My friend tried to start an affair with my husband

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I may get shit for this but that's why I don't bring singl women into my home for extended periods of time (both literally and figuratively like OPs situation). A friend of mine was leaving her live in bf and asked if she could stay with us. NOPE. Not that I don't trust my husband but why invite potential problems? When will women learn not to involve other women that closely into their lives ... It's only normal for a single woman to develop feelings for a great father and husband when they spend so much time together - it's everything she wants and doesn't have.

Yikes, I totally disagree. Do I even have you day you sound like a horrible friend?

I knew I would get shit

I am single, and would never even think of my friends husbands in this way. It just makes me sad that women can't be friends because of jealously and harsh judgement. Do men know how easy they have it, they can actually have friends who won't sell them out?

You are not married, yet you judge. Not jealousy, common sense and prudence. Things necessary to the married state of life.

where did I judge anyone? I said I was sad about the way women treat each other in general. This thread is evidence of something I was not aware of, that my married friends see me as the enemy no matter how nice and not interested I am in their spouses. Many will still feel the need to be kept me at a distance. That is a pretty lonely existence, so of course it would make me sad but still don't see how I am judging anyone here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does it make you hotter for your husband? Not only is he a stand up guy and father, he's attractive to other women!

Blah blah blah...had this woman been attractive this would be a totally different thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This doesn't prove the husband is a good guy- just that he wasn't interested in the friend!

+1
It took him long enough to mention it his wife . Was he contemplating it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This doesn't prove the husband is a good guy- just that he wasn't interested in the friend!

+1
It took him long enough to mention it his wife . Was he contemplating it?

By all means, blame the man.

[Anonymous]

Jesus this thread brought out the crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This doesn't prove the husband is a good guy- just that he wasn't interested in the friend!

+1
It took him long enough to mention it his wife . Was he contemplating it?

By all means, blame the man.

By all means, take things out of context.
Did you bother to read the comment this was in response to?

[Anonymous]

Slap that bitch.

[Anonymous]

Everything's fine guys. Choose one of the following: keep all single women away from your husband or don't blame anyone trying to sleep with your husband because he's a saint and she's just "being honest".

Jeeeeezus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This doesn't prove the husband is a good guy- just that he wasn't interested in the friend!

+1
It took him long enough to mention it his wife . Was he contemplating it?

By all means, blame the man.

By all means, take things out of context.
Did you bother to read the comment this was in response to?

Yes, the one where it doesn't prove he's a good guy, just that he doesn't want to this woman. Then you gave it the ol' +1.

Did you bother to read the OP? Where the husbands gut said she was "odd" from the beginning? Did you bother reading the OPs follow ups where the husband only spent one weekend with this woman- at her request- because she was sick in bed?

If this guy was really interested, he'd be picking her up at the airport or washing her car. But once again, suspect the guy for wanting to screw other women because he waited to tell his wife about a crazy situation that stumped his wife to the point that she sought advice from an anonymous internet forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I may get shit for this but that's why I don't bring singl women into my home for extended periods of time (both literally and figuratively like OPs situation). A friend of mine was leaving her live in bf and asked if she could stay with us. NOPE. Not that I don't trust my husband but why invite potential problems? When will women learn not to involve other women that closely into their lives ... It's only normal for a single woman to develop feelings for a great father and husband when they spend so much time together - it's everything she wants and doesn't have.

Yikes, I totally disagree. Do I even have you day you sound like a horrible friend?

I knew I would get shit

I agree with you fwiw. Especially when it comes to single moms (sorry to all the nice ones out there).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. I am single and please don't isolate your single friends from your lives because you see them as a threat. I've only had a crush on the husband of ONE friend and my response is to treat him in a manner that is cordial but somewhat distant. No way would I ever want to get involved with a married man, much less the husband of a friend. That is just a waste of time and a disaster. No matter what, the single friend doesn't win. Chances are the man doesn't want to leave his wife, but even if it does, do I want to marry a cheater? No.

I've been in the same boat. It took months and a LOT of prayer to extinguish the inappropriate romantic feelings I developed for a friend's husband. She and he never guessed. The whole time I was distancing myself, they were calling to invite me to hang with them. I felt so bad hurting their feelings, but it was what was best for everyone involved. Meanwhile, women with the least appealing husbands cut me out of their social circle after my divorce only to learn later that their DH was screwing a still-married friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. I am single and please don't isolate your single friends from your lives because you see them as a threat. I've only had a crush on the husband of ONE friend and my response is to treat him in a manner that is cordial but somewhat distant. No way would I ever want to get involved with a married man, much less the husband of a friend. That is just a waste of time and a disaster. No matter what, the single friend doesn't win. Chances are the man doesn't want to leave his wife, but even if it does, do I want to marry a cheater? No.

I've been in the same boat. It took months and a LOT of prayer to extinguish the inappropriate romantic feelings I developed for a friend's husband. She and he never guessed. The whole time I was distancing myself, they were calling to invite me to hang with them. I felt so bad hurting their feelings, but it was what was best for everyone involved. Meanwhile, women with the least appealing husbands cut me out of their social circle after my divorce only to learn later that their DH was screwing a still-married friend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does it make you hotter for your husband? Not only is he a stand up guy and father, he's attractive to other women!

Blah blah blah...had this woman been attractive this would be a totally different thread.

That's not true - she's actually very attractive. She thinner than I am, younger than I am, and very pretty. But luckily my husband really loves me and is very devoted to our family. Once again I'll say that this is not a matter of her having the feelings she did/does, but it was that she tried to act on those feelings with my husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Slap that bitch.

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I may get shit for this but that's why I don't bring singl women into my home for extended periods of time (both literally and figuratively like OPs situation). A friend of mine was leaving her live in bf and asked if she could stay with us. NOPE. Not that I don't trust my husband but why invite potential problems? When will women learn not to involve other women that closely into their lives ... It's only normal for a single woman to develop feelings for a great father and husband when they spend so much time together - it's everything she wants and doesn't have.

Yikes, I totally disagree. Do I even have you day you sound like a horrible friend?

I knew I would get shit

I agree with you fwiw. Especially when it comes to single moms (sorry to all the nice ones out there).

Oh put a sock in it. Single mom here. I was hit on by a married man (who knows DD and I) within the past week and told him to take a walk. Being a single mother and having ethics are not mutually exclusive concepts.

Also why would I invite that drama into our lives? Good grief.