How do you get an affair/relationship started with another married person?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It will seem like one of those things that is ... just right.

I was in, well, still am in, a "just right" situation but believe it or not, we have no place to "do it," so we haven't done it. Neither of us wants to use our own house and paying for a motel just seems too much. Ah well, nice to dream about but I guess we'll never consummate it

Where there is a will, there is a way. You will have to make compromises.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will seem like one of those things that is ... just right.

I was in, well, still am in, a "just right" situation but believe it or not, we have no place to "do it," so we haven't done it. Neither of us wants to use our own house and paying for a motel just seems too much. Ah well, nice to dream about but I guess we'll never consummate it

Why so forlorn? Maybe your "just right" is ready to consummate it after all. Logistics are definitely hard, but I wouldn't just throw the towel in and give up, if you indeed still interested.

I AM still interested. He's a fantastic guy, such sexy eyes and so easy to talk to...it's just a very complicated situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will seem like one of those things that is ... just right.

I was in, well, still am in, a "just right" situation but believe it or not, we have no place to "do it," so we haven't done it. Neither of us wants to use our own house and paying for a motel just seems too much. Ah well, nice to dream about but I guess we'll never consummate it

Where there is a will, there is a way. You will have to make compromises.

Yes but how? where?

[Anonymous]

do any of you guys have a second place thats barely used by the families?

how about someone else's home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will seem like one of those things that is ... just right.

I was in, well, still am in, a "just right" situation but believe it or not, we have no place to "do it," so we haven't done it. Neither of us wants to use our own house and paying for a motel just seems too much. Ah well, nice to dream about but I guess we'll never consummate it

Why so forlorn? Maybe your "just right" is ready to consummate it after all. Logistics are definitely hard, but I wouldn't just throw the towel in and give up, if you indeed still interested.

I AM still interested. He's a fantastic guy, such sexy eyes and so easy to talk to...it's just a very complicated situation.

Wait, so you have actually explicitly discussed consummation and it hasn't happened because together you can't think of a place? Have you at least made out in a car or in the woods or something?

There really is a business opportunity here for a discrete hourly rentals of clean bedrooms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will seem like one of those things that is ... just right.

I was in, well, still am in, a "just right" situation but believe it or not, we have no place to "do it," so we haven't done it. Neither of us wants to use our own house and paying for a motel just seems too much. Ah well, nice to dream about but I guess we'll never consummate it

Why so forlorn? Maybe your "just right" is ready to consummate it after all. Logistics are definitely hard, but I wouldn't just throw the towel in and give up, if you indeed still interested.

I AM still interested. He's a fantastic guy, such sexy eyes and so easy to talk to...it's just a very complicated situation.

Wait, so you have actually explicitly discussed consummation and it hasn't happened because together you can't think of a place? Have you at least made out in a car or in the woods or something?

There really is a business opportunity here for a discrete hourly rentals of clean bedrooms

Just pay for a damn motel! How cheap are you? You need to think back to your teenage years (since that's what you are acting like).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on who. Different women want different things. Did you see the movie Notes on a Scandal and wonder how a pretty upper-class woman with a loving family could end up giving a 16-yo blowjobs in the classroom? The character Cate Blanchett portrayed felt invisible. She missed being admired by someone under the age of fifty. She wanted to be f'd by someone who really wanted to f her. The boy could see that so he told her what he knew she wanted to hear. Many women want to hear that they are irresistibly bewitching but not all. Find out what your prospective fling wants to hear by listening to her jokes.

This is interesting to me. I would never broadcast what I want to hear in a joke. It feels like fishy for a compliment and little too needy. In fairness, I likely did this when I was much younger.

I fear you have misunderstood me. Analyzing jokes is an important component of an overall personality assessment. People often reveal their niggling insecurities and big concerns in jokes without even being aware that they are doing so. For example, a middle-aged woman deflecting a compliment with a self-deprecating joke indicates her unconscious desire to be reassured that she is still attractive. The would-be seducer should find a woman's vanity point, another key to her personality. Does she change her jewelry often? Keep nicely manicured nails? Wear long blond curls although she's in her sixties? Have plenty of plants in her office or ethnic pottery or literary journals? Does she talk about the trips she's taken or planning? Her participation in a sport or activity?

