How long have you gone without sex?
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Anonymous
| 4 or 5 years. Didn't consumate the marriage until 11 months after the wedding. Divorced now and it's been 3 years. I'm depressed |
Anonymous
Why didn't you consummate the marriage for almost a year? Maybe I'm asking because it's been a long time forme, and I can't fathom why people in relationship go so long withou sex and hurt each other in process. |
Anonymous
I thought you had to wait at least 6 weeks after giving birth to resume intercourse? |
Anonymous
NP here, we waited three weeks. I had a c section, don't know if that makes a difference. Our sex life goes in waves, but we never go a few days without having it. In dry spells it is 2 times a week. Now it is almost daily. My drive has increased and so now it is DH has to keep up with me. I can understand people who say they are too tired at the end of the day, I've definitely been there. But I can say that making an effort to have it more has benefits outside the bedroom for sure, my husband is more affectionate and attentive and seems in a much better mood. I seem less uptight too. |
Anonymous
| We didn't have sex at all very late in my pg.s or during the first 6-8 weeks pp. So probably 4-3 month dry spells during those times? We have 3 kids. |
Anonymous
Not knocking madtirbation at all but my irgasms with another person have always been 100x better. You are missing out. Give it a try. |
Anonymous
Yup, us too. |
Anonymous
As long as both partners want hat, it works. It doesn't woek when one wants daily, the other monthly or yearly, |
Anonymous
Ha. SAHM in an affair too. |
Anonymous
These are all over the map...we're pregnant and have attempted exactly once since the conception (August) - about two weeks ago. She was in pain so we stopped, pretty quickly. I'm fearful this will go on until well after the pregnancy. 
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Anonymous
| Current marriage: 6 years. DH doesn't initiate and rejects advances. He's not having an affair. Says family life is too stressful. 4 kids, 3 teenagers. Been married 17 years next September. It's pretty soul crushing. We're both in decent shape and attractive. I think people would be pretty shocked to look at us. I'm very affectionate with him--he is tepid to cold in response. Most days I feel like I'm just walking under water. |
Anonymous
You're a better woman than I am. In your shoes, I had a long term affair (which I do not regret for one minute). |
Anonymous
Good for you, and I say that with no sarcasm. It's not fair for one spouse to cut another off like that; it's crazy. |
Anonymous
Go and have an affair. |
Anonymous
| 7 years. I never cheated on her. We are no longer together. Looking back I should have bailed a lot sooner. I'm throwing it in whatever comes by. |