Where to find a WASP husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you have to get married to get into the lifestyle? You can do all that as a single woman.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:learn to play squash, tennis or golf

I agree. Because OP, even though you say you are looking for a certain "lifestyle", you should still have some kind of hobby or activity that you can do with your husband and with his family to kind of "bond" over. Sailing might be another good activity to take up.

If she doesn't already know how to play any of these things, she's going to seem like a poser and a wannabe, especially if it seems like she's doing it just to meet men. I have some sympathy for the plight of the educated black woman with limited options, but OP is fetishizing these guys and there's nothing she has to offer them. I suggest she not limit herself ethnically.

Oh, and plenty of minorities play tennis and golf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: OP, I can relate to you a bit. At the age of 18, I met the man that is now my husband. I'm white, my husband is AA. I had never really considered marrying outside of my race and my parents had never said not to. I was raised in a catholic, middle class family. My family is pretty accepting. Anyway, my husband and I met unexpectantly one night and really hit it off fast. My husband's family has is very well educated and financially well off. They had wanted my husband to date black women but were very accepting of me and admitted to being apprehensive of my parents reaction to our relationship. Nearly twelve years later, we're happily married and raising children together. If you want to "find" a husband, stop looking. Just get out and socialize. Enjoy your time doing things you like and you will eventually meet someone of any race.

Your parents must be upset, deep down, that their grandkids look like third-worlders rather than relatives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:isn't wasp a racist term. You might want to start off by saying where can I find white or Caucasian men.

She is not asking how to date Bubba, Billy Bob, Guido or Joe.

She wants to date Gatsby. WASP is a perfectly appropriate term I this situation. Nothing racist about it.

Gatsby was not a WASP. He was a poseur/climber. Tom Buchanan was the WASP. Daisy was a Southern WASP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: OP, I can relate to you a bit. At the age of 18, I met the man that is now my husband. I'm white, my husband is AA. I had never really considered marrying outside of my race and my parents had never said not to. I was raised in a catholic, middle class family. My family is pretty accepting. Anyway, my husband and I met unexpectantly one night and really hit it off fast. My husband's family has is very well educated and financially well off. They had wanted my husband to date black women but were very accepting of me and admitted to being apprehensive of my parents reaction to our relationship. Nearly twelve years later, we're happily married and raising children together. If you want to "find" a husband, stop looking. Just get out and socialize. Enjoy your time doing things you like and you will eventually meet someone of any race.

Your parents must be upset, deep down, that their grandkids look like third-worlders rather than relatives.

Leave her alone. Attacking someone's children makes you a disgusting piece of trash. I'm pretty sure that her parents adore their grandchildren. Not everyone is a pitiful bigot like you. The world will be a much better place if people like you were not in it.

[Anonymous]

You people are such idiots.

[Anonymous]

What is WASP culture?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an AA female, late twenties, well educated, in a white collar profession making 75k+ and born and brought up in DC. My parents were both teachers and I became exposed to WASP culture only after college (I went to an HBC). Now I am really enamored by that culture and lifestyle, The Great Gatsby kind of people. The kind of guys who live in Georgetown or Chevy Chase and wear pink bow ties and Brooks Brothers and belong to country clubs and wear tennis whites to the court.

Do these kinds of guys date black women? Where do I meet these guys? What do they look for in a wife? It's not MONEY I'm after, just that culture and lifestyle.

Please don't reply if you just want to criticize me. You're entitled to your opinion, and I'm entitled to my preferences. Don't respond to this thread if you just want to boast about how you didn't marry for superficial reasons - good for you. You are not me. Don't reply to this thread if that's all you've got to say.

If you have answers to my questions ("Do these kinds of guys date black women? Where do I meet these guys? What do they look for in a wife?") or if you are a man who fits this criteria and want to share some insights, I'd love to hear from you!

I'm going to give it to you straight. Unless you're a Lena Horne or Dorothy Dandridge type, then give up the fantasy quick before your feelings get hurt. If you're light bright and look damn near white, then there is a window of opportunity for you. Sometimes even women who resemble Lena Horne aren't even accepted into certain WASP circles especially the southern ones. If you don't come from a pedigree of wealth, then it will be extremely difficult to enter into a WASP circle. You may want to entertain the circles of elitists' AA's here in DC first to get a taste of what the culture is like. Read Otis Graham's "Our Kind of People :Inside of America's Black Upper Class". See if this is the type of lifestyle that you really want.