You as the seducer must tap into her self-image. Does she pride herself on being clever, adventurous, nurturing, high-maintenance, intellectual or tough? If her spouse is not doing his job of reinforcing her self-image in a way that fulfills her then you have a prime opportunity. An innocent conversation about what she and her family did this weekend should somehow lead to "How did you meet your husband?" The look on her face -- be it annoyed, neutral, brusque, dreamy, nostalgic, regretful or simply joyful -- when she answers will speak volumes about the state of their relationship and your chances of winning her over.

So good. I have taken notes.

[Anonymous]

these two will probably have the most vanilla sex ever.

if they cant get creative to find a way to fuck in a car, office, cheap hotel something, they just want to have regular vanilla missionary sex.

she probably wont even put her legs on his shoulders/chest she so boring.

[Anonymous]

that or she really doesnt want to have sex and is more excited about not doing the deed and keeping everything in her imagination..................

[Anonymous]

"Wait, so you have actually explicitly discussed consummation and it hasn't happened because together you can't think of a place? Have you at least made out in a car or in the woods or something?

There really is a business opportunity here for a discrete hourly rentals of clean bedrooms ."

I told you, it's more complicated than that. We have made out briefly twice. He's just not sure he wants to take the final step down that road. He loves his wife, but he needs more love and attention than she gives him. Ditto in my situation.

[Anonymous]

+1. I'm in a situation like this. She all but falls into my arms -- on a regular basis -- but then won't let herself be in a situation where anything physical can happen. It's not teasing; I'm old enough (sadly) to know when a woman is genuinely into me. I suspect I serve as a nice spur to her fantasies. Great.

I also think this is what a lot of women actually mean when they say they engaged in an "emotional affair." It's transgressive and satisfying for the woman, but she can feel like she didn't cross the line to ho or homewrecker or whatever unfortunate images she harbors of women who cheat. It's (eventually) just frustrating as hell for the dude.

[Anonymous]

PP here, that's +1 to 11:00.

[Anonymous]

Yes, the reality falls far short of the fantasy.

Some dudes on here need to read Game blogs!

[Anonymous]

What are Game blogs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on who. Different women want different things. Did you see the movie Notes on a Scandal and wonder how a pretty upper-class woman with a loving family could end up giving a 16-yo blowjobs in the classroom? The character Cate Blanchett portrayed felt invisible. She missed being admired by someone under the age of fifty. She wanted to be f'd by someone who really wanted to f her. The boy could see that so he told her what he knew she wanted to hear. Many women want to hear that they are irresistibly bewitching but not all. Find out what your prospective fling wants to hear by listening to her jokes.

This is interesting to me. I would never broadcast what I want to hear in a joke. It feels like fishy for a compliment and little too needy. In fairness, I likely did this when I was much younger.

I fear you have misunderstood me. Analyzing jokes is an important component of an overall personality assessment. People often reveal their niggling insecurities and big concerns in jokes without even being aware that they are doing so. For example, a middle-aged woman deflecting a compliment with a self-deprecating joke indicates her unconscious desire to be reassured that she is still attractive. The would-be seducer should find a woman's vanity point, another key to her personality. Does she change her jewelry often? Keep nicely manicured nails? Wear long blond curls although she's in her sixties? Have plenty of plants in her office or ethnic pottery or literary journals? Does she talk about the trips she's taken or planning? Her participation in a sport or activity?

You as the seducer must tap into her self-image. Does she pride herself on being clever, adventurous, nurturing, high-maintenance, intellectual or tough? If her spouse is not doing his job of reinforcing her self-image in a way that fulfills her then you have a prime opportunity. An innocent conversation about what she and her family did this weekend should somehow lead to "How did you meet your husband?" The look on her face -- be it annoyed, neutral, brusque, dreamy, nostalgic, regretful or simply joyful -- when she answers will speak volumes about the state of their relationship and your chances of winning her over.

Author has tapped into the key of creating connections with any women whether she is single or married. It would also work to rekindle connections with wife if the husband wanted to improve the marriage instead of wrecking it further. Ultimately, if the husband is dissatisfied with the marriage the wife is probably also.

From a woman's perspective, if you get the vibe your husband or significant other is thinking of cheating, he probably is.

For the husbands out there thinking of cheating, your wife probably does know and it's just a matter of time as to when your wife is willing to face the reality and confront you on the subject unless she is happy with the situation because she is also cheating on you.

For women out there thinking of cheating, beware of Don Juan's out there like the author above who just want a good fuck and they know the tricks to get you there. With STD's, you may be risking a lot more than your marriage.