I slept with another man and am consumed with guilt

[Anonymous]

Was the sex any good?

Who carries condoms on a biz trip?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm actually impressed that the OP isn't trying to claim that she was "raped" as a way to avoid responsibility. That's what a lot of younger women do now when they get drunk and have sex.

You keep saying that. Why?

I'm going to guess it's simple stupidity.

[Anonymous]

I would lean towards telling only because it gives the other man too much power not to do so. What if this guy chooses to blackmail Op or uses this as an opportunity to exert some sort of control over her at work or even to pressure her to do it again . Op is now completely at the mercy of this person that she admittedly Does Not Even Know to keep a lid on what happened. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. Maybe he's as mortified as she is, maybe he isn't.

Op made a mistake. If it were me I would come clean about it.

[Anonymous]

Why are you posting on here? I mean couldn't DH figure this out. Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was the sex any good?

Who carries condoms on a biz trip?

Yeah, where'd you get the rubbers? Most married folks don't carry them around on business, and if you had to stop off at a pharmacy or other store to buy them it kind of throws out the old I was drunk and not thinking excuse.

In any case, I noted above, you really need to tell your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Who carries condoms on a biz trip?

I do (not kidding), just in case I get drunk and have sex with a stranger. The way I look at it, better to have protection than not, just in case it happens. I don't go looking for it, but I've also been on many business trips/conferences where the combination of free drinks, everyone staying in the same hotel, makes for a risky situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Who carries condoms on a biz trip?

I do (not kidding), just in case I get drunk and have sex with a stranger. The way I look at it, better to have protection than not, just in case it happens. I don't go looking for it, but I've also been on many business trips/conferences where the combination of free drinks, everyone staying in the same hotel, makes for a risky situation.

Winner!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Who carries condoms on a biz trip?

I do (not kidding), just in case I get drunk and have sex with a stranger. The way I look at it, better to have protection than not, just in case it happens. I don't go looking for it, but I've also been on many business trips/conferences where the combination of free drinks, everyone staying in the same hotel, makes for a risky situation.

OK. Assuming you're not the OP, are you married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Who carries condoms on a biz trip?

I do (not kidding), just in case I get drunk and have sex with a stranger. The way I look at it, better to have protection than not, just in case it happens. I don't go looking for it, but I've also been on many business trips/conferences where the combination of free drinks, everyone staying in the same hotel, makes for a risky situation.

Are you a man or a woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was the sex any good?

Who carries condoms on a biz trip?

Yeah, where'd you get the rubbers? Most married folks don't carry them around on business, and if you had to stop off at a pharmacy or other store to buy them it kind of throws out the old I was drunk and not thinking excuse.

In any case, I noted above, you really need to tell your husband.

Are you all this unimaginative?

Ever occur to you that the guy probably brought them?

[Anonymous]

So what ultimately is going to happen is...

OP is going to keep hush about her drunken sexcapade and try to bury the guilt/shame deep down and hide it from her husband and from herself but the stress/anxiety brought on by avoidance and denial will cause her to have serious attitude issues and basically put her in an angry/irritable funk 24/7. The husband will either be like "damn what the hell is wrong with this b%tch" and go find some side chick to bang in retaliation for the wife's bitter behavior since she got back from the business trip OR the husband will get frustrated trying to figure out a way to make his wife happy again and ultimately will find some chick to bang since in frustration for the wife's neglect of their relationship since she got back from the business trip. Either way if she keeps her mouth shut I got $5 hubby ends up cheating.

[Anonymous]

Man here. Don't tell. Do figure out what happened so you can make sure it never happens again.

If it happens again, you need to tell your husband because there's something else going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what ultimately is going to happen is...

OP is going to keep hush about her drunken sexcapade and try to bury the guilt/shame deep down and hide it from her husband and from herself but the stress/anxiety brought on by avoidance and denial will cause her to have serious attitude issues and basically put her in an angry/irritable funk 24/7. The husband will either be like "damn what the hell is wrong with this b%tch" and go find some side chick to bang in retaliation for the wife's bitter behavior since she got back from the business trip OR the husband will get frustrated trying to figure out a way to make his wife happy again and ultimately will find some chick to bang since in frustration for the wife's neglect of their relationship since she got back from the business trip. Either way if she keeps her mouth shut I got $5 hubby ends up cheating.

Now we finally have a poster with an colorful imagination!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Don't tell. Do figure out what happened so you can make sure it never happens again.

If it happens again, you need to tell your husband because there's something else going on.

Wisest advice here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. Don't tell. Do figure out what happened so you can make sure it never happens again.

If it happens again, you need to tell your husband because there's something else going on.

Wisest advice here.

This. OP, I did this and felt so disgusting and awful I decided it didn't matter if I did it again, and then let the other guy treat me horribly, and ended up having to tell my husband after I had seen the guy six or seven times and built up a whole written communication relationship with him. I think I decided if I really liked the other guy or was really just a horrible person undeserving of love somehow what I had done wasn't so bad. If I had walked away from that first night and never done it again, and never said anything, I wouldn't have irreparably damaged my self esteem and my relationship. Take this advice and internalize it.