How do you get an affair/relationship started with another married person?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on who. Different women want different things. Did you see the movie Notes on a Scandal and wonder how a pretty upper-class woman with a loving family could end up giving a 16-yo blowjobs in the classroom? The character Cate Blanchett portrayed felt invisible. She missed being admired by someone under the age of fifty. She wanted to be f'd by someone who really wanted to f her. The boy could see that so he told her what he knew she wanted to hear. Many women want to hear that they are irresistibly bewitching but not all. Find out what your prospective fling wants to hear by listening to her jokes.

This is interesting to me. I would never broadcast what I want to hear in a joke. It feels like fishy for a compliment and little too needy. In fairness, I likely did this when I was much younger.

I fear you have misunderstood me. Analyzing jokes is an important component of an overall personality assessment. People often reveal their niggling insecurities and big concerns in jokes without even being aware that they are doing so. For example, a middle-aged woman deflecting a compliment with a self-deprecating joke indicates her unconscious desire to be reassured that she is still attractive. The would-be seducer should find a woman's vanity point, another key to her personality. Does she change her jewelry often? Keep nicely manicured nails? Wear long blond curls although she's in her sixties? Have plenty of plants in her office or ethnic pottery or literary journals? Does she talk about the trips she's taken or planning? Her participation in a sport or activity?

You as the seducer must tap into her self-image. Does she pride herself on being clever, adventurous, nurturing, high-maintenance, intellectual or tough? If her spouse is not doing his job of reinforcing her self-image in a way that fulfills her then you have a prime opportunity. An innocent conversation about what she and her family did this weekend should somehow lead to "How did you meet your husband?" The look on her face -- be it annoyed, neutral, brusque, dreamy, nostalgic, regretful or simply joyful -- when she answers will speak volumes about the state of their relationship and your chances of winning her over.

wow, spot on. exactly how i was seduced.

[Anonymous]

another +1 to the poster PP quoted.

[Anonymous]

Huh. A thread on how to be evil. Not just a little evil, but maximally evil.

[Anonymous]

hey rico suave, i appreciate your seduction advice and all but i am curious.

i find that when im attracted to a married woman, i dont want to hear about their spouse. i get your angle about it helping to see where the marriage stands but in my mind, i feel the topic of the spouse sort of reminds them why they wont want to go there with someone.

again, im speaking having no experience in this so your thoughts are greatly appreciated since you seem to have the seduction thing down.

[Anonymous]

Rico should publish a book in serial installments on this thread. Most impressive. Sociopathic, but (and?) genuinely impressive.

[Anonymous]

It will seem like one of those things that is ... just right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hey rico suave, i appreciate your seduction advice and all but i am curious.

i find that when im attracted to a married woman, i dont want to hear about their spouse. i get your angle about it helping to see where the marriage stands but in my mind, i feel the topic of the spouse sort of reminds them why they wont want to go there with someone.

again, im speaking having no experience in this so your thoughts are greatly appreciated since you seem to have the seduction thing down.

If the potential affair partner is squeamish about discussing his or her spouse with you, that person is not ready for an affair. You have to compartmentalize to have a successful affair.

[Anonymous]

Are you a man or a woman? How many affairs with married people have you had?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:hey rico suave, i appreciate your seduction advice and all but i am curious.

i find that when im attracted to a married woman, i dont want to hear about their spouse. i get your angle about it helping to see where the marriage stands but in my mind, i feel the topic of the spouse sort of reminds them why they wont want to go there with someone.

again, im speaking having no experience in this so your thoughts are greatly appreciated since you seem to have the seduction thing down.

If the potential affair partner is squeamish about discussing his or her spouse with you, that person is not ready for an affair. You have to compartmentalize to have a successful affair.

thats a good point. never thought of it that way.

what if the other person is single though. how would you sense that person is open to you knowing that you are married?

[Anonymous]

Don't have experience here, but be careful with non-married people. They don't have as much to lose as you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't have experience here, but be careful with non-married people. They don't have as much to lose as you.

Agreed and also, they will want a lot more than you can give them. Married people with kids will understand when it is time to go home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It will seem like one of those things that is ... just right.

I was in, well, still am in, a "just right" situation but believe it or not, we have no place to "do it," so we haven't done it. Neither of us wants to use our own house and paying for a motel just seems too much. Ah well, nice to dream about but I guess we'll never consummate it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't have experience here, but be careful with non-married people. They don't have as much to lose as you.

Exactly correct. Avoid the 28 year old secretary who's single if you're a 41 year old married guy. Stick to the hot 46 year old moms who are deprived.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't have experience here, but be careful with non-married people. They don't have as much to lose as you.

Agreed and also, they will want a lot more than you can give them. Married people with kids will understand when it is time to go home.

Gotta be during the day. Nights are just too hard to be out of the house consistently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It will seem like one of those things that is ... just right.

I was in, well, still am in, a "just right" situation but believe it or not, we have no place to "do it," so we haven't done it. Neither of us wants to use our own house and paying for a motel just seems too much. Ah well, nice to dream about but I guess we'll never consummate it

Why so forlorn? Maybe your "just right" is ready to consummate it after all. Logistics are definitely hard, but I wouldn't just throw the towel in and give up, if you indeed still interested.