I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table

[Anonymous]

Good for you OP! My mother knew very early in her marriage to my dad, well before they had kids, that he was never going to respect her or be kind to her. He wasn't abusive but he always chose being a dick over being kind any chance he had. She's never outright said to us that she wishes she'd left before she had kids but I'm pretty sure she does.

Instead, she stuck by him, being disrespected and generally treated like crap for 36 years, before finally telling him she'd had enough and divorcing him. A selfish part of me is glad she stayed so I could be born. Deep down, though, I wish she'd left so she could have had a chance to be happy with someone who treated her better or just by herself.

[Anonymous]

I'm jealous too. Wish I had stayed single though. Tired of the negativity and insults.

[Anonymous]

Good job!

[Anonymous]

CONGRATS!!!! Good for you!!!! Happy for you!!! Your story was very heart lifting!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the typical starter marriage - good to get out before kids get involved.

[Anonymous]

I'm very happy for you. You deserve respect and an amazing life. Wishing you the best.

[Anonymous]

Happy for you, OP. That took strength.

Some of these other posts are heartbreaking. Counting down the days (years) to finally be free from an unhappy marriage?
Torture.

[Anonymous]

Wow, congrats to your husband on shaking loose a total head case.

[Anonymous]

Start working with a therapist to determine why you married a disrespectful man, and how you can avoid doing it again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, congrats to your husband on shaking loose a total head case.

Obviously you've never been berated to the point of having nothing left.

[Anonymous]

So glad that you figured this out before you had kids! I wish I had had some epithany when I was married to my ex.

[Anonymous]

Had a similar situation to OP. Wife was always nagging and was cold and wouldn't put out. It just wasn't a rewarding marriage. I just left one day, and let me lawyer take care of the divorce. That was that.

[Anonymous]

Congrats, OP! Sounds like a very wise decision.

Have you heard anything from your husband? What was his reaction?

[Anonymous]

Thank goodness there are no kids involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your post actually makes me happy. This sounds like the right outcome for you. I'm in a really good marriage but I am very familiar with disrespectful relationships--they are soul-killing. Way to go!

+1. Enjoy your happiness, OP!