Signs your child is on the verge of being "Counseled Out" top private

[Anonymous]

What is SPD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is SPD?

Sensory processing disorder is my guess.

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Anonymous wrote:One of the techniques is, parents won't talk to you; teachers pick on everything your kid does; admins are critical and unresponsive, and then after you pay for the next year, they become much more difficult and counsel you out explicitly. You agree to go, then they decline to unconditionally refund because it's post-deadline.

Yep, right on. Catholic parochial. Once the teachers start picking on your kid and trying to find fault without merit that's the sign.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is a private school. They are selective. It is not public school.

True. But I looked here:

http://www.sidwell.edu/about_sfs/school-philosophy/index.aspx
http://www.gds.org/podium/default.aspx?t=123451
http://www.stalbansschool.org/page.aspx?pid=710
http://www.ncs.cathedral.org/podium/default.aspx?t=129663
http://www.sheridanschool.org/about/mission
http://www.maret.org/about_us/mission/index.aspx

and nowhere did I see "This purpose of this school is to provide, to the children of parents who pay us a lot of money, an education that is free from disruption by the children of other parents who pay us a lot of money".

Listing all of those links is silly, and makes you seem a bit disturbed ( or maybe you just have a lot of free time). Being counseled out of a school is a very painful process. Believe it or not, it is also a difficult decision for the school. However, all of the schools you listed ( except Sheridan) have upper schools. If it is obvious that a student will likely not be successful in the US, it is in the student's best interest to move on as early as possible. It is much better to find a new school at age 9 than at age 15. I know all of these schools have their faults, but they can predict with pretty good confidence how kids will fare as they move into higher divisions. Having said all of this, I still sympathize with any child that is asked to move on to a new school. It sucks in the short term, but in the long run it is usually the best decision.

[Anonymous]

Teacher in top,private here. Trust me, if your child has the right "look" and you pay full tuition you will be allowed to stay

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teacher in top,private here. Trust me, if your child has the right "look" and you pay full tuition you will be allowed to stay

+1

[Anonymous]

At our school they have steps... being asked to leave for this year. Being asked to apply again next year (from having left) Being asked to never come back.

[Anonymous]

More on an old thread, but it cannot be a surprise to the parents that their kid is being asked to leave. The school gives so many chances and the child is so disruptive, so far behind academically, uses up so much of the teachers time, is a constant drag on the whole class. The teacher is not there to teach one child -- that is very unfair to the other 15..

[Anonymous]

My child was counseled out of a (not top) private. He was put "on probation" and we were told he might not be allowed to return if his behavior didn't improve. Soon after that, EVERYONE seemed to know he was on probation (staff, students, parents), even though it was supposed to be private. They began writing him up for EVERYTHING-- things he wouldn't have gotten more than a verbal reprimand for before, and things that no other child got written up for.

It got to the point that ds couldn't breathe funny without being written up, while the classmates who were teasing/bullying him only got a "talking to:" no paper trail, and in some cases, the parents weren't even made aware of what their little darlings had been up to.

With ds, it was "We're documenting everything, so you're aware of his behavior problems." With the kids who got to stay, it was "They're good kids who made a mistake. We don't need to record this, or bother their parents." When I heard this (principal's words, second hand from the teacher), I knew they'd already decided about ds, and the "probation" was a farce.

The school let many kids with MUCH worse issues than ds stay. The moral judgment could give you whiplash. Some kids were dismissed and swept out like trash, while other kids got the "diamond in the rough," "We just need to keep loving him until he blossoms" treatment.

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher in top,private here. Trust me, if your child has the right "look" and you pay full tuition you will be allowed to stay

If you are really a teacher, you certainly don't teach English. Oblivious to the use of commas.

[Anonymous]

Obviously comment was a typo but thanks for your useless criticism. Not pp

[Anonymous]

The reason that some children who should be counseled out are not, is that the school may fear a lawsuit.

[Anonymous]

There is a boy in my DC's class that is disruptive in every class (homeroom, art, science, foreign language). He is kind to the other students. I'm wondering what the school will do, if anything? How do most schools handle this? Just curious.

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Anonymous wrote:One of the techniques is, parents won't talk to you; teachers pick on everything your kid does; admins are critical and unresponsive, and

then after you pay for the next year, they become much more difficult and counsel you out explicitly. You agree to go, then they decline to unconditionally refund because it's post-deadline.

Yep, right on. Catholic parochial. Once the teachers start picking on your kid and trying to find fault without merit that's the sign.

This is extremely common. We know of two private schools in Alexandria that do exactly this. One of them even has a pre-cooked post-deadline refund waiver form.

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher in top,private here. Trust me, if your child has the right "look" and you pay full tuition you will be allowed to stay

You teach at Trollwarts, no doubt?