Are my twins too close? (long, sorry)

[Anonymous]

Yay for keeping them together!! You just made my day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yay for keeping them together!! You just made my day.

Lol, it made their day too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not a twin thing, it's a brat thing. They are brats. They need to be separate classrooms. They are twins but they are individuals. As far as the sharing the same bed, if it's not a big deal to you, let it be. If it is, put your foot down, and separate.

WTF? Do you feel better about your own life now?
Nasty person.

[Anonymous]

I would consult with other parents in the twin community.
My DS has two sets of twins in his grade (3rd) who have always stayed together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would consult with other parents in the twin community.
My DS has two sets of twins in his grade (3rd) who have always stayed together.

PP here - just read posts above me...looks like you've decided to keep them together.
I think that's great! The twins in my son's grade seem to be doing quite well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're not a twin or a parent of twins (especially identical twins), you need to refrain from responding. You don't get it and you never will.

Yes! Those of you who don't understand the incredible bond between twins, STFU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a twin. We are 35 years old now and live normal, wonderful, functional lives with big careers, spouses, and children of our own. To this day, I know how he is at all times. It is an awareness I cannot shake, nor do I want to. He is my other half and I don't know life any other way. Your twins are not too close. They are being themselves. Don't interfere.

Don't assume that your experience as an identical twin is common to others. My husband has no sense of "how" his identical brother is at any time, even if they are standing right next to each other. Throughout school they were DESPERATE to be treated as individuals and not as a single unit. To this day he still complains that he even had to share his birthday growing up. I know his brother feels the same way.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're not a twin or a parent of twins (especially identical twins), you need to refrain from responding. You don't get it and you never will.

Yes! Those of you who don't understand the incredible bond between twins, STFU.

I'm the wife of a twin and I can tell you that the "incredible bond" is a myth. Twins are siblings just like any other siblings, they just happen to be the same age. Some are very close, others are not. Some are competitive, others are not.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you telling them they'll be separated when kindergarten is 9 months away? Kids change a lot in that amount of time, by then it may be less of an issue. And I wouldn't put it as "we've decided..." But just say, "you will be in different classrooms, but will have lunch, recess, etc together.

Our school always separates twins, as far as I've seen.

These are good questions to consider and suggestions for the future. When you do decide to separate them, you might not want to have such a long lead time.

[Anonymous]

I am a twin (fraternal) with a set of twins (identical). My twin and I were in the same classroom until it created an issue (I kept answering for my twin, etc.) in about the 2nd grade. We were separated from then on and looking back, though it was tough at first and I was angry, it was probably for the best. My pre schoolers are in the same class still; the school left it up to us. We intend to let them stay together as long as it works and doesn't create an issue in the classroom or otherwise.

I don't really think you need to separate them now, especially if the school isn't requiring that you do so.

Good luck to you. I really don't understand most of the mean and ridiculous posts above. Ignore, ignore, ignore.

[Anonymous]

My mom is an identical twin, and she and her sister still dress alike. They're 73.

Separate yours now, before it's too late!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom is an identical twin, and she and her sister still dress alike. They're 73.

Separate yours now, before it's too late!!

We have many decades between now and 73.
I think they'll get there.

[Anonymous]

I know identical triplets who were separated in elementary school. They can back together in high school classes because the classes were tracked and they were always on par with each other.

They thought that was good.

[Anonymous]

Yes, please please keep them in the same class! They are awesome, your twins! Don't worry, they will be fine, and develop their individuality. Don't force them apart. They are best friends, and they can do this and it is healthy!

I was best friends with close twins through school growing up who were in the same class and good friends. They became very very distinct from one another, but always supportive and of the other and good friends. Win-win!

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound like a great mother and honestly, they sound precious. What a gift. Enjoy it while it lasts.