How long have you gone without sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Current marriage: 6 years. DH doesn't initiate and rejects advances. He's not having an affair. Says family life is too stressful. 4 kids, 3 teenagers. Been married 17 years next September. It's pretty soul crushing. We're both in decent shape and attractive. I think people would be pretty shocked to look at us. I'm very affectionate with him--he is tepid to cold in response. Most days I feel like I'm just walking under water.

You're a better woman than I am. In your shoes, I had a long term affair (which I do not regret for one minute).

I too feel this way and am beginning to look for a "relief valve"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Current marriage: 6 years. DH doesn't initiate and rejects advances. He's not having an affair. Says family life is too stressful. 4 kids, 3 teenagers. Been married 17 years next September. It's pretty soul crushing. We're both in decent shape and attractive. I think people would be pretty shocked to look at us. I'm very affectionate with him--he is tepid to cold in response. Most days I feel like I'm just walking under water.

You're a better woman than I am. In your shoes, I had a long term affair (which I do not regret for one minute).

I too feel this way and am beginning to look for a "relief valve"

Another DW here too with a DH who almost never initiates even after multiple conversations about it. Am currently on a multiweek, overseas business trip with a single, attractive male colleague and have to fight the urge to knock on his door every night. Am pretty sure I will ask for a separation before the end of the year. I hate living wih little to no affection on a daily basis. We have two kids under 6. Sucks. ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Current marriage: 6 years. DH doesn't initiate and rejects advances. He's not having an affair. Says family life is too stressful. 4 kids, 3 teenagers. Been married 17 years next September. It's pretty soul crushing. We're both in decent shape and attractive. I think people would be pretty shocked to look at us. I'm very affectionate with him--he is tepid to cold in response. Most days I feel like I'm just walking under water.

You're a better woman than I am. In your shoes, I had a long term affair (which I do not regret for one minute).

I too feel this way and am beginning to look for a "relief valve"

Another DW here too with a DH who almost never initiates even after multiple conversations about it. Am currently on a multiweek, overseas business trip with a single, attractive male colleague and have to fight the urge to knock on his door every night. Am pretty sure I will ask for a separation before the end of the year. I hate living wih little to no affection on a daily basis. We have two kids under 6. Sucks. ?

You're thinking about initiating with another man because your husband doesn't initiate?

Is there a "men are supposed to initiate" double standard? Should there be?

(But, regardless, I recognize that it sucks to do 90 - 100% of the initiating regardless of gender; makes you feel like your spouse is just putting up with it rather than actively desiring you.)

[Anonymous]

I work far from home. The drive and my hours are slowly killing me. My wife cut me off years ago. She then decided she wanted to be horny again, which was great! Now, we're back to the old days....

We have been together for a very long time and we have children.

I don't want to cheat on her, but I'm a guy and I need sex! Any suggestions?