How to get her back? "The one that got away" recently divorced w/ 2 DC, messaged me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but you all are seriously underestimating the talent, education, etc of the ex. You don't easily get mommy tracked and re-enter the workforce at Microsoft.

OP didn't say what her role was. Microsoft has administrative assistants too.

Haha, that's true. She's a program manager I believe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dude WTF? You are PATHETIC. There are thousands upon thousands of 30-something attractive single women in this area who do NOT have baggage or kids. Go find one.

Remember: she dumped you the first time and went and had kids with someone else. THIS WAS NOT MEANT TO BE.

Haha, your ferocity is admirable if not telling.

Personally, I'm not the type to rush in and think with my little head. Her kids are amazing and well behaved.

I'm planning to take it slow, no idea what the future will hold. What I'm looking guidance on is how to set the ground work so she'll consider me.

Also, it's been more than 10 years, I rounded down. There was no chance the first child was conceived "on my watch".

1. It is WORSE that the first kid is not yours, not better. You want to raise some other man's spawn? That makes you a de facto willing cuckold.

2. "So she will consider me" is NOT the way to think about it at all. "What can she do so that I will consider her" is the proper attitude. Single mom with kids and baggage = UNDESIRABLE, AVOID. What is she going to do for you to make herself more desirable than any one of the many thousands of no kids, no baggage single women in this area?

Oof, you sound like you might be the bipolar ex. There is so much black/white thinking and raging crazy roaring from your post. Get therapy and heavy duty medication now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dude WTF? You are PATHETIC. There are thousands upon thousands of 30-something attractive single women in this area who do NOT have baggage or kids. Go find one.

Remember: she dumped you the first time and went and had kids with someone else. THIS WAS NOT MEANT TO BE.

Haha, your ferocity is admirable if not telling.

Personally, I'm not the type to rush in and think with my little head. Her kids are amazing and well behaved.

I'm planning to take it slow, no idea what the future will hold. What I'm looking guidance on is how to set the ground work so she'll consider me.

Also, it's been more than 10 years, I rounded down. There was no chance the first child was conceived "on my watch".

1. It is WORSE that the first kid is not yours, not better. You want to raise some other man's spawn? That makes you a de facto willing cuckold.

2. "So she will consider me" is NOT the way to think about it at all. "What can she do so that I will consider her" is the proper attitude. Single mom with kids and baggage = UNDESIRABLE, AVOID. What is she going to do for you to make herself more desirable than any one of the many thousands of no kids, no baggage single women in this area?

Oof, you sound like you might be the bipolar ex. There is so much black/white thinking and raging crazy roaring from your post. Get therapy and heavy duty medication now.

*Bar fight alert, grab the popcorn and beer!!!*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but you all are seriously underestimating the talent, education, etc of the ex. You don't easily get mommy tracked and re-enter the workforce at Microsoft.

OP didn't say what her role was. Microsoft has administrative assistants too.

Haha, that's true. She's a program manager I believe.

A program manager at Microsoft with 0 experience beyond the age of 24?? I call bullshit. I don't care if her sister is the head of HR for the entire Microsoft North America region. Either the OP is lying or he needs to ask for this woman's hire letter in-person.

Either way good luck with the crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but you all are seriously underestimating the talent, education, etc of the ex. You don't easily get mommy tracked and re-enter the workforce at Microsoft.

OP didn't say what her role was. Microsoft has administrative assistants too.

Haha, that's true. She's a program manager I believe.

A program manager at Microsoft with 0 experience beyond the age of 24?? I call bullshit. I don't care if her sister is the head of HR for the entire Microsoft North America region. Either the OP is lying or he needs to ask for this woman's hire letter in-person.

Either way good luck with the crazy.

Same here. I call bullshit also.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you single?

Yes, I am single, never married.

Also, I'm 35 and ready to settle down. She's 33 and from what she tells me, really unsure about how to be out in the world after 10 years as an SAH mom

After 10 yrs as a SAHM, she is looking for a new free ride. What is so amazing about her other than she married someone else and had kids ASAP after you broke up with her other than she is hot? Start thinking with the head above your shoulders.

Sorry to say this, but ditto. She sounds kind of loserish and she will likely break your heart again. Don't give her that!

[Anonymous]

I'm stunned at the negativity on here. OP clarified she was only SAHM for several yrs but was working part of the marriage, and now has a nice job. He liked her then and likes her now. She made him happy. Yet these haters insist she's a needy loser who doesn't deserve OP or anyone's affection. Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but you all are seriously underestimating the talent, education, etc of the ex. You don't easily get mommy tracked and re-enter the workforce at Microsoft.

OP didn't say what her role was. Microsoft has administrative assistants too.

Haha, that's true. She's a program manager I believe.

A program manager at Microsoft with 0 experience beyond the age of 24?? I call bullshit. I don't care if her sister is the head of HR for the entire Microsoft North America region. Either the OP is lying or he needs to ask for this woman's hire letter in-person.

Either way good luck with the crazy.

Same here. I call bullshit also.

Ex Softie here - definitely a little suspect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm stunned at the negativity on here. OP clarified she was only SAHM for several yrs but was working part of the marriage, and now has a nice job. He liked her then and likes her now. She made him happy. Yet these haters insist she's a needy loser who doesn't deserve OP or anyone's affection. Why?

Because they're haters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm stunned at the negativity on here. OP clarified she was only SAHM for several yrs but was working part of the marriage, and now has a nice job. He liked her then and likes her now. She made him happy. Yet these haters insist she's a needy loser who doesn't deserve OP or anyone's affection. Why?

Read the threads before you jump down anyone's throat.

I quote:

Yes, I am single, never married.

Also, I'm 35 and ready to settle down. She's 33 and from what she tells me, really unsure about how to be out in the world after 10 years as an SAH mom

The OP has spent her entire adult life post-college (assuming she went) as a stay-at-home mom. She has no experience and we're starting to doubt the theory of the job as well. No one said she wasn't deserving of affection, there's just too many red flags and he seemed like he need guidance before he went from single to provider for four in a blink of an eye.

[Anonymous]

^^ I think OP said somewhere else that she was a stay-at-home mom before the kids were in school f/t...She had also worked as a fitness instructor.

[Anonymous]

He did. He also said he was off in his time estimates. The PP above is cherry picking statements from the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ I think OP said somewhere else that she was a stay-at-home mom before the kids were in school f/t...She had also worked as a fitness instructor.

A fitness instructor...

A job that requires no degree, no certification, no intellectual expertise and definitely doesn't count as work experience in the real world. Any former athlete can get a job as a fitness instructor at the local gym.

Try again idiots. This is what you think it takes to be a Program Manager at a billion-dollar software company? Get real.

[Anonymous]

OP - please settle the matter and clarify. What's her educational/professional background?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How long has she been divorced?

Separated last December, divorce finalized last month.

Does not sound like someone who wants to stand on her own two feet. She wants a provider/husband and sent a message to an ex through facebook!

If she is a program manager at Microsoft with zero experience and after being a SAHM and part time fitness instructor for the past ten yrs, I'll introduce you to a really gullible smuck who'll support you and your kids for the rest of your life