I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another marriage ruined by "feminism". Congrats! Where should I send your medal?

Thanks, Obama!

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You are so smart to be this definitive. I am stuck with separation papers that my STBX won't sign - he puts me down and joins with my kid in the disrespect. I correct the DC but he makes it so much worse.

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Anonymous wrote:Hilarious that these women are cheering you on. Women love to see other women miserable. They are the most jealous creatures on the planet

. Hey moron - we love that she's happy now! Can you read?!

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Anonymous wrote:This happened to me, OP. My ex husband made a racist joke and I was shocked. But I realized that he was going to be the father of my future kids and they might grow up to be racist jerks too. I got out while the getting was good.

sometimes racist jokes are funny, just sayin'.

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what did you cook that didn't 'quite turn out' like you'd hoped it would?

[Anonymous]

Fried canned tuna, obviously!

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No way would I allow that if I was your husband. And I'm a girl. He owns you until the day you are legally divorced. You can't just leave unless he says you can.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you ever had an epiphany about a relationship your in that its just over? I was having dinner with my disrespectful husband and his dysfunctional family. My BIL makes a crack about my cooking and my husband joins in and laughs. I know I can't cook but hey at least I tried. That has always been an issue with H allowing his family to disrespect me and even him going along with it. We have many other problems which I won't go into. I have put up with this for 3 years. I don't know what was different on Sunday but I was just sitting there and I'm like what am I doing here. I don't belong here. In a period of about 3 minutes I came to the conclusion my marriage is over and I no longer love my husband. There is absolutely no way I will have children with this man. This moment was life changing me for. I got up with no drama got my purse and uber took me home. I packed a bag with enough essentials and moved in with my sister. On Monday I saw my BFF who is a divorce attorney and filed for a divorce. My husband was just served today. I am going to be looking at a small house or condo to move into. I feel so happy and free. When I am done typing this I am changing my cell number. My stbx won't stop blasting my phone. I have absolutely nothing to say to him. I am not angry. I just don't want to bother with him. I have felt so damn happy since I left. There is really no point to my post but I wanted to write about it. TY

Perhaps you'd be doing the world a favor by staying single

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I guess you showed him!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm jealous. Once the kids are out of HS I will be free too.

That's sad. Why can't you leave now?

[Anonymous]

Let the haters hate, no one should have to endure misery indefinitely. Once you decide it's over, why drag it out another second?

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Anonymous wrote:It's always the same here in the bitter divorcees forum.

And there's always a DCUMer who tied her entire life to a man, quit her job, became totally dependent and can't even think about not being a Wife.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm jealous. Once the kids are out of HS I will be free too.

That's sad. Why can't you leave now?

Because $.

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Anonymous wrote:I might be the oddball out of the PPs...

Don't you think your husband deserves the decency to at least know why you filed for divorce? I mean you married the guy, and I am sure you have talked with him about his disrespect in the past. But to just leave him at the dinner table, get in an uber, and file seems a little odd, and I would think he at least deserves an explanation.

+1 It sounds like a bit much. I'm kind of shocked at all of the PPs talking like OP's husband is abusive. He made fun of her cooking. Actually, he didn't even make fun of her cooking. He thought it was funny when BIL did. That's worth divorcing over?

I don't know. Maybe my personality is different. My husband and I make fun of each other all of the time. We both have healthy senses of humor and try not to take things like being bad at cooking too seriously.

OP at least could've explained to her husband why she wanted a divorce.

It's also funny because if OP had said that her husband got up from dinner, took an uber home, left, and then filed for divorce with no explanation, all of DCUM would be giving her sympathy and saying, "OMG, the least he could do is give you an explanation!"

Oh FFS. Of course OP is giving him an explanation. He won't get it, because in his mind she's just a crappy cook who doesn't deserve the respect he affords his barber.

This was not one incident, people. It was the straw.

Go in peace, OP. I wish you happiness and strength in the face of women like PPs, who can't imagine the freedom of making a choice just for themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm jealous. Once the kids are out of HS I will be free too.

That's sad. Why can't you leave now?

Because I am a martyr determined to sacrifice my happiness to the alter of mommyhood while teaching my children that marriage is a brutal, unfulfilling, joyless test to be endured until finally the truth can be revealed.

"Happy graduation, DC! Your entire life has been a lie! Enjoy the series of failed, tense and unhappy relationships we trained you to expect!"