Would you be a sugar baby?

[Anonymous]

I'd rather be a hooker and choose what man I'd be sexing with. I'm picky.

[Anonymous]

A loan from this guy is a great idea. What do you think OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a professional woman with two graduate degrees in her early 40s with loans and credit card bills that were used to support my basic living expenses in my 20s (rent, books, etc.) that I feel I will never, ever, ever get out from underneath of, I say go for it. I am shackled with debt even though I've had a job since I was 13 and I don't live beyond my means. But I have gotten a great education and lived in more expensive cities and, like you, have made something of myself despite my poverty-stricken childhood with a mentally ill single parent. My only regret is that I didn't do something like this when I was younger. And you really have none of the concerns that would worry me--trying to establish this relationship with a stranger, trying to do this with someone you found physically revolting or someone whose company you didn't enjoy. He's a nice guy who you already know isn't a freak. He's ok in bed. He's done this before. GO FOR IT.

But, I really would just embrace it and do it right. Screw feeling too morally shy to get a good deal for yourself. If you're doing it, do it smart. Tuition PLUS other stuff--not "gifts" and not cash. Tangible stuff. Like rent. And have it paid in advance (it will help take out the transactional nature of it). And you two need a real conversation re: whether you are permitted to date others and also talk birth control and STD protection. And have an end date. It will be helpful to you both. The exit is the thing that could get really, really messy. For both of you. What if you want out and he doesn't? Vice versa. Have clear conversations now so it's workable when it ends. And good luck.

And when it's over, don't look back. You are alone in this world. You did what you needed to do and it doesn't have to define who you will be later.

Why don't you prostitute yourself today to pay off your debts then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did this recently and have been regretting it. I don't suggest this.

What happened? Why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you do it, please blog daily about it.

Haha, why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this recently and have been regretting it. I don't suggest this.

Is this Kept Woman?

No, I met guys through seeking arrangement. Got my tuition fully paid off. I just think money changes everything. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone.

Why wouldn't you recommend it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this recently and have been regretting it. I don't suggest this.

x2.

NOT worth the money, that's all I can say.

Did the X2 poster also regret it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't sell your body, OP. It sounds like you've had a lot of challenges and I know it sucks to be poor, but keep brainstorming for other options (other/better jobs, loans, different school, cheaper city to live in.) Some colleges are willing to give lots of grant money for good students. There has to be a better way and I'm sure you can figure something out. Be confident, respect your ability to master your current challenges without doing something you may regret and/or you won't feel proud of and may want to lie about. Good luck! You'll figure this out!

Thanks but with my degree program I can't switch schools, especially with only a year left. I just need to get through this year and get a job in my field. I will be making decent money then ( $120-130k).

OK, so if he's willing to front the money for your tuition (even without sex, so you claim) why not have him just provide you a no interest loan that you can pay back legitimately? Doesn't cost him any more, and you don't have to pay for it with your body and self respect.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you do it, please blog daily about it.

Haha, why?

Everybody loves someone else's train wreck. And there's no way the OP's train will make it all the way to the destination without some fantastic derailment somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a professional woman with two graduate degrees in her early 40s with loans and credit card bills that were used to support my basic living expenses in my 20s (rent, books, etc.) that I feel I will never, ever, ever get out from underneath of, I say go for it. I am shackled with debt even though I've had a job since I was 13 and I don't live beyond my means. But I have gotten a great education and lived in more expensive cities and, like you, have made something of myself despite my poverty-stricken childhood with a mentally ill single parent. My only regret is that I didn't do something like this when I was younger. And you really have none of the concerns that would worry me--trying to establish this relationship with a stranger, trying to do this with someone you found physically revolting or someone whose company you didn't enjoy. He's a nice guy who you already know isn't a freak. He's ok in bed. He's done this before. GO FOR IT.

But, I really would just embrace it and do it right. Screw feeling too morally shy to get a good deal for yourself. If you're doing it, do it smart. Tuition PLUS other stuff--not "gifts" and not cash. Tangible stuff. Like rent. And have it paid in advance (it will help take out the transactional nature of it). And you two need a real conversation re: whether you are permitted to date others and also talk birth control and STD protection. And have an end date. It will be helpful to you both. The exit is the thing that could get really, really messy. For both of you. What if you want out and he doesn't? Vice versa. Have clear conversations now so it's workable when it ends. And good luck.

And when it's over, don't look back. You are alone in this world. You did what you needed to do and it doesn't have to define who you will be later.

