Would you be a sugar baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aside from all the moral issues, I reiterate -- you would be getting seriously under compensated with this arrangement. Honestly, the going rate for this type of thing is more like 70K annually. Don't undervalue yourself.

I googled "going rate for call girls" and determined that OP should be getting $500 a trick. So if this skanky rich guy wants it three times a week he should be paying $1500 per week for her services. Given two weeks off, that's 50 weeks x $1500 = $75,000 per year.

So PP, you're actually very close.

Is this a high end grad school OP? If you're talking a year and a half you should be getting $110,000 in cash and gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aside from all the moral issues, I reiterate -- you would be getting seriously under compensated with this arrangement. Honestly, the going rate for this type of thing is more like 70K annually. Don't undervalue yourself.

I googled "going rate for call girls" and determined that OP should be getting $500 a trick. So if this skanky rich guy wants it three times a week he should be paying $1500 per week for her services. Given two weeks off, that's 50 weeks x $1500 = $75,000 per year.

So PP, you're actually very close.

Is this a high end grad school OP? If you're talking a year and a half you should be getting $110,000 in cash and gifts.

This is what I charge my sugar daddy. He also takes me shopping once a month. We usually go to Nordstrom and spend $500 each time. He's 31, cute and little neardy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was not sure in which forum to post. I am a struggling grad student. I make around 25k a year and a portion if school is covered by loans. I was the victim identity theft ( credit cards) so I do not qualify for a lot of student loans. I'm currently single and plan to be for some time. I have an older friend who is widowed, attractive, and wealthy. He has always been trying to date/sleep with me for a long time. This weekend he proposed we have a mutual arrangement, much like a sugar baby. He will handle tuition for my last 1.5 years and I will go to dinner, movies, and be intimate a few times a week. It's so enticing for a 25 year old. I love sex and my money problems will be taken care of. OTOH, I worry I'm disrespectful myself. WWYD?

I don't see a problem with this. You are both adults entering into a mutually beneficial agreement.

[Anonymous]

I would sleep with him to see if you could find it enjoyable. If you can't enjoy yourself, I would say no to the arrangement. I can't imagine sleeping with someone I'm not attracted to.

[Anonymous]

What did you decide, OP ?

[Anonymous]

I can understand some guy getting off on being seen with a much younger woman and through paying for her school having some kind of control fantasy. But seriously, if these men are so successful, why can't they meet a grown woman and have a relationship that is based on mutual respect and interests? What do they have, zero social skills unless it is set up like a concubine? I realize that paying for sex is the world's oldest profession, but this type of thing where it is a continuing situation is just weird at some level.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can understand some guy getting off on being seen with a much younger woman and through paying for her school having some kind of control fantasy. But seriously, if these men are so successful, why can't they meet a grown woman and have a relationship that is based on mutual respect and interests? What do they have, zero social skills unless it is set up like a concubine? I realize that paying for sex is the world's oldest profession, but this type of thing where it is a continuing situation is just weird at some level.

Bingo. And widowed at 37? What's that back story?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can understand some guy getting off on being seen with a much younger woman and through paying for her school having some kind of control fantasy. But seriously, if these men are so successful, why can't they meet a grown woman and have a relationship that is based on mutual respect and interests? What do they have, zero social skills unless it is set up like a concubine? I realize that paying for sex is the world's oldest profession, but this type of thing where it is a continuing situation is just weird at some level.

I imagine that sometimes sugar daddies are probably older married men who want a nice young thing on the side and have figured out that it's safer to have on ongoing relationship with one girl.

In the OP's case I sense what is happening here is that the guy (single, with money) actually is interested in the OP (he's pursued her before) but she's not returning his interest, so he's decide to buy her. Pretty sad if you think about it. This guy would rather pay OP to pretend to like him rather than meeting a woman who actually would. I see this ending badly.

[Anonymous]

I'm wondering if this is a troll. OP seems to have disappeared.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you do this, will you still be able to keep your self respect? This is the only thing that matters.

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn't but then again, I have self respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can understand some guy getting off on being seen with a much younger woman and through paying for her school having some kind of control fantasy. But seriously, if these men are so successful, why can't they meet a grown woman and have a relationship that is based on mutual respect and interests? What do they have, zero social skills unless it is set up like a concubine? I realize that paying for sex is the world's oldest profession, but this type of thing where it is a continuing situation is just weird at some level.

I imagine that sometimes sugar daddies are probably older married men who want a nice young thing on the side and have figured out that it's safer to have on ongoing relationship with one girl.

In the OP's case I sense what is happening here is that the guy (single, with money) actually is interested in the OP (he's pursued her before) but she's not returning his interest, so he's decide to buy her. Pretty sad if you think about it. This guy would rather pay OP to pretend to like him rather than meeting a woman who actually would. I see this ending badly.

Yes, very common. Money also makes the relationship feel less serious. Most likely she won't try to blackmail him later. I had a married sugar daddy in undergrad and it worked out well for me. He was nice, super cute and didn't take up too much of my time. Win win.

[Anonymous]

I use SA a lot. I'm stunned how many ladies are on it. I get 2 - 3 responses a day. And they're really cute and nice.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are basically asking if its ok to be a prostitute and you know what, as long as you go in knowing exactly what you are doing, I think its ok. I am a 45 year old married woman, btw, and i think sex work is like any other work.

The one thing that I would suggest that that you are crystal clear up front what it is that he expects in return for paying your tuition and I mean try to get real specific. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

So here's my question, do these arrangements 99% of the time involve full intercourse? I once read somewhere that a major reason men spend money on call girls isn't to get the world's greatest bj, but want someone to talk to.