Fourth Date Silence
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Anonymous
Weekdays are perfectly fine for the first few days. After date three or four you need to move to the weekend though |
Anonymous
| Recounting your make out sessions and whether or not they included groping is creepy and doesn't mean anything. Sometimes a woman will make out with a guy because she is bored and he is there. Sometimes it's her way of testing physical chemistry. It really doesn't mean anything and doesn't have a place in your analysis of how she feels about you. |
Anonymous
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It looks to me as if she is peeved because you need to pick up your (Female) cousin. So she is acting this way in the hope that you will always put her #1 and on a high pedestal.
She sounds incredibly selfish to me and I wouldn't reach out to her anymore. If she wants a fifth date, let her contact you. |
Anonymous
| I am in my 50s and based on this whole online and texting thing, I would rather drink caster oil than ever date again. Between this FWB stuff and talks about being exclusive, does anyone ever meet and date a person and get serious? it sounds like one continuous game. |
Anonymous
| Huh? I only read the first few days but why do you think she is not interested? Maybe she just wants to go out on a different night. |
Anonymous
Male or female ? I am in my 50s and asked women out in person and got to experience both the excitement and disappointment in living color, eye to eye. But it was over 20 years ago. This seems cold and impersonal. Sure seems like everybody is coning each other. Everything is a transaction |
Anonymous
| Wait so should OP have asked her on her last date POLITELY, hey we are on date 4. Are we going anywhere with this relationship if not its OK, but I'd like to know? I keep hearing that is way to weird to ask a girl that soon. But you guys are saying be direct. |
Anonymous
| So, OP, did she ever text back? |
Anonymous
| So, OP, did she ever text back? |
Anonymous
| Oops sorry for double post. |
Anonymous
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OP here, she actually did text me back but many hours later. Which to me is not normal behavior for her. I sent her a friendly message a few hours later. Was out to dinner with same cousin whose in town for 10 days with her husband. Haven't heard back yet, but I do know she has lost interest.
You don't go four weeks of replaying within an hour or less of each text to all of a sudden 8 hour gaps. To everyone here I suggested a weekday date since she is again out of town this weekend. That she told me weeks ago as well so I don't think this is an excuse. |
Anonymous
| Congrats man - consider this your rebound. |
Anonymous
What did she say in her text? |
Anonymous
| Thanks! What surprised me is the wide variety of opinions everyone here has of how to deal with the situation. It was interesting. |
Anonymous
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Way late to this thread but for next time op maintain radio silence. Yes it's silly and bullshit game playing but if she's not interested your text doesn't change that, and if she is interested she will respond and you won't seem desperate; if she is on the fence she may see it as a challenge and it might push her to pursue a bit. You can figure out down the road if she's worth the game playing
For some reason many women are attracted to indifference |