My husband isn't doing his to-do list

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Anonymous wrote:I either do it myself or hire out. Enough of that bs. I've been married 20 years and I know it won't get done if I leave it to H. I've cried, pleaded, ignored it, mentioned it in counseling. He just doesn't care if the house isn't well maintained. Luckily we can afford to hire a lot of handyman type work out.

Nice dynamic. He must be so thankful he married someone that does everything for him. That's attractive.

Yeah, except I'm screwing around on him because I resent the hell out of him.

Perhaps being a taskmaster instead of a wife has not given him any incentive to get motivated. Oh yeah, being a whore doesn't help either....

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Yes, same situation here.
DH has untreated ADHD, and is forever procrastinating and late, especially for tasks he's not enthused about.
My goal is to get him treated for his ADHD.

News flash, dear: procrastinating on tasks he's not enthused about has nothing to do with ADHD.

This thread is just another reason to never get married.

Agree with this. When the bitching to blowjob ratio gets too high, motivation goes out the window.

You should be married to me. I give great bjs whenever and don't bitch. I just get 'er done.

Well, maybe your DH does his chores?

Nope.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I either do it myself or hire out. Enough of that bs. I've been married 20 years and I know it won't get done if I leave it to H. I've cried, pleaded, ignored it, mentioned it in counseling. He just doesn't care if the house isn't well maintained. Luckily we can afford to hire a lot of handyman type work out.

Nice dynamic. He must be so thankful he married someone that does everything for him. That's attractive.

Yeah, except I'm screwing around on him because I resent the hell out of him.

Perhaps being a taskmaster instead of a wife has not given him any incentive to get motivated. Oh yeah, being a whore doesn't help either....

I'm not a taskmaster. I do it myself or hire it out. He does virtually nothing. And you know what? He's happy with vanilla sex once a week, so there's that.

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Yes, this thread teaches that "your bitch of a wife will assign you endless tasks, will never shut up about it, and will never be satisfied" which is enough to make any man stay single.

Exactly! Ask me how many "honey do" lists I have...

If you were a grown-ass man you'd do your share of family responsibilities without having to be asked.

Just so you know, when you add 28 things to the "to do" list and I had zero things, "my share" of that list is not 14 things.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I either do it myself or hire out. Enough of that bs. I've been married 20 years and I know it won't get done if I leave it to H. I've cried, pleaded, ignored it, mentioned it in counseling. He just doesn't care if the house isn't well maintained. Luckily we can afford to hire a lot of handyman type work out.

Nice dynamic. He must be so thankful he married someone that does everything for him. That's attractive.

Yeah, except I'm screwing around on him because I resent the hell out of him.

Perhaps being a taskmaster instead of a wife has not given him any incentive to get motivated. Oh yeah, being a whore doesn't help either....

I'm not a taskmaster. I do it myself or hire it out. He does virtually nothing. And you know what? He's happy with vanilla sex once a week, so there's that.

You're still a cheating whore. He probably doesn't do anything because you complain, like you said earlier.

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Anonymous wrote:I either do it myself or hire out. Enough of that bs. I've been married 20 years and I know it won't get done if I leave it to H. I've cried, pleaded, ignored it, mentioned it in counseling. He just doesn't care if the house isn't well maintained. Luckily we can afford to hire a lot of handyman type work out.

Nice dynamic. He must be so thankful he married someone that does everything for him. That's attractive.

Yeah, except I'm screwing around on him because I resent the hell out of him.

Perhaps being a taskmaster instead of a wife has not given him any incentive to get motivated. Oh yeah, being a whore doesn't help either....

I'm not a taskmaster. I do it myself or hire it out. He does virtually nothing. And you know what? He's happy with vanilla sex once a week, so there's that.

You're still a cheating whore. He probably doesn't do anything because you complain, like you said earlier.

Wow, this thread has really devolved...

[Anonymous]

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Yes, same situation here.
DH has untreated ADHD, and is forever procrastinating and late, especially for tasks he's not enthused about.
My goal is to get him treated for his ADHD.

News flash, dear: procrastinating on tasks he's not enthused about has nothing to do with ADHD.

This thread is just another reason to never get married.

Agree with this. When the bitching to blowjob ratio gets too high, motivation goes out the window.

You should be married to me. I give great bjs whenever and don't bitch. I just get 'er done.

