How one DH perceives DW who complains he isn't pitching in enough

[Anonymous]

OP, let me tell you something brother. She is pushing you to either to threaten to leave her or have an affair. Not because you are trying to get your freak on. But you want your spouse to appreciate what you do for her. Once in a while you would like to kick your feet up and don't do squat!!! Raising kids and maintaining a healthy marriage is a labor of love. It will never be 50/50. But I guess you would like to see it 70/30 every now and then. As you probably know, there are plenty of women who would love for their DH to do what you are doing. Wait until your kids are teenagers. The demand on your time will wear you out. Stay strong!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP's wife may have mental health issues. If she does not attempt to resolve them, then she is responsible for that and can't blame her actions on "being mentally ill."

And yes, not revealing previous mental health issues is a HUGE problem, right up there with a guy refusing to acknowledge to his wife who really wants six kids that he is infertile.

I agree with this and think the OP has every right to be upset that this came out after he was married. And he never really said he was upset about it--just pointing out that he didn't find out until after the marriage. She was the one who was dishonest and should have told the OP before they got married.

OP, sounds like you are trying to do the best you can in a bad situation. You sound like a good father and your kids are lucky to have you. I wish you all the best and do think that counseling would make a world of difference if your wife will agree to it. There has to be more to her behavior than just being lazy.

[Anonymous]

"OP, if you're in the market for a new girlfriend, please let us know. I could make you so happy..... "

Ditto and I'll lick you like a lollipop!

[Anonymous]

OP -sounds like your wife is going to sit on her ass for the rest of her life, long after the kids are gone.