Totally agree.
THIS is the advice you need to take, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this recently and have been regretting it. I don't suggest this.

x2.

NOT worth the money, that's all I can say.

Did the X2 poster also regret it?

Yes I did regret it. And the guy was attractive and nice.

I actually think it gave me really bad trust issues and possibly PTSD. It's just weird, reducing your value down to just sex. I thought I was fine with it at first and over time I realized how upset I was. Has taken a long time to heal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a professional woman with two graduate degrees in her early 40s with loans and credit card bills that were used to support my basic living expenses in my 20s (rent, books, etc.) that I feel I will never, ever, ever get out from underneath of, I say go for it. I am shackled with debt even though I've had a job since I was 13 and I don't live beyond my means. But I have gotten a great education and lived in more expensive cities and, like you, have made something of myself despite my poverty-stricken childhood with a mentally ill single parent. My only regret is that I didn't do something like this when I was younger. And you really have none of the concerns that would worry me--trying to establish this relationship with a stranger, trying to do this with someone you found physically revolting or someone whose company you didn't enjoy. He's a nice guy who you already know isn't a freak. He's ok in bed. He's done this before. GO FOR IT.

But, I really would just embrace it and do it right. Screw feeling too morally shy to get a good deal for yourself. If you're doing it, do it smart. Tuition PLUS other stuff--not "gifts" and not cash. Tangible stuff. Like rent. And have it paid in advance (it will help take out the transactional nature of it). And you two need a real conversation re: whether you are permitted to date others and also talk birth control and STD protection. And have an end date. It will be helpful to you both. The exit is the thing that could get really, really messy. For both of you. What if you want out and he doesn't? Vice versa. Have clear conversations now so it's workable when it ends. And good luck.

And when it's over, don't look back. You are alone in this world. You did what you needed to do and it doesn't have to define who you will be later.

Totally agree.
THIS is the advice you need to take, OP.

No one HAS to be a prostitute

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a professional woman with two graduate degrees in her early 40s with loans and credit card bills that were used to support my basic living expenses in my 20s (rent, books, etc.) that I feel I will never, ever, ever get out from underneath of, I say go for it. I am shackled with debt even though I've had a job since I was 13 and I don't live beyond my means. But I have gotten a great education and lived in more expensive cities and, like you, have made something of myself despite my poverty-stricken childhood with a mentally ill single parent. My only regret is that I didn't do something like this when I was younger. And you really have none of the concerns that would worry me--trying to establish this relationship with a stranger, trying to do this with someone you found physically revolting or someone whose company you didn't enjoy. He's a nice guy who you already know isn't a freak. He's ok in bed. He's done this before. GO FOR IT.

But, I really would just embrace it and do it right. Screw feeling too morally shy to get a good deal for yourself. If you're doing it, do it smart. Tuition PLUS other stuff--not "gifts" and not cash. Tangible stuff. Like rent. And have it paid in advance (it will help take out the transactional nature of it). And you two need a real conversation re: whether you are permitted to date others and also talk birth control and STD protection. And have an end date. It will be helpful to you both. The exit is the thing that could get really, really messy. For both of you. What if you want out and he doesn't? Vice versa. Have clear conversations now so it's workable when it ends. And good luck.

And when it's over, don't look back. You are alone in this world. You did what you needed to do and it doesn't have to define who you will be later.

Totally agree.
THIS is the advice you need to take, OP.

No one HAS to be a prostitute

True. A surprising number of people manage to attend and graduate from college without resorting to prostitution. Every year.

OP, this isn't the only way you can finish school. It's merely the easy way. If you're OK with that then have at it. It's your life and your decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this recently and have been regretting it. I don't suggest this.

Is this Kept Woman?

No, I met guys through seeking arrangement. Got my tuition fully paid off. I just think money changes everything. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone.

Why wouldn't you recommend it?

Personally, I'd advise good friends to stay away from a scene in which men pay women to explicitly cater to their needs, physical, emotional, or otherwise . They will expect all kinds of stuff in bed. Are you comfortable giving him bjs every time you have sex? It's not an equal relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this recently and have been regretting it. I don't suggest this.

Is this Kept Woman?

No, I met guys through seeking arrangement. Got my tuition fully paid off. I just think money changes everything. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone.

Why wouldn't you recommend it?

Personally, I'd advise good friends to stay away from a scene in which men pay women to explicitly cater to their needs, physical, emotional, or otherwise . They will expect all kinds of stuff in bed. Are you comfortable giving him bjs every time you have sex? It's not an equal relationship.

I agree. I would do it--but only for free.