Pregnant at 42.5 and with serious marital issues

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Tried talking about it with my spouse this weekend. He doesnt want to discuss it because It's too hard for him to think about. He wouldn't want to accompany me if I had an abortion because it would be too emotionally hard. He doesn't know what to do but won't face a converstion with me.

This is why I am so afraid of taking on this pregnancy. It's all in me, in additon to the grim marriage

More reason to abort

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Tried talking about it with my spouse this weekend. He doesnt want to discuss it because It's too hard for him to think about. He wouldn't want to accompany me if I had an abortion because it would be too emotionally hard. He doesn't know what to do but won't face a converstion with me.

This is why I am so afraid of taking on this pregnancy. It's all in me, in additon to the grim marriage

More reason to abort

Your kids should be relieved they're alive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Tried talking about it with my spouse this weekend. He doesnt want to discuss it because It's too hard for him to think about. He wouldn't want to accompany me if I had an abortion because it would be too emotionally hard. He doesn't know what to do but won't face a converstion with me.

This is why I am so afraid of taking on this pregnancy. It's all in me, in additon to the grim marriage

More reason to abort

Your kids should be relieved they're alive.

The person who said that (who wasn't me) was certainly insensitive in the phrasing -- but was accurate in that OP clearly has no support in this situation. If he's acting like such a grade-A douche now, it doesn't look good for the future. And an unsupportive partner really is a pretty good reason to terminate a pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Does your husband know you are pregnant? If not, I strongly advise that you not share this information with him. If he is bipolar, you must decide about whether to keep this baby or not as if you are going to have to raise it as a single mother.

Does your husband have any other specific problems in bipolar? Anger is a significant problem, but many bipolars also have trouble with hypersexuality, substance abuse problems, difficulty holding a stable well paying job, gambling or other financial difficulties, etc. Is he seeing a psychiatrist? Committed to taking medication? Do you participate in the providing feedback to the psychiatrist about treatment? These should also factor into your decision-making.

... and so do their children. We know so many parents of (now young adult) bipolar children. It is heart breaking and the financial difficulties just go on and on and on. I know families where only 1 or 2 members escaped the genetic burden, but they spend their whole lives caring for their families. Not that bipolars are the most grateful recipients. they have too much noise in their heads to really feel for others. it is just one crisis after another. So have another baby at 43 with a bipolar dad. well, I would not. The pain of an abortion is over after some time but the pain of caring for a bipolar child is a lifetime. Most of these parents, if they could go back in time, and just not have to do this, would choose, NOT emphatically.
OP I am very sorry you are having to make these very hard decisions.

[Anonymous]

Last night he woke my daughter up slamming the door and ranting about how I am a piece of shit bitch crazy because I asked him to close the door after he opened it around midnight. I didnt want get put of bed to close the door he opened. I don't understand. He had anger management session just yesterday evening.

My decision is made. I need to get out of this marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last night he woke my daughter up slamming the door and ranting about how I am a piece of shit bitch crazy because I asked him to close the door after he opened it around midnight. I didnt want get put of bed to close the door he opened. I don't understand. He had anger management session just yesterday evening.

My decision is made. I need to get out of this marriage.

Oh, honey. I'm so, so sorry. It sounds like you know what you need to do, to protect your daughter and yourself from that bullshit.

I am so so sorry. I wish you strength and peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last night he woke my daughter up slamming the door and ranting about how I am a piece of shit bitch crazy because I asked him to close the door after he opened it around midnight. I didnt want get put of bed to close the door he opened. I don't understand. He had anger management session just yesterday evening.

My decision is made. I need to get out of this marriage.

Good luck OP.

You are making the correct decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last night he woke my daughter up slamming the door and ranting about how I am a piece of shit bitch crazy because I asked him to close the door after he opened it around midnight. I didnt want get put of bed to close the door he opened. I don't understand. He had anger management session just yesterday evening.

My decision is made. I need to get out of this marriage.

I can't believe you are still in it.

Poor kids, all I can say. You had a choice in partner. They didn't choose their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last night he woke my daughter up slamming the door and ranting about how I am a piece of shit bitch crazy because I asked him to close the door after he opened it around midnight. I didnt want get put of bed to close the door he opened. I don't understand. He had anger management session just yesterday evening.

My decision is made. I need to get out of this marriage.

I can't believe you are still in it.

Poor kids, all I can say. You had a choice in partner. They didn't choose their parents.

Go away, miserable human being.

OP, love and strength to you. It sounds like you know your path. You can do it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last night he woke my daughter up slamming the door and ranting about how I am a piece of shit bitch crazy because I asked him to close the door after he opened it around midnight. I didnt want get put of bed to close the door he opened. I don't understand. He had anger management session just yesterday evening.

My decision is made. I need to get out of this marriage.

Oh, honey. I'm so, so sorry. It sounds like you know what you need to do, to protect your daughter and yourself from that bullshit.

I am so so sorry. I wish you strength and peace.

+1 Stay strong, OP. You are doing the right thing. Take care of yourself and your daughter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Tried talking about it with my spouse this weekend. He doesnt want to discuss it because It's too hard for him to think about. He wouldn't want to accompany me if I had an abortion because it would be too emotionally hard. He doesn't know what to do but won't face a converstion with me.

This is why I am so afraid of taking on this pregnancy. It's all in me, in additon to the grim marriage

More reason to abort

Your kids should be relieved they're alive.

The person who said that (who wasn't me) was certainly insensitive in the phrasing -- but was accurate in that OP clearly has no support in this situation. If he's acting like such a grade-A douche now, it doesn't look good for the future. And an unsupportive partner really is a pretty good reason to terminate a pregnancy.

What? There's no good reason to terminate a pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Tried talking about it with my spouse this weekend. He doesnt want to discuss it because It's too hard for him to think about. He wouldn't want to accompany me if I had an abortion because it would be too emotionally hard. He doesn't know what to do but won't face a converstion with me.

This is why I am so afraid of taking on this pregnancy. It's all in me, in additon to the grim marriage

More reason to abort

Your kids should be relieved they're alive.

The person who said that (who wasn't me) was certainly insensitive in the phrasing -- but was accurate in that OP clearly has no support in this situation. If he's acting like such a grade-A douche now, it doesn't look good for the future. And an unsupportive partner really is a pretty good reason to terminate a pregnancy.

What? There's no good reason to terminate a pregnancy.

Well, that is your opinion. Thanks for registering your opinion. It will be given all due weight, I'm sure.

[Anonymous]

Just don't f***k him again op. You must not mind his behavior all that much or you'd have stayed out of bed.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm holding you in light and love. Peace and strength.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Tried talking about it with my spouse this weekend. He doesnt want to discuss it because It's too hard for him to think about. He wouldn't want to accompany me if I had an abortion because it would be too emotionally hard. He doesn't know what to do but won't face a converstion with me.

This is why I am so afraid of taking on this pregnancy. It's all in me, in additon to the grim marriage

More reason to abort

Your kids should be relieved they're alive.

The person who said that (who wasn't me) was certainly insensitive in the phrasing -- but was accurate in that OP clearly has no support in this situation. If he's acting like such a grade-A douche now, it doesn't look good for the future. And an unsupportive partner really is a pretty good reason to terminate a pregnancy.

What? There's no good reason to terminate a pregnancy.

Well, that is your opinion. Thanks for registering your opinion. It will be given all due weight, I'm sure.

Actually, it's a fact. Her poor child is being given no chance at life.