My friend tried to start an affair with my husband

[Anonymous]

OP, your husband is a keeper. You and he are lucky.

[Anonymous]

Well, one good thing came out of this: you know that your DH is a good guy and loyal and honest.

Drop that "friend" and uninvite her to Easter. She sounds crazy enough that she would actually attend. And completely avoid her!

[Anonymous]

OP,

RUN. Do not walk away from this woman. Immediately cut off all contact. She is absolutely evil and her behavior is reprehensible. This sounds so high school, except it's not. This is your real life and you and DH have a child together. Do not encourage your girlfriends from ever spending any alone time w/ DH. Obviously he did nothing wrong, but why live with this kind of risk?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She may claim to be a very honest person but she did try and see if your husband was interested.

If he had said yes, she would have had an affair.

She is a psycho and you need to cut off all contacts, because she has a very warped sense of reality and morality.

I missed the part where she asked if the husband was interested.

[Anonymous]

This doesn't prove the husband is a good guy- just that he wasn't interested in the friend!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She may claim to be a very honest person but she did try and see if your husband was interested.

If he had said yes, she would have had an affair.

She is a psycho and you need to cut off all contacts, because she has a very warped sense of reality and morality.

I missed the part where she asked if the husband was interested.

Telling the husband that she has feeling for him is telling him that she is interested. The husband told her that he loves his family and wife. Then she told him that she cannot have contact with the family because she cannot help her feelings.

She is a pshcho. And she can justify what she did and have no remorse, for me it means that she is really mentally disturbed with no moral compass.

Yes, any human being can develop feelings for another human being - but - you avoid them and don't talk about it if there is no hope (the person being married means that they are off limits).

She had no such compunctions. She is trash. And best avoided.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband's gut feeling was right- she's batshit crazy. She developed feelings so strong that she can't stand to be around him anymore after a few playdates and cordial hellos? Nuckin Futs.

Sounds like they were A LOT more involved with each other's lives than a few play dates and casual hellos.

While I agree that she should have kept it to herself, it doesn't sound like she actually did anything wrong.

I also find it interesting that no one has mentioned the impact this will have on the kids in this situation. Maybe put these girls first and let them continue to be friends.

Does anyone else find this response to be almost as batshit crazy as the women in the OP?

It's like the bizarro world reaction to this story.

Husband is withholding the true nature of this relationship, woman did nothing wrong, effect on toddlers the most important thing here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband's gut feeling was right- she's batshit crazy. She developed feelings so strong that she can't stand to be around him anymore after a few playdates and cordial hellos? Nuckin Futs.

Sounds like they were A LOT more involved with each other's lives than a few play dates and casual hellos.

While I agree that she should have kept it to herself, it doesn't sound like she actually did anything wrong.

I also find it interesting that no one has mentioned the impact this will have on the kids in this situation. Maybe put these girls first and let them continue to be friends.

Does anyone else find this response to be almost as batshit crazy as the women in the OP?

It's like the bizarro world reaction to this story.

Husband is withholding the true nature of this relationship, woman did nothing wrong, effect on toddlers the most important thing here.

I would guess that PP has neither husband nor kids.

[Anonymous]

No I didn't mean the husband and the friend were involved in an inappropriate way. I meant that the two families were more involved than a few playdates. OP says they spent most of their weekends with the friend.

The woman, inappropirately told the husband that she had feeling for him, but there is no evidence that she intended to act on those feelings, so while I agree that her behavior was immature, I don't think she did anything WRONG.

Yes, as a parent, I think it's important to consider the effects of adult actions on the children and selfish not to.

[Anonymous]

The friend shouldn't have said anything to the husband, but maybe she was trying to explain why she needed to avoid them.
She handled it badly, but perhaps there is no good way to "ghost" on a close friendship with neighbors.

[Anonymous]

The "wrong" behavior is burdening someone else with information that could be harmful to them, just to unburden yourself.

And that's the BEST case scenario, ignoring the possibility that she wanted to sleep with a married man.

But maybe there are more sociopaths on DCUM than I even thought. Just tell people whatever you want, regardless of how it affects them.

[Anonymous]

OP, she is odd and she probably does things like this all the time to other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The "wrong" behavior is burdening someone else with information that could be harmful to them, just to unburden yourself.

And that's the BEST case scenario, ignoring the possibility that she wanted to sleep with a married man.

But maybe there are more sociopaths on DCUM than I even thought. Just tell people whatever you want, regardless of how it affects them.

By this standard, the husband should have kept what he knew to himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The "wrong" behavior is burdening someone else with information that could be harmful to them, just to unburden yourself.

And that's the BEST case scenario, ignoring the possibility that she wanted to sleep with a married man.

But maybe there are more sociopaths on DCUM than I even thought. Just tell people whatever you want, regardless of how it affects them.

By this standard, the husband should have kept what he knew to himself.

Completely disagree. You do not know what the crazy woman is capable of. He is protecting himself and his family. Spouses share these kinds of things.

What is he had kept quite and the crazy lady had tried to harm the OP or her child?

Yes, OP is feeling bad but it is best to know the truth and cut off the contact.

When OP confronted the woman, the woman gave no indication that the husband was inappropriate with her - so lets not drag that angle here.

[Anonymous]

I may get shit for this but that's why I don't bring singl women into my home for extended periods of time (both literally and figuratively like OPs situation). A friend of mine was leaving her live in bf and asked if she could stay with us. NOPE. Not that I don't trust my husband but why invite potential problems? When will women learn not to involve other women that closely into their lives ... It's only normal for a single woman to develop feelings for a great father and husband when they spend so much time together - it's everything she wants and doesn't have.