Is it OK to ask friend if my daughter can come to their sibling’s wedding?

[Anonymous]

OP, bring your DD to the ceremony only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, bring your DD to the ceremony only.

No, don’t even do that. There is no reason at this age and OP doesn’t even know the people getting married.

Your daughter doesn’t have any friends and you are her only comfort for anxiety? That’s the way bigger concern here, at 15. If she can’t find anyone to hang out with her, you can not go to the wedding but then you need to get her some help. There are social skills groups, therapists and get her involved in something to make some friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's really simple.

If you received your own invitation, which included a +1, and you RSVPed with a +1, you can tell them DH had to go out of town and you'd like to swap him for your daughter.

If your daughter would be an extra person not included in the plans, then you can't bring her to the reception. You could bring her to the ceremony if it's in a church, since that's a public place.

I received my own invitation, and was going to attend with my husband, but he won’t be able to attend.

So do they already have 2 from your family in the headcount or what? If they do then just call and explain that DH is out of town and ask if you can bring DD instead- provided it's not a child-free wedding of course. If you only RSVP'd for 1 then no. Find someone to stay with your daughter and start working on the anxiety.

It would be crappy to just cancel now when you should have figured this out before sending the RSVP, because even if your DH was attending you still would have the issue with DD staying alone right? We had a few people cancel last minute for our wedding for non-emergency reasons and it was really annoying. e.g., a good friend from college who lived out of town had asked if they could bring their toddler because they didn't want to leave them with family. I said yes, then literally the day before the wedding she texts me "Sorry, Larla has been hating riding in the car lately so we won't be able to come after all."

[Anonymous]

This has already been a thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

lol if she wasn’t invited

[Anonymous]

Haven’t you posted this before? If you have a family matter preventing you from attending just send your regrets and send a card/gift if you feel inclined. No big deal.

On a separate note, I would get your daughter more comfortable with staying home alone. Fifteen is a bit old to not feel comfortable with this. And she has no friends?

[Anonymous]

Daughter has to stay home. Or you can just skip the wedding too. It's likely they will divorce in 5 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's really simple.

If you received your own invitation, which included a +1, and you RSVPed with a +1, you can tell them DH had to go out of town and you'd like to swap him for your daughter.

If your daughter would be an extra person not included in the plans, then you can't bring her to the reception. You could bring her to the ceremony if it's in a church, since that's a public place.

Usually couples aren't plus one it's Mr. and Mrs. two specific people. You don't get to just swap out whomever you feel like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP asked this a few weeks ago.

Someone did.

[Anonymous]

No it’s not okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP asked this a few weeks ago.

She did, I also remember it. What's wrong with people not only making up these crazy scenarios, but also reposting them later?

I’m a completely different OP. My kid is 15.

So … you read that thread, saw the uniformity of the responses … and thought maybe you would get a different answer if you asked the same thing?

Because why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP asked this a few weeks ago.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’ve posted this before only your DD was younger, you said tween. Do better with your trolling.

I’ve posted that that poster wasn’t me. But since it doesn’t seem ideal to ask, should I make my daughter stay home or tell my friend that I cannot attend?

You should have figured this out months ago when you RSVPd for the wedding.

Find someone to take your daughter or stay with her. But really, at 15, she should be fine alone - you’ll be in the same city, yes?

[Anonymous]

I don’t quite know what to say to you, OP.

First, if you received your own invitation, then presumably the bride or groom is your friend, not sure why you described this as your “friend’s sibling’s wedding.”

Next, you rsvp’d for you and your spouse, so it is rude this close to the wedding to cancel for your husband, absent last minute illness or emergency.

Last and most importantly, no you do not bring your 15 year old daughter, even to sub in for your husband. Bringing an uninvited teen with no connection to the bride/groom (like, family member or close family friend) is just not cool. And if your daughter is that anxious that she can’t stay home for an evening, you knew that when you rsvp’d so what did you think she’d do for the evening? Think of a family member or good friend of your with whom she is comfortable and can spend the evening, or have her stay at a friend’s house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’ve posted this before only your DD was younger, you said tween. Do better with your trolling.

I’ve posted that that poster wasn’t me. But since it doesn’t seem ideal to ask, should I make my daughter stay home or tell my friend that I cannot attend?

You should have figured this out months ago when you RSVPd for the wedding.

Find someone to take your daughter or stay with her. But really, at 15, she should be fine alone - you’ll be in the same city, yes?

This. Geez OP.