Is it OK to ask friend if my daughter can come to their sibling’s wedding?

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

IF you previously RSVP'd yes for you and DH, I don't see any harm in floating this by your friend before then asking the bride. It depends on the relationship. A friend of mine ended up bringing a friend instead of her DH for a similar reason and it wasn't a big deal to me, I had already accounted for two guests. A key difference here is that your daughter is a teen and you don't know if minors are invited. So I'd be clear it's fine either way.

The fact that you're asking here rather than calling up your friend makes me think you don't have that close of a relationship though.

[Anonymous]

First, this has to be fake. If it is real, please answer the question of exactly how the invitation was addressed and exactly how you RSVP'd? Have you already let them know your husband is not coming? Your wedding guest manners are absolutely horrible it seems.

But there is a bigger issue here. You have a 15 year old who is afraid to stay home alone in the evening. What are you doing to address her anxiety? She will be going to college in a couple of years. How will she handle that? This is a much bigger problem than you seem to understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Best plan: Daughter stays home.
If that can't happen, then you contact your friend (I would call so it's a conversation vs just texting back and forth) and say something came up and DH will be out of town and DD is scared to stay home alone. So I won't be able to attend. Sorry!
If friend really wants you to go with her she will either suggest a solution or say, Bring DD.

That said, I had someone bring me to an event, swearing the host would love for me to attend, and it was very clear host was p*ssed. Friend was my ride, at a time when Ubers were not that prevalent, and it was a very long, uncomfortable night.

But canceling at the last minute is just as rude as asking to bring someone. If the wedding is this week, they have already paid for OP and canceling now won't avoid this.

OP - this is basic adult stuff. Think about your conflicts before accepting an invitation. Once you RSVP yes, unless you are deathly ill, you attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Best plan: Daughter stays home.
If that can't happen, then you contact your friend (I would call so it's a conversation vs just texting back and forth) and say something came up and DH will be out of town and DD is scared to stay home alone. So I won't be able to attend. Sorry!
If friend really wants you to go with her she will either suggest a solution or say, Bring DD.

That said, I had someone bring me to an event, swearing the host would love for me to attend, and it was very clear host was p*ssed. Friend was my ride, at a time when Ubers were not that prevalent, and it was a very long, uncomfortable night.

But canceling at the last minute is just as rude as asking to bring someone. If the wedding is this week, they have already paid for OP and canceling now won't avoid this.

OP - this is basic adult stuff. Think about your conflicts before accepting an invitation. Once you RSVP yes, unless you are deathly ill, you attend.

+1. Too many people treat their "yes" RSVPs as maybe-if-it's-convenient-or-I-feel-like-it. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

If you got a plus one, sure since the head count would be the same a clearly the wedding has no particular investment who the plus one is (at my wedding ages ago, we gave everyone plus one and didn’t really care who that plus one was.)

Even if the invite was specifically for you and your husband, you should clear it with your friend to make sure it’s not a child free wedding or some other issue but then it will probably be fine.

Otherwise no way. It’s tacky to ask to add guests anyway, but especially since you aren’t even in any way close to the people getting married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m supposed to attend a friend’s sibling’s wedding this weekend (ceremony + reception), but my 15 year old daughter really doesn’t want to stay home alone and gets anxious about it. She’s technically old enough, but evenings by herself make her nervous, and she doesn’t have any friends she could hang with.

The wedding will be several hours, and I’d be gone for both the ceremony and reception. I really want to be there for my friend since it’s an important family event, but I’m wondering… would it be inappropriate to ask if my daughter could come with me?

WWYD? Ask the friend, have her stay home, or another solution?

Can she stay over at a friend's house? If not I would not go to the wedding. I would NOT ask if my daughter could come. That's rude

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t even bother going to the wedding. I would use that time to take your daughter to see a therapist.

Why does she need a therapist? She's 15, not 21

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m supposed to attend a friend’s sibling’s wedding this weekend (ceremony + reception), but my 15 year old daughter really doesn’t want to stay home alone and gets anxious about it. She’s technically old enough, but evenings by herself make her nervous, and she doesn’t have any friends she could hang with.

The wedding will be several hours, and I’d be gone for both the ceremony and reception. I really want to be there for my friend since it’s an important family event, but I’m wondering… would it be inappropriate to ask if my daughter could come with me?

WWYD? Ask the friend, have her stay home, or another solution?

No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, this has to be fake.

+1 It reminded me of the recent thread, Skip the wedding to keep tween company?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1312841.page