Signs your child is on the verge of being "Counseled Out" top private

[Anonymous]

Usually you will see "red flags" in interim reports and concerns raised with teachers during conferences. There are often supplemental parent meetings as well.

Kids being counseled out ought not be a surprise when it happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We knew a child who was counseled out for behavioral issues last year. This was in the lower school and the parents were sad because their child loved the school. My DC never reported anything good or bad about the child who left but I did observe when in class that the child sucked huge amount of the teacher's time to direct and redirect. Of course there were other children who did the same thing and are still there.

I might know the same child. This one was young for the class, and my child said the kid was in trouble almost every day. I think many parents requested that their kids not be in the same class for the next year. Very distracting, unfortunately. I wondered if they held the child back a year at a different school.

Sounds like the right decision. Families like ours, who pay a lot of money, should very much expect the teachers to be able to do a job without THIS MUCH interruption, disruption and unpleasantness. Sounds like this child has an attention-getting issues and the teacher was not able to address it for a whole year. Fair to all other families.

[Anonymous]

I'm curious why people say the parents stop talking to you. How would the other parents know??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious why people say the parents stop talking to you. How would the other parents know??

they are the ones doing the complaining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious why people say the parents stop talking to you. How would the other parents know??

If the child has behavior issues that take up a lot of the teacher's time, everyone knows who it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We knew a child who was counseled out for behavioral issues last year. This was in the lower school and the parents were sad because their child loved the school. My DC never reported anything good or bad about the child who left but I did observe when in class that the child sucked huge amount of the teacher's time to direct and redirect. Of course there were other children who did the same thing and are still there.

I might know the same child. This one was young for the class, and my child said the kid was in trouble almost every day. I think many parents requested that their kids not be in the same class for the next year. Very distracting, unfortunately. I wondered if they held the child back a year at a different school.

Sounds like the right decision. Families like ours, who pay a lot of money, should very much expect the teachers to be able to do a job without THIS MUCH interruption, disruption and unpleasantness. Sounds like this child has an attention-getting issues and the teacher was not able to address it for a whole year. Fair to all other families.

Thankfully, the classroom has now reached a state of Nirvana. The remaining angelic children will now be able reach their full potential in life without such negative influences. Had this disruptive nine year old been allowed to remain in all likelihood the remaining students probably would have been eventually denied admission to their Ivies, probably Med. School as well, and perhaps they may not marry a debutant either. It's very fortunate that this problem was resolved early in your child's life. Although, this experience must have been traumatic, we can at least rest assured that the lives of the remaining students will be perfect.

Good work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We knew a child who was counseled out for behavioral issues last year. This was in the lower school and the parents were sad because their child loved the school. My DC never reported anything good or bad about the child who left but I did observe when in class that the child sucked huge amount of the teacher's time to direct and redirect. Of course there were other children who did the same thing and are still there.

I might know the same child. This one was young for the class, and my child said the kid was in trouble almost every day. I think many parents requested that their kids not be in the same class for the next year. Very distracting, unfortunately. I wondered if they held the child back a year at a different school.

Sounds like the right decision. Families like ours, who pay a lot of money, should very much expect the teachers to be able to do a job without THIS MUCH interruption, disruption and unpleasantness. Sounds like this child has an attention-getting issues and the teacher was not able to address it for a whole year. Fair to all other families.

Thankfully, the classroom has now reached a state of Nirvana. The remaining angelic children will now be able reach their full potential in life without such negative influences. Had this disruptive nine year old been allowed to remain in all likelihood the remaining students probably would have been eventually denied admission to their Ivies, probably Med. School as well, and perhaps they may not marry a debutant either. It's very fortunate that this problem was resolved early in your child's life. Although, this experience must have been traumatic, we can at least rest assured that the lives of the remaining students will be perfect.

Good work

You joke. But if there's one thing I expect my 30K per year to buy, it is a classroom free of constant disruptions from uncontrollable others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You joke. But if there's one thing I expect my 30K per year to buy, it is a classroom free of constant disruptions from uncontrollable others.

I totally agree with you. This isn't a free-for-all situation, so all have obligations.

[Anonymous]

And the ones who pay 30k feel that their kid should get away with murder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And the ones who pay 30k feel that their kid should get away with murder.

This is eerily reminiscent.

[Anonymous]

Whatever the school has to do, they should involve the parent early on, not pop it on the parents in late Feb. with no warning as we experienced. Very unprofessional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whatever the school has to do, they should involve the parent early on, not pop it on the parents in late Feb. with no warning as we experienced. Very unprofessional.

True! I had that happen to me in a parochial with a new set of heads. Teacher was indeed picking and shaming DC. No warning whatsoever - just we are bouncing your kid because we think we found something well over a year old that the son "may" have plagiarized? Really? Boy you are really working hard to get us to go, aren't you. Totally ridiculous. Parish priest took our side and we got all our money back. But the schools should involve parents early on,. Fully agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You joke. But if there's one thing I expect my 30K per year to buy, it is a classroom free of constant disruptions from uncontrollable others.

whose parents are also paying $30,000 per year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:parents won't talk to you.

teachers pick on everything your kid does

being called in and being told that maybe the school is not the best place for your child

Yes, I'm sure it is teachers "picking on" the child. Hmmmm. It's not a child struggling academically and/or socially/behaviorally, and the school raising the appropriate red flags?

If my child is miserable and feels crummy all the time mainly because the work is beyond him/her, why would I want him/her to stay? It's not about the parents, it's about what's best for the kids -- trite but some people seem to resist leaving a school because of what it means for their social life/expectations/feelings of prestige.

Maybe it's about expecting schools to make more of an effort, rather than simply function as factories churning out the spoiled, arrogant spawn of the DC elite?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You joke. But if there's one thing I expect my 30K per year to buy, it is a classroom free of constant disruptions from uncontrollable others.

whose parents are also paying $30,000 per year.

But, they're outnumbered 16 to 1