By the way, there are tons of interracial dating/marriage sites. I highly recommend European men over the men here in the states. You could find a wealthy white man who doesn't have the characteristics of a WASP. The WASP and black elite culture here in America are extremely exclusive and brutal towards those who are not like them.

Meh. I have an AA friend who did it - married a Wall-Street type preppy guy. Ivy league schools. Very wealthy. They are very happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: OP, I can relate to you a bit. At the age of 18, I met the man that is now my husband. I'm white, my husband is AA. I had never really considered marrying outside of my race and my parents had never said not to. I was raised in a catholic, middle class family. My family is pretty accepting. Anyway, my husband and I met unexpectantly one night and really hit it off fast. My husband's family has is very well educated and financially well off. They had wanted my husband to date black women but were very accepting of me and admitted to being apprehensive of my parents reaction to our relationship. Nearly twelve years later, we're happily married and raising children together. If you want to "find" a husband, stop looking. Just get out and socialize. Enjoy your time doing things you like and you will eventually meet someone of any race.

Your parents must be upset, deep down, that their grandkids look like third-worlders rather than relatives.

This will be an investment that will pay off handsomely in the future when there is more mixing of the races as globalization increases. They will still be recognized as white, presumably the reigning race for generations to come, yet with some color, signifying acceptance of the masses. Look at the descendants of whites who went abroad when their motherland colonized different parts of the world. They intermarried with the locals and their descendants have continued to do well because of the blend. If they had not intermarried, their lives would be more difficult because they would continue to be looked at as the foreign outsiders who conquered the local people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: OP, I can relate to you a bit. At the age of 18, I met the man that is now my husband. I'm white, my husband is AA. I had never really considered marrying outside of my race and my parents had never said not to. I was raised in a catholic, middle class family. My family is pretty accepting. Anyway, my husband and I met unexpectantly one night and really hit it off fast. My husband's family has is very well educated and financially well off. They had wanted my husband to date black women but were very accepting of me and admitted to being apprehensive of my parents reaction to our relationship. Nearly twelve years later, we're happily married and raising children together. If you want to "find" a husband, stop looking. Just get out and socialize. Enjoy your time doing things you like and you will eventually meet someone of any race.

Your parents must be upset, deep down, that their grandkids look like third-worlders rather than relatives.

This will be an investment that will pay off handsomely in the future when there is more mixing of the races as globalization increases. They will still be recognized as white, presumably the reigning race for generations to come, yet with some color, signifying acceptance of the masses. Look at the descendants of whites who went abroad when their motherland colonized different parts of the world. They intermarried with the locals and their descendants have continued to do well because of the blend. If they had not intermarried, their lives would be more difficult because they would continue to be looked at as the foreign outsiders who conquered the local people.

It is so racist.

[Anonymous]

Wowsers PP.

Anyway, I think OP should start on her journey to net a male WASP -- and blog about her adventures so we can all keep up with them. I'm sure it would be fascinating and sad.

[Anonymous]

Nobody wants to hear the tired tales of some bougie broad trying to land a rich husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: OP, I can relate to you a bit. At the age of 18, I met the man that is now my husband. I'm white, my husband is AA. I had never really considered marrying outside of my race and my parents had never said not to. I was raised in a catholic, middle class family. My family is pretty accepting. Anyway, my husband and I met unexpectantly one night and really hit it off fast. My husband's family has is very well educated and financially well off. They had wanted my husband to date black women but were very accepting of me and admitted to being apprehensive of my parents reaction to our relationship. Nearly twelve years later, we're happily married and raising children together. If you want to "find" a husband, stop looking. Just get out and socialize. Enjoy your time doing things you like and you will eventually meet someone of any race.

Your parents must be upset, deep down, that their grandkids look like third-worlders rather than relatives.

But poster isn't a wasp, she's catholic.

[Anonymous]

go to law school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:go to law school.

Or business school