I hate the other woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is it possible that there are so many OWs who truly believed that a man who has a family does not, in the age of the Internet? Or that he is separated -- while living with his wife and kids? Are there really such huge #s of gullible women out there? How hard is it really to check out the facts?

It's not on the OW. It's 100% on the cheating spouse.

Come on. Yes, the spouse is a scum bag, but as the cheated on wife, I'm not inclined to give a pass to the other woman who decided it wasn't worth her time to just be a marginally decent human being, pass on the married dude, wait until his divorce was final, or start a relationship with someone who was single, given the potential catastrophic consequences to a whole family system. Pretty self involved woman if you don't get that at a minimum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OW here. If hating me makes you feel better, I can take it.
The wife called me. He had been lying to the both of us. I don't think anyone sets out to destroy anyone's family.

OP: You had luxury of knowledge or the luxury to obtain knowledge if you wanted to open your eyes instead of your legs. Lying to you????? Have you never googled people? did you meet any of his friends relatives or children? Go to his place? Call him at his home phone instead of his cell all the time? Pick him up from work? Go to the office Christmas party? Why not?

Now boo effing hooo you want to state that you're not the evil home wrecker everyone thought you were because you didn't PLAN it. You didn't SET out to do it but at the hundreds of steps on the way to bedding him, there was never a small opportunity where you have might have had an inkling of the start of a thought - that you couldn't have just stopped or thought of someone else. No, because you got involved, you selfishly ignored the consequences, didn't do any due diligence to look at the reasonableness of his story, just accepted it because you got what you wanted.

In the mean time, I have had nightmares, panic attacks, I cry for no reason, my dreams of old age with my spouse and grand children have been permanently changed, I have had to become a single parent, move out of my house which is up for sale, my kids changed school systems, they're all in counseling, I'm in counseling. The kids as heartbreaking questions that I don't know how to answer. During all this, I had to bury my mother.

Cry me a river.

Why are you identifying yourself as the OP when she states she *just* found all of this out, yet you are clearly much farther along in the process. Which is it?

I guess there are multiple women who don't think too well of their husband's affair partner. Imagine that. That this doesn't end up being a love fest where the wife gives her blessing to the OW and says " I know you were too idiotic to check out the inconsistent facts and you couldn't help yourself. You really are a good person who was completely duped by that super clever married man. You shouldn't have any pangs of guilt or remorse over how this ended up. After all, you shouldn't be expected to feel bad when other people get hurt in events where you were a witless participant. Go play with your Barbie, and don't play with the grown ups any more.' It's clear that you don't get it and can't learn from this. Wait until this happens to YOU.

Ma'am, I'm not the poster who self identified as a one time other woman, but do you not understand how discussion boards work? Don't identify yourself as the OP when you are not! Especially when she seems like a normal person and you sound like a damn lunatic. You are giving her, and wives, and women and humans a bad name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OW here. If hating me makes you feel better, I can take it.
The wife called me. He had been lying to the both of us. I don't think anyone sets out to destroy anyone's family.

OP: You had luxury of knowledge or the luxury to obtain knowledge if you wanted to open your eyes instead of your legs. Lying to you????? Have you never googled people? did you meet any of his friends relatives or children? Go to his place? Call him at his home phone instead of his cell all the time? Pick him up from work? Go to the office Christmas party? Why not?

Now boo effing hooo you want to state that you're not the evil home wrecker everyone thought you were because you didn't PLAN it. You didn't SET out to do it but at the hundreds of steps on the way to bedding him, there was never a small opportunity where you have might have had an inkling of the start of a thought - that you couldn't have just stopped or thought of someone else. No, because you got involved, you selfishly ignored the consequences, didn't do any due diligence to look at the reasonableness of his story, just accepted it because you got what you wanted.

In the mean time, I have had nightmares, panic attacks, I cry for no reason, my dreams of old age with my spouse and grand children have been permanently changed, I have had to become a single parent, move out of my house which is up for sale, my kids changed school systems, they're all in counseling, I'm in counseling. The kids as heartbreaking questions that I don't know how to answer. During all this, I had to bury my mother.

Cry me a river.

Why are you identifying yourself as the OP when she states she *just* found all of this out, yet you are clearly much farther along in the process. Which is it?

I guess there are multiple women who don't think too well of their husband's affair partner. Imagine that. That this doesn't end up being a love fest where the wife gives her blessing to the OW and says " I know you were too idiotic to check out the inconsistent facts and you couldn't help yourself. You really are a good person who was completely duped by that super clever married man. You shouldn't have any pangs of guilt or remorse over how this ended up. After all, you shouldn't be expected to feel bad when other people get hurt in events where you were a witless participant. Go play with your Barbie, and don't play with the grown ups any more.' It's clear that you don't get it and can't learn from this. Wait until this happens to YOU.

And stop hijacking the actual OP's thread!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been talking to the other woman. I just found out about their affair and the trauma has been so deep and painful but I started emailing her to ask how she sleeps at night knowing she is breaking a family with little kids. Her responses were discusting and she believes he was in love with her. He also told her lies about us getting divorced. It was news to me until I found out. I can't say she felt bad but she was honest about everything--more so than my cheating husband. It was also gratifying to see how petrified he seemed about us being in communication.

