1st Grader - Multiple Kissing Incidents by Other Student

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read the whole thread.

Also, for context, I frequently respond to posts telling parents to back off, to relax, to let their kids handle things. I’m a pretty free range parent (within reason).

I would raise holy hell about this. I would be the squeakiest wheel in the world. Three times? My child is never again to be in a room with this child. I will talk to the principal, the teacher, the AP, the school board, anyone. I’ll start a negative PR campaign if I have to - instagram, twitter, facebook, whatever “my child forced to be in a classroom with a child who has repeatedly tried to sexually abuse her at X school.”

I’d take a week off work and say I’ll be there, watching. I’d do things like bring her in in the morning, walk to the classroom, say “Is Larlo still in this class?” And if the answer was yes, take her home. Every day.

And I would do this all in full view and hearing of my daughter - she will know that this is NOT okay, that she is in charge of HER body, and mom will absolutely stand up for her on this no matter what.

Lawyers, advocates, whatever it takes. My child will NOT be in a class with that child, ever again, period.

I too would do anything to protect my child, but starting a social media campaign is the opposite of that.

Sounds like the school handled it, probably with the support of the other child's parents.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe that people are claiming it is sexual harassment. There is nothing sexual about the child kissing another child. Six year olds lack the capacity to commit crimes, a kiss to a child means love not sex. The school needs to get him under control and make him understand that he can’t kiss anyone except his family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your child needs to learn self defense. Put her in a karate or jujitsu class.

Beat up an autist? Sound like a plan

Why not? I’m autistic and I approve that method.

You’re not autistic, just awkward with poor social skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read the whole thread.

Also, for context, I frequently respond to posts telling parents to back off, to relax, to let their kids handle things. I’m a pretty free range parent (within reason).

I would raise holy hell about this. I would be the squeakiest wheel in the world. Three times? My child is never again to be in a room with this child. I will talk to the principal, the teacher, the AP, the school board, anyone. I’ll start a negative PR campaign if I have to - instagram, twitter, facebook, whatever “my child forced to be in a classroom with a child who has repeatedly tried to sexually abuse her at X school.”

I’d take a week off work and say I’ll be there, watching. I’d do things like bring her in in the morning, walk to the classroom, say “Is Larlo still in this class?” And if the answer was yes, take her home. Every day.

And I would do this all in full view and hearing of my daughter - she will know that this is NOT okay, that she is in charge of HER body, and mom will absolutely stand up for her on this no matter what.

Lawyers, advocates, whatever it takes. My child will NOT be in a class with that child, ever again, period.

Are you sure you shouldn't go burn down this six year old's house too? Maybe poison their dog too? You sound completely unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Not every kid comes from a loving and safe home. There’s a reason clinicians have terms like “childhood sexual behavior problems”. And yes it can apply to kids even younger than 6. Assume the following hypothetical situation… A boy who isn’t autistic, coerces his classmate on multiple occasions to go somewhere alone and forcibly kisses her (or even exposes himself) and tells her every time not to tell anyone. These types of situations actually play out and no they are not innocent and out of love. Quit claiming others don’t understand childhood development when in reality you’re just willfully naive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not every kid comes from a loving and safe home. There’s a reason clinicians have terms like “childhood sexual behavior problems”. And yes it can apply to kids even younger than 6. Assume the following hypothetical situation… A boy who isn’t autistic, coerces his classmate on multiple occasions to go somewhere alone and forcibly kisses her (or even exposes himself) and tells her every time not to tell anyone. These types of situations actually play out and no they are not innocent and out of love. Quit claiming others don’t understand childhood development when in reality you’re just willfully naive.

That’s not even close to what happened here. That would be a serious situation. Serious because the perpetrator is being abused at home and he is probably showing his penis or touching her, not kissing her. But the six year old is innocent, he’s repeating adult behavior and unlike teens or adults there is no intent to get sexual pleasure from it.

Your example would be one that the boy would have to be removed from school for safety reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe that people are claiming it is sexual harassment. There is nothing sexual about the child kissing another child. Six year olds lack the capacity to commit crimes, a kiss to a child means love not sex. The school needs to get him under control and make him understand that he can’t kiss anyone except his family.

the one "not crazy" comment on here ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your child needs to learn self defense. Put her in a karate or jujitsu class.

Beat up an autist? Sound like a plan

Why not? I’m autistic and I approve that method.

You’re not autistic, just awkward with poor social skills.

Thanks for your assessment. I’ll tell my physicians.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:autists have rights too

The same rights as everyone else

[Anonymous]

I'd have my daughter punch him very hard in the face and then run. The school will act swiftly then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd have my daughter punch him very hard in the face and then run. The school will act swiftly then.

I was going to say this too, then changed my mind, but since you posted - I'm with you on this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd have my daughter punch him very hard in the face and then run. The school will act swiftly then.

I was going to say this too, then changed my mind, but since you posted - I'm with you on this!

This is one example of why this country is becoming so trashy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd have my daughter punch him very hard in the face and then run. The school will act swiftly then.

I was going to say this too, then changed my mind, but since you posted - I'm with you on this!

This is one example of why this country is becoming so trashy.

My comment is that mentioning involving the police is overkill and they aren't going to do anything in OP's situation. Don't start throwing around the idea of police involvement casually. Maybe CPS or the superintendent if you want more authority figures. The police are for addressing crimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd have my daughter punch him very hard in the face and then run. The school will act swiftly then.

I was going to say this too, then changed my mind, but since you posted - I'm with you on this!

This is one example of why this country is becoming so trashy.

yup, it's "trashy" for a girl, after being kissed/touched multiple times after saying "no" and admin doing nothing about it, to protect herself... yeah, the kid is autistic, but maybe that would teach them boundaries - people on here suggest getting police involved, which is batshit crazy. I good whack teaches social norms much quicker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd have my daughter punch him very hard in the face and then run. The school will act swiftly then.

I was going to say this too, then changed my mind, but since you posted - I'm with you on this!

This is one example of why this country is becoming so trashy.

Trashy is the school taking their time on this issue and sending the message to this girl that things like this are not a big deal. Ot might not be sexual assault now because they are so young, but the way it is handled can influence the way her instincts regarding harassment and assault develop.

Punch him and punch him very hard!