How long have you gone without sex?

[Anonymous]

Wife and I stopped for last 2 months of pregnancy and first 3 months after bc her episotomy didn't heal correctly and she had to have it fixed. I think we probably did have sex during that time but it was painful for her so neither of us enjoyed it and we didn't finish bc of the pain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dh and I routinely go a month. We are really in love and have a happy marriage. And we snuggle all the time, of course. Sometimes it's just a while before I have the energy again!

Same here. I think this can be totally normal in a happy healthy relationship but on DCUM it is grounds for divorce!

[Anonymous]

Single: 2 years
Married: 2 months with pregnancies

[Anonymous]

At the risk of stating the obvious, if both are happy with once a month, there is no problem. But what happens if one wants once a week but the other is only happy with once a month? The keyword is the imcompatibiltiy.

[Anonymous]

Single- 3 months
Married- 2 weeks? And only bc dh was out of town

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't quite reached you, OP. I'm getting close to 3 years due also to an imploding marriage. Pretty desperate by now.

This fascinates me. Are you the woman? Because I guarantee my husband would have been out LONG ago. Like... I would say a year at the very outside.

Yes, I'm the woman. It's been a slow, long death of a marriage, but it'll be officially over soon.

[Anonymous]

almost two years. I decided to end that with a "friend with benefits" situation because the idea of going two years scared me. I could see myself going 5 years and feeling completely unsexual and dead inside, and that just seemed really sad.

Becoming a single mom did weird things to my sex life. I was never much into casual sex or sex outside of the bounds of a relationship, but since having a daughter, I've become even less interested in sex that wasn't emotionally fulfilling. I feel like even if my daughter will never know, I should somehow be a good example for her and hold out for something good.

it's a shame because I really enjoy sex! (I've gone about six months now, and I suspect it'll be a long time.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:almost two years. I decided to end that with a "friend with benefits" situation because the idea of going two years scared me. I could see myself going 5 years and feeling completely unsexual and dead inside, and that just seemed really sad.

Becoming a single mom did weird things to my sex life. I was never much into casual sex or sex outside of the bounds of a relationship, but since having a daughter, I've become even less interested in sex that wasn't emotionally fulfilling. I feel like even if my daughter will never know, I should somehow be a good example for her and hold out for something good.

it's a shame because I really enjoy sex! (I've gone about six months now, and I suspect it'll be a long time.)

I wish my ex-wife shared your feelings. She cheated, we divorced, and since then she's gotten desperate enough to take out ads on Craigslist. She confided that one to me when she was scared one of her "suitors" would become violent after she broke things off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At the risk of stating the obvious, if both are happy with once a month, there is no problem. But what happens if one wants once a week but the other is only happy with once a month? The keyword is the imcompatibiltiy.

Of course. But I mentioned the once a month thing on another thread, saying we were both ok with it, and got a lot of nasty comments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just came off a 2 year dry spell. Before that it was one year.

I think you're my partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dh and I routinely go a month. We are really in love and have a happy marriage. And we snuggle all the time, of course. Sometimes it's just a while before I have the energy again!

Same here. I think this can be totally normal in a happy healthy relationship but on DCUM it is grounds for divorce!

This is us too. We have a happy marriage and two kids under 3. We are always 'planning' to do it, then just get to exhausted in the evenings...

[Anonymous]

3 weeks after pregnancies. I start getting antsy after a week. More than that is torture.

[Anonymous]

have to think hard but the answer is 9 years and still in that drought. Long time affair with married man ended in giant scandal, more for him than me, made me so scared. Now I'm single mom ands getting older and not that interested.

Do occasionally masturbate but not that often.

But do wonder why there isn't a service where I could pay man as escort for sex if I got really desperate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dh and I routinely go a month. We are really in love and have a happy marriage. And we snuggle all the time, of course. Sometimes it's just a while before I have the energy again!

Same here. I think this can be totally normal in a happy healthy relationship but on DCUM it is grounds for divorce!

This is us too. We have a happy marriage and two kids under 3. We are always 'planning' to do it, then just get to exhausted in the evenings...

My wife probably thinks that "we" get too exhausted in the evenings. But, the reality is that she's the one who apparently needs 9 - 10 hours of sleep per night.

[Anonymous]

Where can single early 30s men find you women who just want a FWB to cool off?! Forget about paying us as escorts, just no strings fun...!