Skip the wedding to keep tween company?

[Anonymous]

DH and I have a wedding/reception to attend this weekend. Our tween isn’t invited and so she will be staying home, which she does, but doesn’t love. She tried to find a friend she could hang out with or spend the night with, but each had a conflict. No local family, local friends will also be at the wedding.

Thankfully the venue isn’t far, maybe 20 minutes, and the wedding will take place at the reception venue. The wedding is at 5, the reception promptly after.

I’m considering skipping the actual wedding (DH will attend) and spending as much time as I can with DD, heading over for the reception as soon as DH texts that the wedding is over. The reception goes until 10, so I figured this would make it so she only has to be alone for 4.5 hours max. But is this rude?

[Anonymous]

No ruder than them excluding one of your family members.

[Anonymous]

No problem.

[Anonymous]

The wedding is the point. Plus you probably RSVP'd for the meal.

Go to the wedding.

Check on/call your kid during cocktail hour.

Eat dinner then go home.

[Anonymous]

Attend the wedding, skip the reception

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wedding is the point. Plus you probably RSVP'd for the meal.

Go to the wedding.

Check on/call your kid during cocktail hour.

Eat dinner then go home.

The couple will not know if she was at the actual wedding, I promise you. They’ll see her at the reception and be happy she’s there, and be none the wiser.

[Anonymous]

Skip the wedding and spend as little time as possible at reception. Put your child first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Skip the wedding and spend as little time as possible at reception. Put your child first.

This is lunacy. A tween can be away from her mom for 2-3 hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Skip the wedding and spend as little time as possible at reception. Put your child first.

This is lunacy. A tween can be away from her mom for 2-3 hours.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Attend the wedding, skip the reception

+1. The wedding ceremony is the important part.

[Anonymous]

So you’re saving an extra 1/2 hour with your tween? No problem. Just be there for the reception part since you already rsvp’d.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Skip the wedding and spend as little time as possible at reception. Put your child first.

I agree with this

[Anonymous]

Are you sure the tween is not allowed at the ceremony? If that is just at a church, presumably anybody can just attend. Then you can just drop her off and go back to the reception for an hour and a half.

[Anonymous]

I vote for attending the reception. (And I'm a religious person.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The wedding is the point. Plus you probably RSVP'd for the meal.

Go to the wedding.

Check on/call your kid during cocktail hour.

Eat dinner then go home.

The couple will not know if she was at the actual wedding, I promise you. They’ll see her at the reception and be happy she’s there, and be none the wiser.

Do you go to weddings for the free food or to witness a pair bonding ceremony?

I noticed my coworker whose arrived late to the church for my wedding.

I wondered why I saw him on the way out but not on the way in. And it turns out he got lost and late and made it to the church after I went up the aisle.

I wasn't offended but I noticed.

And I think the wedding should be honored as the actual point.