Who are all these people getting divorced?

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Anonymous wrote:Poor kids who get married at 20 when they find out they are pregnant.

Those people aren't getting married anymore. We can thank generous welfare benefits, feminism and shitty job prospects for non-college educated males.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, the 50% divorce rate includes all marriages. The rate for first marriages is lower, because the rates for second, third, etc. marriages is sky high.

The 50% divorce rate is a complete myth.

The actual rate of divorce is under 30% and falling.

Complete garbage.

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Anonymous wrote:In my circle, one friend has divorced. Marriage was definitely a mistake for them because they were divorced less than a year after they were married. I have another friend who had an affair, moved out but now has reconciled with her husband so they are still together for now. Both couples were childless.

Most of my married friends have kids between the ages of 3-10. None of my close friends with kids have divorced.

Her DH is a pathetic wuss.

And she definitely made some bad choices. To my knowledge, he still doesn't know about the affair. The affair was with a co-worker and he thought she moved out for other reasons. They were having a number of different problems. It's a mess either way and I haven't been updated on the situation in a few months. Personally, my hunch is that she is afraid to be alone and chickened out on leaving him (the AP told her he would never leave his wife) and he took her back because he doesn't know the whole story.

FWIW, all of my divorced friends (or nearly divorced friends in this case) are lawyers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 40, DH is 45, grad degrees, most friends married late-ish. None of the e.g. 20-25 couples we know fairly well have divorced. I think this is not atypical for this type of cohort. A couple acquaintances/friends-of-friends have got divorced but I (obviously given the nature of the "relationship") do not know the details.

The demographics on here still have kids in school. Once the kids hit high school and definitely college lots divorce. Until then lots miserable and or cheating

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Anonymous wrote:I think it isn't as common because women will lose a lot of their enviable lifestyle. They will be the ones who post in the money forum that they just want live on $250K when they are used to living on much more.

LOL, these are the ones that stay in their shitty marriages because they can't stand the thought of downgrading from the McLean mansion to the 1BR apt in South Arlington.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorce destroys wealth

Why is divorce so expensive? Because it's worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in my mid 30's and the majority of the people in my circle are Mid 30's to Mid 40's. We all are educated with advanced degrees and are middle to upper class. Although no one in our circle is divorced yet, more than half of the couples are living in miserable marriages. It only has to be a matter of time before someone is the first to make the plunge. When we all get together the women all complain about the husbands and the husbands all complain about the wives (according to my DH). Many of the marriages are sexless an emotionally lonely. I honestly only know of one happily married couple in the group! I think many of them don't see anyway out of it, financially or because kids are involved. The situations I hear about really do make me very sad, as we all are fairly young to be living such miserable lives. It is really amazing to me how much my view of marriage has changed the older I have gotten and the more I see. The bottom line is that just because you are not seeing the divorces happening in your group, does not mean these couples don't dream about divorcing daily!

Oh man, getting the brass ring and doing what society deems proper sounds like such a great deal. Where do I sign up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: The situations I hear about really do make me very sad, as we all are fairly young to be living such miserable lives.

Doesn't make me sad at all, they deserve to suffer. They all thought they were doing the "right thing," and now they are learning the hard way.

Hope it was worth it.

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To the people on here claiming everyone in their cohort is so wonderfully happily married - I wonder who are all these people on Ashley Madison, why are so many people on dating sites married and why whenever I go on a business trip your married husband tries to hit on me?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it isn't as common because women will lose a lot of their enviable lifestyle. They will be the ones who post in the money forum that they just want live on $250K when they are used to living on much more.

LOL, these are the ones that stay in their shitty marriages because they can't stand the thought of downgrading from the McLean mansion to the 1BR apt in South Arlington.

That goes for the men too. I think many more people would be divorced if maintaining two households was feasible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: The situations I hear about really do make me very sad, as we all are fairly young to be living such miserable lives.

Doesn't make me sad at all, they deserve to suffer. They all thought they were doing the "right thing," and now they are learning the hard way.

Hope it was worth it.

Why exactly do they deserve to suffer?

[Anonymous]

It's cheaper to keep her.....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: The situations I hear about really do make me very sad, as we all are fairly young to be living such miserable lives.

Doesn't make me sad at all, they deserve to suffer. They all thought they were doing the "right thing," and now they are learning the hard way.

Hope it was worth it.

Why exactly do they deserve to suffer?

Yes, why do they deserve to suffer because their marriages are not working out? It does not mean that at one point in time it was the "right thing" and now it is not. I don't get your comment?

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LOL, these are the ones that stay in their shitty marriages because they can't stand the thought of downgrading from the McLean mansion to the 1BR apt in South Arlington.

That goes for the men too. I think many more people would be divorced if maintaining two households was feasible.

Why would the men give a shit? They're the breadwinners. It's the women who downgrade to shittier homes because they're the ones bringing $40k to the $500k party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's cheaper to keep her.....

It's cheaper to not "keep her" in the first place.