Is it OK to ask friend if my daughter can come to their sibling’s wedding?

[Anonymous]

No, this is rude. Seriously nobody cares if you come or not.

[Anonymous]

Totally rude. And you need to get your daughter treatment for her anxiety. How is she going to go to college if she can't be home alone for a few hours?

If she has autism or another disability -- since you mention she has no friends -- that makes it developmentally inappropriate to stay home by herself, you need to cultivate a network of sitters with teen disability experience.

[Anonymous]

No. Get a babysitter.

[Anonymous]

Your daughter needs therapy and coping skills.

And you need an etiquette class.

[Anonymous]

You’ve posted this before only your DD was younger, you said tween. Do better with your trolling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think OP asked this a few weeks ago.

She did, I also remember it. What's wrong with people not only making up these crazy scenarios, but also reposting them later?

I’m a completely different OP. My kid is 15.

It was a virtually identical post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’ve posted this before only your DD was younger, you said tween. Do better with your trolling.

I’ve posted that that poster wasn’t me. But since it doesn’t seem ideal to ask, should I make my daughter stay home or tell my friend that I cannot attend?

[Anonymous]

Wait.

You’re your friend’s plus one.

And now you want your own plus one?

Where does it end? Should your daughter get a plus one too? And then they’ll need a plus one, and on and on. This is insanely rude, don’t do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’ve posted this before only your DD was younger, you said tween. Do better with your trolling.

I’ve posted that that poster wasn’t me. But since it doesn’t seem ideal to ask, should I make my daughter stay home or tell my friend that I cannot attend?

Your choice. The only thing I can't figure out is the wedding is THIS weekend. Why did you wait until the last minute to freak out about your kid being home alone? I'd be pretty annoyed as your friend if you bailed now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’ve posted this before only your DD was younger, you said tween. Do better with your trolling.

I’ve posted that that poster wasn’t me. But since it doesn’t seem ideal to ask, should I make my daughter stay home or tell my friend that I cannot attend?

Make her stay home! JFC when I was 15 I was living abroad with multiple host families 3000 miles from home in a culture and language that was totally unfamiliar while balancing school and college testing, not to mention losing family and friends in terrorist attacks. She can stay in her bedroom for a couple of hours and read. The Anxious Generation indeed.

[Anonymous]

if you are allowed a plus 1 bring her. if not, no you can't ask.

[Anonymous]

So we know how to help you understand, we need to know: OP, what is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So we know how to help you understand, we need to know: OP, what is wrong with you?

Anxiety and thinking the world revolves around them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:if you are allowed a plus 1 bring her. if not, no you can't ask.

No, if OP was allowed a plus 1, she should have indicated that already. The wedding is in 6 days, it's far too late to suddenly add a plus 1.

[Anonymous]

Best plan: Daughter stays home.
If that can't happen, then you contact your friend (I would call so it's a conversation vs just texting back and forth) and say something came up and DH will be out of town and DD is scared to stay home alone. So I won't be able to attend. Sorry!
If friend really wants you to go with her she will either suggest a solution or say, Bring DD.

That said, I had someone bring me to an event, swearing the host would love for me to attend, and it was very clear host was p*ssed. Friend was my ride, at a time when Ubers were not that prevalent, and it was a very long, uncomfortable night.