Is it OK to ask friend if my daughter can come to their sibling’s wedding?
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I’m supposed to attend a friend’s sibling’s wedding this weekend (ceremony + reception), but my 15 year old daughter really doesn’t want to stay home alone and gets anxious about it. She’s technically old enough, but evenings by herself make her nervous, and she doesn’t have any friends she could hang with.
The wedding will be several hours, and I’d be gone for both the ceremony and reception. I really want to be there for my friend since it’s an important family event, but I’m wondering… would it be inappropriate to ask if my daughter could come with me? WWYD? Ask the friend, have her stay home, or another solution? |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
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No. Do not ask. Please. It doesn’t sound like your daughter has any sort of relationship with the bride or groom.
I understand her being anxious and nervous, but that isn’t a reason to impose. Either don’t go or find someone to stay with your daughter or for your daughter to go somewhere. I’m a little amazed that at 15 she’s nervous staying home alone. And that a 15 there’s no family friends for her to go stay with. My son isn’t exactly a social butterfly, but there’s at least four families I could ask if we were in a pinch. |
Anonymous
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Do you have another friend who can hang out with her, doing something fun? (So not babysitting.)
Once the wedding is over, you might want to consider whether she is experiencing anxiety that would benefit from the help of a professional (or more help from a professional, if she is already getting it). |
Anonymous
| Are you totally socially inept? Absolutely not under any circumstances should you ask this! |
Anonymous
| Have her stay home. Reassure her that you will have your cell phone with you at all times should she need to reach you for an emergency. You need to start prepping her for the real world. She won't always have you by her side. |
Anonymous
| Is there a hotel onsite where the wedding is? If so, you could rent a room and she could hang there. |
Anonymous
| No, it's not okay. It sounds like your daughter has zero connection to the family. |
Anonymous
If it's summer you could also get a day pass/resort pass at the hotel so the daughter can use the pool and just hang out in the common spaces. |
Anonymous
Sounds like OP has zero connection to the bride and groom too (supporting a "friend" and it's the friend's sibling). This is fascinating. |
Anonymous
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Do you have a +1 for this wedding? Could your daughter just be your +1?
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Anonymous
| No, and why are you going if youare not friends? |
Anonymous
| I think if you're going to ask friends for favors, asking the mother of one of your daughter's friends if she could have a sleepover that night is way less awkward than asking a bride to add a kid she doesn't know. |
Anonymous
| I think OP asked this a few weeks ago. |
Anonymous
No, my husband will be away. She could be. |