What is the primary problem in your marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH is a fantastic partner in all ways except for low libido. I'm a very sexual woman, and it hurts.

Did you get fat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH is a fantastic partner in all ways except for low libido. I'm a very sexual woman, and it hurts.

Did you get fat

Lol. Us fat chicks still get laid. There are many ways to make yourself unattractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH is a fantastic partner in all ways except for low libido. I'm a very sexual woman, and it hurts.

Did you get fat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex. by far. It's the only issue, but it's a massive one. DW is once a week, if I push for it, and then only quickies. Yes, I have had affairs, no she doesn't know, I am trying to be faithful again, but it's getting tougher with the current drought.

She knows now.

+1

You are blaming your wife for the affairs. What a coward. Why not just get a divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has low energy. This is the root of our major problems: his inability to bear an equal load at home; our sex life; his messiness. He would say the root of his problems with me is my critical nature (refusal to be a doormat).

This is my answer, too. The description fits too well, actually. Pp, what have you tried? I know my husband's energy level goes up when he gets regular exercise and sleep and is about 30 pounds lighter, but this is very hard to suggest without seeming critical. I hate feeling resentful about the messiness, but it really bothers me. If there were more sex that would help take the edge off, but it's unfortunately not happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll start - we both have short tempers and our fights quickly turn into yelling matches. They aren't long fights usually, but they can be fierce.

He never puts me nor our family first, just his office work. With family he doesn't listen, remember, step up or do anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband has low energy. This is the root of our major problems: his inability to bear an equal load at home; our sex life; his messiness. He would say the root of his problems with me is my critical nature (refusal to be a doormat).

This is my answer, too. The description fits too well, actually. Pp, what have you tried? I know my husband's energy level goes up when he gets regular exercise and sleep and is about 30 pounds lighter, but this is very hard to suggest without seeming critical. I hate feeling resentful about the messiness, but it really bothers me. If there were more sex that would help take the edge off, but it's unfortunately not happening.

+1 Constant lose/lose -- he won't proactively do anything for the household and he plays the victim if you (the bad guy) remind him to do something he agreed to do.

[Anonymous]

She can't resist f-king her co-workers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband has low energy. This is the root of our major problems: his inability to bear an equal load at home; our sex life; his messiness. He would say the root of his problems with me is my critical nature (refusal to be a doormat).

This is my answer, too. The description fits too well, actually. Pp, what have you tried? I know my husband's energy level goes up when he gets regular exercise and sleep and is about 30 pounds lighter, but this is very hard to suggest without seeming critical. I hate feeling resentful about the messiness, but it really bothers me. If there were more sex that would help take the edge off, but it's unfortunately not happening.

Oh man this COMPLETELY describes my situation too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a marriage counselor once told us, I am "random and abstract" and my husband is "concrete and sequential." That about sums up the fundamental source of our difficulties.

What does it mean that you are "random and abstract"? Can't set goals and achieve them? I wouldn't like a counselor telling me I was "random."

PP's counselor sux. Everyone has different personalities, approaches, or what-haveyou, the point of counseling is to find a way to work together, communicate effectively and move fw --- not cop out and blame something else and pretend that's all there is to it.

change counselors asap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH is a fantastic partner in all ways except for low libido. I'm a very sexual woman, and it hurts.

Did you get fat

I didn't. Did you?

[Anonymous]

DH has no love language, for giving or receiving, and thinks it's a character flaw that I want him to compliment me and be affectionate. He treats me like a roommate or his mother and doesn't see anything strange about that.

[Anonymous]

Wife is too immature like her mother. Causes so much confusion.

[Anonymous]

He won't put his freaking cereal bowl in the dishwasher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He won't put his freaking cereal bowl in the dishwasher.

Mine won't load the dishwasher correctly. Damn her.