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DH is never getting out of the doghouse for this...
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Anonymous
So, that's what it's about then, that your husband takes you for granted, rather than the nature of the gift he gave you for your birthday. Perhaps if he didn't take you for granted, you would care so much that he gave you a lousy gift on your b'day. |
Anonymous
Who are you jackasses who are being so mean to the OP? Just because you have issues doesn't mean OP is the same your own mean old mommy, people. Her husband took zero time and interest in her birthday despite the fact that she takes lots of time with his. Why is it wrong that she was upset? She's not angry with the children, and some of you did not read that her children did NOT pick out the gifts (she has already clarified that). OP, my husband IS considerate of me, but I still empathize with you. These women are pathological creeps who get a kick out of hurting someone. They are the type to kick people when they're down and then spend hours on some therapists couch wasting their families' money talking about how mommy ruined their lives and then go out into the world and project their own problems all over everyone else. Not that I have an opinion of that or anything! 
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Anonymous
Not the OP, but did it really take you so long to figure this out? While everybody was attacking the OP for being demanding, or a bad mother for crying in front of her kids, or worse than a six year old, or writing similarly awful things, I read the first post for what it was - a mom who has been married to the same guy for several years, and who has communicated to her husband how important birthdays are for her, and who is still organizing and planning her own birthday parties, and whose husband can't be bothered to spend a little time finding a good gift, or planning ahead to get a cake. OP - I feel for you. It's not about the presents - he should have known what you would have liked, and should have taken time to get it for you. |
Anonymous
Oh for the love of all that is good and holy, then get yourself to counseling and stop subjecting your poor children to these stupid childish games where Daddy feels demoralized and Mommy is sobbing into her dinner when she doesn't get acceptable jewelry. OP, it's been TWELVE YEARS. This is who you are married to. Either embrace him or let him go. Your kids will be healthier not having to watch this pathetic show. |
Anonymous
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This is a really strange thread. Is it just one angry person who is set on telling the OP that she's pathetic, or are there really this many mean people on DCUM today.
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Anonymous
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OP, I just laughed at the mean poster. That's really funny. There's always a troll on these threads. Thanks for the nice posts, nice posters. From the outside, it probably does look pathetic. That's what's funny.
BTW, I do feel badly for crying in front of the kids. My kids do this all the time. But I'm a lot older. I ought to have held on and cried in private. We're all entitled to our little breakdowns from time to time. DH is still in the doghouse (didn't any of you see that JC Penny web ad? I loved it, and so did DH, ironically) -- lots of quiche and lattes for him. |
Anonymous
No, it's not just one person. It is many. And OP would be wise to read those posts seriously because this is a sad situation she's in. I don't think the posters are mean, I just think many are puzzled. |
Anonymous
Ditto. I'm a new poster and I am incredulous -- it seems like really controlling, yet childish behavior on OP's part. I'm sorry you didn't get the birthday you wanted, but I am surprised by your response (the crying, the lack of appreciation even though your husband bought you gifts from the store you directed him to). Clearly there are deeper issues here. If my husband micromanaged his birthday like you do yours, I'd probably be much less inclined to make an independent effort - since it doesn't seem like it would be appreciated anyway unless I were a mind-reader, which I'm not. |
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I have to say that I was one of the first posters here (and have only posted once) who thought OP was overreacting. I am not trying to be mean to her, but I do find her behaviour a little out of hand. I mean - it has now been what? 2-3 days and she is STILL upset? Getting crappy birthday presents just doesn't rise to the level of crying in front of kids/being angry for days...
I actually feel bad for OP. More than anything, I thought she sounded a little tired and a little fed up, but also passive aggressive and controlling. I think that after 12 years, perhaps her husband feels like nothing he can do will make her happy, so why really put any effort into it? I'm not saying that is what it is, but that is the sense I got from OP's messages. I had one of those mothers too. A mom who wanted everything her way and micro-managed everything she could. I suspect she did this partly b/c she had no economic power and my father is just one of those people who pointed that out to her every now and again. I think she just tried to control what she could... In any case, I also remember my mother giving us all the silent treatment when things didn't go according to her plan. Her moods completely ruled our family. I'm not saying OP is like that...but it sounds a little familiar to me. Trust me OP - let these things go...it is not worth it when looking at the big picture. |
Anonymous
Let me see - you mention people with Mommy issues twice in one post, and then talk about other people projecting. Hello pot, meet kettle. |
Anonymous
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I have to say... Read the Five Love Languages as well.
I feel like a broken record, I recommend it so much. But it is that worth it and it can help you to understand the different styles of your husband and yourself. |
Anonymous
But I bet you thanked them and really loved it. OP is an example of how not to behave or act. |
Anonymous
Wait... it wasn't about cute gloves with bows and flip flops with flowers or romantic candles or purses or thank you notes? Yes it was... if it wasn't you would not have spent so much time vividly describing all the cute kitchy girly girl items sold at the store you sent your DH to. You are who you are and you cannot expect people to be like you because you think they should... |
Anonymous
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Wow. Let's just all take a deep breath here and back off the OP.
This thread is like THE BIRTHDAY SENSITIVE VS. THE REST OF US |
Anonymous
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Okay, I am seriously trying to do a survey.
How many of the nasty posters and OP is having pms? I am serious...it just sounds like they are ... |