Would you be a sugar baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I would turn it down flat if it were a stranger, but I've known his guys for years. We discussed that he will pay my tuition and I would get gifts, without me feeling like I actually getting cash in hand for our arrangement. It would be 1-2 times a week when he is in town ( travels 1-2 weeks a month).

This arrangement can end whenever I want it to. He has done this once before a couple years back. Honestly I've been struggling badly and I've had to put off school before to save money to pay. I don't want to do that again.

To the pp - Have you been through identity theft? I had a family member take out CC in my name before I even had my own CC. I was just able to get a CC to build credit. Getting negative marks with no credit to start off is really bad. I do not qualify for financial aid or pell grants. The student loans want a co-signer but I have no one willing to co-sign. The ones I do have only cover half tuition, and I was able to obtain w.o a credit check. Trust me, I've exhausted all options for years. I know what I'm talking about.

Get government loans, not private ones.

I've tried. I need a co-signer which I do not have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again for a little more background. My dad passed when I was younger, my mom is a dead beat mother who is bi-polar and never gave a damn. I was raised by my step-dad but he refuses to help me or my siblings out. He is only paying tuition for his bio daughter, though I've been raised by him since I was 6.

I live in NY which is so expensive.

Do what you wish but don't sugarcoat what you're doing. You can call it a sugar baby all you want, but you're simply prostituting yourself.

If you're OK with that concept then go ahead. But don't lie to yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP, I say go for it. I've known a lot of young women that have married/shacked up with men for relationships that are "mutually beneficial" for each party (she's beautiful, he's well-off) and I don't see what you're proposing as much different. Few relationships are formed out of "purity" on anyone's behalf - in almost all of them, all parties involved have an agenda. If it works for you, do it.

FWIW I have struggled, in the ways you've described, and really there's nothing "liberating" about it. If there's a better way, I say seize upon it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did this recently and have been regretting it. I don't suggest this.

Is this Kept Woman?

[Anonymous]

I had offers like this when I was young, and I refused. It made my skin crawl just thinking about it, and I knew immediately that I personally don't have it in me to do this kind of thing. I was broke, too, so it's not about that issue. No judgments on anyone. Just look deep within yourself before you take this kind of step.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did this recently and have been regretting it. I don't suggest this.

Is this Kept Woman?

No, I met guys through seeking arrangement. Got my tuition fully paid off. I just think money changes everything. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone.

[Anonymous]

I am very much a prude. But this is nothing more than a friend with benefit with more benefits.

You know him, you care for him. You don't love him or want to spend the rest of your life with him.

I think you need an exit plan but otherwise go for it.

[Anonymous]

Should you be a hooker? No.

[Anonymous]

How old is he? Close to your dad's age? Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am very much a prude. But this is nothing more than a friend with benefit with more benefits.

You know him, you care for him. You don't love him or want to spend the rest of your life with him.

I think you need an exit plan but otherwise go for it.

No, Friends with Benefits is not one person paying another person for sex. That's called something else.

The question is, would she have a sexual relationship with this man absent the cash? If the answer is no, then...

[Anonymous]

Why don't you get married to him. Finish your education, then figure out if you want to continue this relationship or not?

[Anonymous]

Yep but I an greedy and have loose morals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I would turn it down flat if it were a stranger, but I've known his guys for years. We discussed that he will pay my tuition and I would get gifts, without me feeling like I actually getting cash in hand for our arrangement. It would be 1-2 times a week when he is in town ( travels 1-2 weeks a month).

This arrangement can end whenever I want it to. He has done this once before a couple years back. Honestly I've been struggling badly and I've had to put off school before to save money to pay. I don't want to do that again.

To the pp - Have you been through identity theft? I had a family member take out CC in my name before I even had my own CC. I was just able to get a CC to build credit. Getting negative marks with no credit to start off is really bad. I do not qualify for financial aid or pell grants. The student loans want a co-signer but I have no one willing to co-sign. The ones I do have only cover half tuition, and I was able to obtain w.o a credit check. Trust me, I've exhausted all options for years. I know what I'm talking about.

Serious question but how is this different than prostitution?

oh stop it with the judgment. Most marriages are glorified prostitution.

[Anonymous]

OP here. He is 37 and 24 years younger than my dad. I've had sex with him twice before during drunk hookups. I tend it like older men ( 30-40) so the age difference is no issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had offers like this when I was young, and I refused. It made my skin crawl just thinking about it, and I knew immediately that I personally don't have it in me to do this kind of thing. I was broke, too, so it's not about that issue. No judgments on anyone. Just look deep within yourself before you take this kind of step.

But you probably still slept with a bunch of guys who did not love you or even care that much about you.