permanent residency. Permanent means "forever". There is nothing longer than "forever." There is no such thing as "marriage visa".

Pp doesn't understand the right terms, but his story still makes sense. She was on a visa initially and wanted him to petition for her so she could do an adjustment of status to something more permanent, ie green card.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't know a single person nor heard of any in my extended social circle who has ever done this. Maybe it's a trailer park thing

+ 1

Right? This has to be a low class phenomenon.

Or ghetto

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, prior to getting married I was dating my now DW who was in the US on a green card. She got pregnant. I was content to stay single but she said we needed to get married because . . . well . . . something about the child's citizenship status in her home country. It sounded kind of important, like the child's status could be lessened if the child ever decided to live in that country as an adult. So we got married. A couple years after we were married DW said, oops, she was wrong about the need to get married. And oh by the way, now that we are married I can get a better, longer term green card (marriage visa) than the one I have. I wonder if I was taken on a ride, in more ways than one.

There is no "better, longer term" green card. A green card means permanent residency. Permanent means "forever". There is nothing longer than "forever." There is no such thing as "marriage visa".

Pp doesn't understand the right terms, but his story still makes sense. She was on a visa initially and wanted him to petition for her so she could do an adjustment of status to something more permanent, ie green card.

This guy needs to stop whining. He knocked up a girl; she wants to not get shipped back to Croatia with a baby to raise by herself. Been there, except my wife was illegal. Surprisingly, they asked no questions about that. Do they still do 2-year green cards? It was only at the 2 year mark did they quiz us for her permanent green card (10-year, automatic renewal, whatever).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:his story still makes sense. She was on a visa initially and wanted him to petition for her so she could do an adjustment of status to something more permanent, ie green card.

This. She was on some kind of work visa and saw the green card as more permanent. Sorry I don't know the proper terminology. Anyway, not complaining about us, we're fine. Just . . . odd.

[Anonymous]

This is not a "thing" for educated people.

[Anonymous]

I know only one woman of my generation who did this. However, my young adult son has at least three peers who've gotten married because of unplanned pregnancies. It seems to be on the rise.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you don't want to get trapped, don't put sperm in them.

Except on the "didn't actually get a vasectomy" and "didn't pull out in time" thread we learn how entrapment is abuse. But like many things in life, I guess it's only abuse if men do it.

His stupidity in trusting his partner (lesson men: never trust women -- if you do, they'll just call you stupid later for doing so) does not justify her abuse.

Yes, it is fraud for a woman to entrap a man with a pregnancy. However, unless the man is mentally challenged, he needs to understand that birth control fails, people forget to take pills, and some people even lie. Therefore, as I told the young men in my family, do not leave sperm anywhere it can be used to make a baby.

It's not about "justifying" abuse. It's about retaining ownership and control over your own DNA and not giving possession of it to a third party. Once you relinquish possession of your sperm, you leave yourself at the mercy of a third party.

[Anonymous]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Yo necessito anchor babi y sugar papi

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, prior to getting married I was dating my now DW who was in the US on a green card. She got pregnant. I was content to stay single but she said we needed to get married because . . . well . . . something about the child's citizenship status in her home country. It sounded kind of important, like the child's status could be lessened if the child ever decided to live in that country as an adult. So we got married. A couple years after we were married DW said, oops, she was wrong about the need to get married. And oh by the way, now that we are married I can get a better, longer term green card (marriage visa) than the one I have. I wonder if I was taken on a ride, in more ways than one.

There is no "better, longer term" green card. A green card means permanent residency. Permanent means "forever". There is nothing longer than "forever." There is no such thing as "marriage visa".

Si. Marry for two years then divorce, keep greencard! Then when anchor babi is 18 Casa de Maryland has anchor babi sponsor mi citizenship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, prior to getting married I was dating my now DW who was in the US on a green card. She got pregnant. I was content to stay single but she said we needed to get married because . . . well . . . something about the child's citizenship status in her home country. It sounded kind of important, like the child's status could be lessened if the child ever decided to live in that country as an adult. So we got married. A couple years after we were married DW said, oops, she was wrong about the need to get married. And oh by the way, now that we are married I can get a better, longer term green card (marriage visa) than the one I have. I wonder if I was taken on a ride, in more ways than one.

There is no "better, longer term" green card. A green card means permanent residency. Permanent means "forever". There is nothing longer than "forever." There is no such thing as "marriage visa".

Si. Marry for two years then divorce, keep greencard! Then when anchor babi is 18 Casa de Maryland has anchor babi sponsor mi citizenship.

Nope. Mom can apply for citizenship long before anchor (not accurate here) is 18. But anchor baby can't sponsor grandma and grandpa. Mom must do the citizenship paperwork, then grandma can move here.

[Anonymous]

Your brother and his fiancée were not broken up if he got her pregnant. Is he too dumb to use a condom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not a "thing" for educated people.

So weird, everyone on these boards brags about how educated they are, yet this is the only place where I've heard women talk about "forgetting" to take birth control to get a baby with their husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also goes for men, how many got your wife preggo so she'd be stuck with you for life?

I ask because my mom is convinced my brother's girlfriend did this. They were broke up because he didn't want to marry her, then she got pregnant, and now they're back together, moved in together, and he plans to marry her soon. She's in her 20s and he's early 30s. So her getting pregnant got her exactly what she wanted.

Seems to work, so is it true?

Most people take precautions, the only women or men I know who got pregnant (or "accidentally" didn't take precautions) on the sly to trap someone (male or female) were the ones from the low income, low education area I am from...and even there it did not work half the time.

I made sure to warn family members, who were enlisting in the military, not to fall for this kind of trap and always use birth control no matter what the other person says. Lots of users near military bases want those sweet military benefits, mainly because they are poor and have few alternatives. It's sad, but I don't think many educated people with options think this approach will work very well.

[Anonymous]

And, the few middle class women (and men) I know who tried this trapping approach ended up as single parents. Maybe if you are already married your spouse will go along with it, I don't know.