I still feel like I want to puke though. She sent me every vile email he had sent her.

Is this who you think the OP is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is it possible that there are so many OWs who truly believed that a man who has a family does not, in the age of the Internet? Or that he is separated -- while living with his wife and kids? Are there really such huge #s of gullible women out there? How hard is it really to check out the facts?

stupid and desperate. Usually with a really worn out, smelly snatch too.

LOL. Must be an old, fat ex-wife. I'm guessing you haven't gotten laid in the last 5 years - because no one wants to fuck frump.

So smelly that your husband prefers her snatched over yours.
*sips tea*

[Anonymous]

Wow, the crazies are coming out of the hospital.

[Anonymous]

I had my world turned upside down in a second, lost my husband, my kids are traumatized, i lost my house, life and now am victimized by posters who claim this:

"Ma'am, I'm not the poster who self identified as a one time other woman, but do you not understand how discussion boards work? Don't identify yourself as the OP when you are not! Especially when she seems like a normal person and you sound like a damn lunatic. You are giving her, and wives, and women and humans a bad name."

Who judges that I have no right to rant? this whole scene has been so incredibly unfair, hurtful, painful, unjust, and it's been one of the most difficult experiences in my life.

Glad everyone else is having a great time, but right now, for me, things suck. Sorry I didn't express that politely enough for you.

What's wrong with you anyway?

[Anonymous]

^^^^ I am giving humans a bad name? Lets try to understand the nature if this thread: husbands who break their promises to their wife and family by having an extramarital affair. We established up front that is less than honorable and the opposite of treating his wife and family well.

Can husbands have an affair all by themselves? No. There is a second participant. The OW. This thread isn't about the OW going off about how the wife isn't handling her new circumstances very well, and we all know that a betrayed wife complaining is just a drag.

the wife just had her life pulled out from under her. your reply sounds pretty damn twisted and callous to me. There is something missing from your psyche, and it looks like it might be compassion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't blame you, OP. I'd hate her (and him) too.

Karma will bite them both in the ass.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had my world turned upside down in a second, lost my husband, my kids are traumatized, i lost my house, life and now am victimized by posters who claim this:

"Ma'am, I'm not the poster who self identified as a one time other woman, but do you not understand how discussion boards work? Don't identify yourself as the OP when you are not! Especially when she seems like a normal person and you sound like a damn lunatic. You are giving her, and wives, and women and humans a bad name."

Who judges that I have no right to rant? this whole scene has been so incredibly unfair, hurtful, painful, unjust, and it's been one of the most difficult experiences in my life.

Glad everyone else is having a great time, but right now, for me, things suck. Sorry I didn't express that politely enough for you.

What's wrong with you anyway?

Start your own thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had my world turned upside down in a second, lost my husband, my kids are traumatized, i lost my house, life and now am victimized by posters who claim this:

"Ma'am, I'm not the poster who self identified as a one time other woman, but do you not understand how discussion boards work? Don't identify yourself as the OP when you are not! Especially when she seems like a normal person and you sound like a damn lunatic. You are giving her, and wives, and women and humans a bad name."

Who judges that I have no right to rant? this whole scene has been so incredibly unfair, hurtful, painful, unjust, and it's been one of the most difficult experiences in my life.

Glad everyone else is having a great time, but right now, for me, things suck. Sorry I didn't express that politely enough for you.

What's wrong with you anyway?

This is my thread.

Start your own thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^^^ I am giving humans a bad name? Lets try to understand the nature if this thread: husbands who break their promises to their wife and family by having an extramarital affair. We established up front that is less than honorable and the opposite of treating his wife and family well.

Can husbands have an affair all by themselves? No. There is a second participant. The OW. This thread isn't about the OW going off about how the wife isn't handling her new circumstances very well, and we all know that a betrayed wife complaining is just a drag.

the wife just had her life pulled out from under her. your reply sounds pretty damn twisted and callous to me. There is something missing from your psyche, and it looks like it might be compassion.

I, for one, had plenty of compassion for the woman who originally posted. You on the other had are a piece of work.

[Anonymous]

^^^^this is my thread. Just because you can't keep stories straight isn't my problem. What are you: the discussion board police?

[Anonymous]

Then move along

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^^^ I am giving humans a bad name? Lets try to understand the nature if this thread: husbands who break their promises to their wife and family by having an extramarital affair. We established up front that is less than honorable and the opposite of treating his wife and family well.

Can husbands have an affair all by themselves? No. There is a second participant. The OW. This thread isn't about the OW going off about how the wife isn't handling her new circumstances very well, and we all know that a betrayed wife complaining is just a drag.

the wife just had her life pulled out from under her. your reply sounds pretty damn twisted and callous to me. There is something missing from your psyche, and it looks like it might be compassion.

I, for one, had plenty of compassion for the woman who originally posted. You on the other had are a piece of work.

I'm sorry you must be in the wrong place to post. Move along.