I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table

[Anonymous]

Have you ever had an epiphany about a relationship your in that its just over? I was having dinner with my disrespectful husband and his dysfunctional family. My BIL makes a crack about my cooking and my husband joins in and laughs. I know I can't cook but hey at least I tried. That has always been an issue with H allowing his family to disrespect me and even him going along with it. We have many other problems which I won't go into. I have put up with this for 3 years. I don't know what was different on Sunday but I was just sitting there and I'm like what am I doing here. I don't belong here. In a period of about 3 minutes I came to the conclusion my marriage is over and I no longer love my husband. There is absolutely no way I will have children with this man. This moment was life changing me for. I got up with no drama got my purse and uber took me home. I packed a bag with enough essentials and moved in with my sister. On Monday I saw my BFF who is a divorce attorney and filed for a divorce. My husband was just served today. I am going to be looking at a small house or condo to move into. I feel so happy and free. When I am done typing this I am changing my cell number. My stbx won't stop blasting my phone. I have absolutely nothing to say to him. I am not angry. I just don't want to bother with him. I have felt so damn happy since I left. There is really no point to my post but I wanted to write about it. TY

[Anonymous]

You don't need to change your phone number. Just block him.

[Anonymous]

good for u. thank goodness you discovered this before you had kids with him.

[Anonymous]

Your post actually makes me happy. This sounds like the right outcome for you. I'm in a really good marriage but I am very familiar with disrespectful relationships--they are soul-killing. Way to go!

[Anonymous]

Well, good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:good for u. thank goodness you discovered this before you had kids with him.

Yay! +100. you dodged a bullet!

[Anonymous]

You're welcome. Please take some time to be single, and really think hard about why you let a relationship get so serious as marriage with a man who would make fun of you.

My husband gently teases me, but he would be horrified if he found out it truly upset me, and would never do it again.

[Anonymous]

Way to go OP!

[Anonymous]

Interesting. Not many can tie it up with a bow so easily. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

There is probably more to your decision making process than only this incident. On a similar vein, I filed for divorce after my STBX sided with my asshole father in law during an argument we had at my DD's birthday party. But there were a lot of other issues building up through time.

[Anonymous]

Way to go! And it's a good thing you don't have children!! No man should treat his wife that way. My DH teases me about things but would stop immediately if he knew it upset me. You don't that in your life, OP.

[Anonymous]

Thank good ness you have no kids with him!! Whew!

[Anonymous]

I'm sure your BFF is on it, but make sure your finances and credit cards are protected. Also, if he's your emergency contact on anything, change it right away -- beneficiary status on life insurance/401K too.

[Anonymous]

I'm jealous. Once the kids are out of HS I will be free too.

[Anonymous]

Congrats! You are so much better off.