Signs your child is on the verge of being "Counseled Out" top private

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Anonymous wrote:This subject reminded me of a frightening trend I have now seen at the schools discussed regularly on this site: African-American boys being counseled out. Boys seem to struggle with sitting with their hands in their lap as it is, add sports and competition and a natural tendency to need to move and they are set-up for little room to grow. This matched with overly effected parents and, in some cases, teachers who don't have a handle on how to work with boys. I don't know why, but the first to be moved out are the AA boys. I have seen six in early grades over three schools in the past four years. That's an alarming rate.

Unless you are in the business, how could you possibly know if AA are tsrgeted first? As the mother of a minority student, what an unbelievable conspiracy theorist you are. Wake up. The folks here complaining are of all colors, sizes, shapes. It has had universal effect. Why must you jump in to say it has affected anyone more than anyone else? If you believe that is true, whether or not you have proof, what do you want to do about it?

I agree. Previous poster is trying to bring race into something that does not necessarily have anything to do with race. In fact at our big three I know of three boys counseled out who are all white and wealthy. I don’t know of any African American boys counseled out in our time at the school.

[Anonymous]

I feel bad for parents of kids who are counseled out, but... I also feel bad for the peers of kids who should be counseled out but aren't. There's a kid in my DC's class who is consistently nasty and disruptive: bullying, snickers and whispers and insults other kids when they speak, etc. It is amazing how toxic this one kid has been. Numerous other kids and parents have raised concerns with the school over several years, and nothing has happened. Kid has been talked to by teachers, staff and school counselor numerous times (parents too). No effect. Kid keeps doing exactly the same thing, making many other kids miserable. In private conversations the teachers express great frustration.

Part of me feels for this kid and family: clearly the kid has issues; with luck the kid will grow up and grow out of this behavior eventually; don't want to permanently stigmatize a middle schooler; kid is just a kid.

But another part of me feels like: enough is enough. How long is the school going to tolerate a kid whose behavior is truly toxic?

Apparently the answer is "forever."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This subject reminded me of a frightening trend I have now seen at the schools discussed regularly on this site: African-American boys being counseled out. Boys seem to struggle with sitting with their hands in their lap as it is, add sports and competition and a natural tendency to need to move and they are set-up for little room to grow. This matched with overly effected parents and, in some cases, teachers who don't have a handle on how to work with boys. I don't know why, but the first to be moved out are the AA boys. I have seen six in early grades over three schools in the past four years. That's an alarming rate.

Unless you are in the business, how could you possibly know if AA are tsrgeted first? As the mother of a minority student, what an unbelievable conspiracy theorist you are. Wake up. The folks here complaining are of all colors, sizes, shapes. It has had universal effect. Why must you jump in to say it has affected anyone more than anyone else? If you believe that is true, whether or not you have proof, what do you want to do about it?

I agree. Previous poster is trying to bring race into something that does not necessarily have anything to do with race. In fact at our big three I know of three boys counseled out who are all white and wealthy. I don’t know of any African American boys counseled out in our time at the school.

Blacks are given far more rope than other kids before being counseled out. Schools are hyper-sensitive to race.