I realized my marriage was over at the dinner table

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I might be the oddball out of the PPs...

Don't you think your husband deserves the decency to at least know why you filed for divorce? I mean you married the guy, and I am sure you have talked with him about his disrespect in the past. But to just leave him at the dinner table, get in an uber, and file seems a little odd, and I would think he at least deserves an explanation.

+1 It sounds like a bit much. I'm kind of shocked at all of the PPs talking like OP's husband is abusive. He made fun of her cooking. Actually, he didn't even make fun of her cooking. He thought it was funny when BIL did. That's worth divorcing over?

I don't know. Maybe my personality is different. My husband and I make fun of each other all of the time. We both have healthy senses of humor and try not to take things like being bad at cooking too seriously.

OP at least could've explained to her husband why she wanted a divorce.

It's also funny because if OP had said that her husband got up from dinner, took an uber home, left, and then filed for divorce with no explanation, all of DCUM would be giving her sympathy and saying, "OMG, the least he could do is give you an explanation!"

[Anonymous]

Good for you OP!!

[Anonymous]

Hilarious that these women are cheering you on. Women love to see other women miserable. They are the most jealous creatures on the planet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually I think her actions were perfect. She hit her limit and crossed over from being angry/resentful and frustrated into resolved. She was done.

Why does she owe him any type of respectful exit? She didn't throw a tantrum in front of his friend. She simply... left.

Brava.

Because she took a vow to stay with him until death, through sickness and health. Now, sure, that doesn't mean she shouldn't divorce him if she is unhappy or if he mistreats her. But divorce isn't like breaking up with someone you dated a little while. It's severing a vow. Doesn't that mean anything to anyone?

I'm not saying she shouldn't divorce him, but I believe that -- barring fear of physical reprisal and harm -- a spouse (female or male) owes their other spouse an explanation when filing for divorce. It's the adult way to be.

[Anonymous]

It's always the same here in the bitter divorcees forum.

[Anonymous]

Kiss any shot at a fair division of marital assets goodbye!

The judge won't have your back when he hears how you abandoned your husband and refused to speak with him. I'd be worried.

[Anonymous]

Those of you who are jumping on OP and trying to make this about cooking or the snide comments, re-read her original statement. She clearly says there's way more to it and that this was just the straw that broke the camel's back. She doesn't owe it to us to tell us the whole saga.

OP, congratulations. I too left a very bad relationship. It went on for years, and I tried and tried and tried to make it work. Every day was walking on eggshells. Then, like you, I just hit a wall. Left and didn't look back after some stupid small fight. Best decision I ever made. Very happily married now to a kind and smart man who is a great father to our kids. Wishing you the very best!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another marriage ruined by "feminism". Congrats! Where should I send your medal?

Thanks, Obama!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Actually I think her actions were perfect. She hit her limit and crossed over from being angry/resentful and frustrated into resolved. She was done.

Why does she owe him any type of respectful exit? She didn't throw a tantrum in front of his friend. She simply... left.

Brava.

What if OP was a man?

What would be different if she were a man?

Everyone would throw rocks at him for abandoning his wife without any communication.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kiss any shot at a fair division of marital assets goodbye!

The judge won't have your back when he hears how you abandoned your husband and refused to speak with him. I'd be worried.

probably not much in assets to divide; I doubt she really cares about this very much.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kiss any shot at a fair division of marital assets goodbye!

The judge won't have your back when he hears how you abandoned your husband and refused to speak with him. I'd be worried.

probably not much in assets to divide; I doubt she really cares about this very much.

She might if her STBX tries to draw it out. Her legal fees will grow. Heck, he could potentially go after her to cover his legal fees. You can't just abandon your spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might be the oddball out of the PPs...

Don't you think your husband deserves the decency to at least know why you filed for divorce? I mean you married the guy, and I am sure you have talked with him about his disrespect in the past. But to just leave him at the dinner table, get in an uber, and file seems a little odd, and I would think he at least deserves an explanation.

+1 It sounds like a bit much. I'm kind of shocked at all of the PPs talking like OP's husband is abusive. He made fun of her cooking. Actually, he didn't even make fun of her cooking. He thought it was funny when BIL did. That's worth divorcing over?

I don't know. Maybe my personality is different. My husband and I make fun of each other all of the time. We both have healthy senses of humor and try not to take things like being bad at cooking too seriously.

OP at least could've explained to her husband why she wanted a divorce.

It's also funny because if OP had said that her husband got up from dinner, took an uber home, left, and then filed for divorce with no explanation, all of DCUM would be giving her sympathy and saying, "OMG, the least he could do is give you an explanation!"

+1. At this point she can contact him and have an adult conversation about why things ended. I think that would be more appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kiss any shot at a fair division of marital assets goodbye!

The judge won't have your back when he hears how you abandoned your husband and refused to speak with him. I'd be worried.

probably not much in assets to divide; I doubt she really cares about this very much.

She might if her STBX tries to draw it out. Her legal fees will grow. Heck, he could potentially go after her to cover his legal fees. You can't just abandon your spouse.

I think you can. No fault state, right? And no real issues with division of property since they likely haven't amassed much in assets. Obviously she doesn't care about that.

[Anonymous]

Great job. So glad you don't have kids. You dodged a bullet!