Signs your child is on the verge of being "Counseled Out" top private

[Anonymous]

Has this happened to anyone and what are the signs?

[Anonymous]

parents won't talk to you.

teachers pick on everything your kid does

being called in and being told that maybe the school is not the best place for your child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:parents won't talk to you.

teachers pick on everything your kid does

being called in and being told that maybe the school is not the best place for your child

Sounds very "Lord of the Flies."

And people wonder why others "believe" in public education and try to pick a fight over it....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:parents won't talk to you.

teachers pick on everything your kid does

being called in and being told that maybe the school is not the best place for your child

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:parents won't talk to you.

teachers pick on everything your kid does

being called in and being told that maybe the school is not the best place for your child

Yes, I'm sure it is teachers "picking on" the child. Hmmmm. It's not a child struggling academically and/or socially/behaviorally, and the school raising the appropriate red flags?

If my child is miserable and feels crummy all the time mainly because the work is beyond him/her, why would I want him/her to stay? It's not about the parents, it's about what's best for the kids -- trite but some people seem to resist leaving a school because of what it means for their social life/expectations/feelings of prestige.

[Anonymous]

We knew a child who was counseled out for behavioral issues last year. This was in the lower school and the parents were sad because their child loved the school. My DC never reported anything good or bad about the child who left but I did observe when in class that the child sucked huge amount of the teacher's time to direct and redirect. Of course there were other children who did the same thing and are still there.

[Anonymous]

Does race financial aid status or race play a factor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We knew a child who was counseled out for behavioral issues last year. This was in the lower school and the parents were sad because their child loved the school. My DC never reported anything good or bad about the child who left but I did observe when in class that the child sucked huge amount of the teacher's time to direct and redirect. Of course there were other children who did the same thing and are still there.

I might know the same child. This one was young for the class, and my child said the kid was in trouble almost every day. I think many parents requested that their kids not be in the same class for the next year. Very distracting, unfortunately. I wondered if they held the child back a year at a different school.

[Anonymous]

Does "counseled out" mean "being told to not come back next year"?

[Anonymous]

If it is the same child I am thinking of, he was a December birthday so was not young, but was small.

[Anonymous]

Stop trying to identify this child, for crying out loud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does "counseled out" mean "being told to not come back next year"?

I think so. The parent I spoke with said they were told they weren't welcome to return next year.

[Anonymous]

One of the techniques is, parents won't talk to you; teachers pick on everything your kid does; admins are critical and unresponsive, and then after you pay for the next year, they become much more difficult and counsel you out explicitly. You agree to go, then they decline to unconditionally refund because it's post-deadline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the techniques is, parents won't talk to you; teachers pick on everything your kid does; admins are critical and unresponsive, and then after you pay for the next year, they become much more difficult and counsel you out explicitly. You agree to go, then they decline to unconditionally refund because it's post-deadline.

I can say for sure this doesn't happen at our school. If it happened to you, that really sucks, but I don't think this happens all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the techniques is, parents won't talk to you; teachers pick on everything your kid does; admins are critical and unresponsive, and then after you pay for the next year, they become much more difficult and counsel you out explicitly. You agree to go, then they decline to unconditionally refund because it's post-deadline.

How do parents know that your child is being counseled out? Are they usually behind the original request to have the child counseled out (by complaining to the Head of School?)