Do you need some work done around your house? I'm strong, capable and don't have a beer gut.

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This thread has given me inspiration. Next time my wife is out of town, I'll see if I can get my SIL to do some of the things my wife has been neglecting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I either do it myself or hire out. Enough of that bs. I've been married 20 years and I know it won't get done if I leave it to H. I've cried, pleaded, ignored it, mentioned it in counseling. He just doesn't care if the house isn't well maintained. Luckily we can afford to hire a lot of handyman type work out.

Nice dynamic. He must be so thankful he married someone that does everything for him. That's attractive.

Yeah, except I'm screwing around on him because I resent the hell out of him.

Perhaps being a taskmaster instead of a wife has not given him any incentive to get motivated. Oh yeah, being a whore doesn't help either....

I'm not a taskmaster. I do it myself or hire it out. He does virtually nothing. And you know what? He's happy with vanilla sex once a week, so there's that.

You're still a cheating whore. He probably doesn't do anything because you complain, like you said earlier.

You misunderstand. I used to complain; when it had no other effect than causing tension, I went and found an AP and stopped complaining.

[Anonymous]

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Yes, same situation here.
DH has untreated ADHD, and is forever procrastinating and late, especially for tasks he's not enthused about.
My goal is to get him treated for his ADHD.

News flash, dear: procrastinating on tasks he's not enthused about has nothing to do with ADHD.

This thread is just another reason to never get married.

Agree with this. When the bitching to blowjob ratio gets too high, motivation goes out the window.

You should be married to me. I give great bjs whenever and don't bitch. I just get 'er done.

Do you need some work done around your house? I'm strong, capable and don't have a beer gut.

Yes, I definitely need your help....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread has given me inspiration. Next time my wife is out of town, I'll see if I can get my SIL to do some of the things my wife has been neglecting.

Yeah baby

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Anonymous wrote:I either do it myself or hire out. Enough of that bs. I've been married 20 years and I know it won't get done if I leave it to H. I've cried, pleaded, ignored it, mentioned it in counseling. He just doesn't care if the house isn't well maintained. Luckily we can afford to hire a lot of handyman type work out.

Nice dynamic. He must be so thankful he married someone that does everything for him. That's attractive.

Yeah, except I'm screwing around on him because I resent the hell out of him.

Perhaps being a taskmaster instead of a wife has not given him any incentive to get motivated. Oh yeah, being a whore doesn't help either....

I'm not a taskmaster. I do it myself or hire it out. He does virtually nothing. And you know what? He's happy with vanilla sex once a week, so there's that.

You're still a cheating whore. He probably doesn't do anything because you complain, like you said earlier.

You misunderstand. I used to complain; when it had no other effect than causing tension, I went and found an AP and stopped complaining.

I agree - divorce or AP.
Exactly what a deadweight excuse for a spouse deserves.

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Anonymous wrote:Just hire someone.

You're busy, hence you split the property and household tasks.

You're not moneybags or like wasting money. Tell him to call three handyman for every task and go with the best price or value. Then he hires, schedules and is home to let in the handyman.

You think if he won't just fix the shit himself, he's going to take the initaitive to get a handyman? lol

that's cool, deadweight spouse has trained everyone around him to do everything for him. he claims he's incapable of doing things himself, he's incapable of arranging someone else to do it, he's basically checked out and never should have gotten married. he should have just stayed living with his mommy and daddy; they clearly taught him so very, very well.

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When you say deadweight spouse, do you really mean spouse that won't follow your orders?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you say deadweight spouse, do you really mean spouse that won't follow your orders?

I mean spouse who is a sloppy pig with bad habits, habitually disrespecting himself and everyone else. Two steps fw, one step back.

And no, I don't tell adult-aged people what to do, how to do it, when to do it, etc. I sit back and let them prove themselves, time and time again. They make excuses, they wonder why they have such bad luck, they can't figure out why they keep losing things, they blame others for being late all the time, they blame their earplugs on sleeping in and missing an obligation, they blame their jobs for forgetting to pack what they need for a trip, they can't figure out why their kids stopped going to them when they need something, they wonder how the generator/car/grill/HVAC broke when it wasn't maintained,.. so on and so forth....

Then I make my call about who I want to spend my life with. A deadweight or someone else.