How long have you gone without sex?
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Anonymous
How to send you my email discreetly....?  
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Dealbreaker.....?
Anonymous
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My longest droughtL 6 years as an adult: 1986-1992.
Do I win? |
Anonymous
Set up a log in name here, and I'll do the same? |
Anonymous
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8 Years for me. I think that's the record so far. And I was married. Sad, but true.
Happily, I can report that since my divorce a year ago, I have had two boyfriends and more sex than the last 25 years combined. I never cheated while I was married, and have never had sex outside a relationship (although, I have to admit that I can see how that could be appealing at times). |
Anonymous
2 days
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Anonymous
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5 years. Then twice this year in an almost-relationship that fizzled.
Now think I'm on what will be my longest stint yet, as I've decided I'm pretty much asexual outside of a relationship, and I doubt I'll try again. Mid 40s, single mom, happy with my life. Open to the rare possibility of someone who could make things even better, but not waiting for lightning to strike  .
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Anonymous
| 2.5 weeks, postpartum with DH. A year when I was younger and single. I wasn't the type of a girl to sleep around. DH and I have sex nightly. I can appreciate a hard situation but its laughable when some women claim working and children make them too tired for sex. I work FT and have two children ( 2yo and 8m). DH and I have sex every day. If you are committed to your relationship and your partner, you will make time for sex. |
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Just in case there are other women like me already feeling really, really, really guilty about the lack of sex in our marriage....please don't read this thread and feel like a failure for not giving your partner what he or she needs. There can be reasons for 'sexless spells' and there can be assistance, too.
Diseases and factors other than cancer can cause real issues with sex: those of us who've had or who are dealing with those issues need to get help (without a doubt) for ourselves and for the health of the relationship as well. (As one primary care doctor kept insisting to me before I left his practice "you need to deal with this because men like sex".... as if I didn't know that.....) But sometimes, when you're trying to deal with the physical or psychological pain that can come with sex due to underlying issues, you can be in a long dry spell. It's not good. It has consequences (including guilt). I am sure it can lead to affairs. It also doesn't have to be 'this way' and I hope that women who, like me, find themselves terrified of the pain that sex involves can find the right therapists and physicians to help them. I'm saying all this because multiple times, I've seen threads like this on DCUM and skipped them because I already felt awful enough that I wasn't 'having enough sex' to keep my husband happy (forget about any self-pleasure -- with certain disorders, there's no pleasure in sex until/unless there's treatment). Ironically, just in the past month I have finally found a physician and a care team whom I trust to help me get over the challenges. These disorders can be anything from interstitial cystitis to adhesions to vaginismus to emotional or psychological challenges connecting to repressed memories -- there are lots more potential causes, all of which can be addressed in some way, and for many of these, there are also support groups. I'm just beginning to find and use these resources and can only say that I wish I had done so earlier -- for my husband's sake and for mine, too. Good luck to any who, as I was, may be going long periods without sex for reasons that are full of pain in all kinds of ways. |
Anonymous
That's how I was in the beginning. |
Anonymous
You're my hero. I hope this will be me soon, but sometimes I'm not optimistic... |
Anonymous
| Five years |
Anonymous
What no ask me anything responders? |
Anonymous
6 years. Left an abusive, traumatic relationship and didn't date for 6 years. Didn't miss it at the time. |
Anonymous
I think most of us are in shock. |
Anonymous
Me too! |