1st Grader - Multiple Kissing Incidents by Other Student

[Anonymous]

Ok this thread is out of control.

OP no, do not call the police. Do not signal to your child that this is the “same as rape.” Do talk to the school to make sure they understand how upset your child is. They won’t be able to tell you exactly what they are doing but you can ask for a safety plan for your child. I would also suggest that if this is happening in the classroom, that you ask for your child to be switched to a new class. Forget fairness etc, you want to separate them.

On the other side of this, I do know SN parents who don’t take this kind of thing (unwanted kissing/hugging) seriously and think it is even cute. So you are well within your rights to make a big deal of it so they get better supports.

[Anonymous]

In addition to what's been said, I would make sure your daughter knows she doesn't have to be nice to this other child. I always tell my kids we give everyone 2 chances, and then my kids know they can do/say whatever they need to do without worrying about hurting anyone else's feelings. They also know they need to tell the teacher. Every. Single. Time.

[Anonymous]

The woke crowd probably thinks this is cute

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other child absolutely needs to be moved to another classroom.

That will likely not happen, everyone ties themselves into knots to make sure the problem kids get "the least restrictive environment". Op would have more luck getting their own child moved.

OP, document, document, document. Email the teacher, cc the vice president and the principal. Do not let up until this stops, be the squeaky wheel and protect your child. We all know darn good and well the other child has a parent advocating for them to be in the classroom. Eyeroll.

It is not OP’s child’s responsibility to move. If admin won’t find a solution, document everything and be willing to file a police report (sexual harassment/assault). Because that’s what this is.

I agree with you 100%. The other child SHOULD move. But that’s not what will realistically happen.

[Anonymous]

Ick .. Germs
I'd simply ask for my kid to be moved.

There was one in our kids class.. Constantly tugging on her pigtails ..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other child absolutely needs to be moved to another classroom.

That will likely not happen, everyone ties themselves into knots to make sure the problem kids get "the least restrictive environment". Op would have more luck getting their own child moved.

OP, document, document, document. Email the teacher, cc the vice president and the principal. Do not let up until this stops, be the squeaky wheel and protect your child. We all know darn good and well the other child has a parent advocating for them to be in the classroom. Eyeroll.

It is not OP’s child’s responsibility to move. If admin won’t find a solution, document everything and be willing to file a police report (sexual harassment/assault). Because that’s what this is.

I agree with you 100%. The other child SHOULD move. But that’s not what will realistically happen.

Is it happening in the classroom though? In my v limited experience, this kind of stuff happens at recess and lunch. Idk if moving the kid necessarily solves the problem.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am sure you are doing this but in addition to demanding the school take steps to shut this down I would make sure you are listening to your daughter very carefully and taking her feelings seriously. Not telling her how to feel but agreeing this is not ok and that you are glad she told you and the adults at school need to make sure this stops. The kissing her while she physically resisted is particularly upsetting. I would absolutely tell her she can make sure he’s not close to her and recess and it’s fine for her to scream leave me alone at the top of her lungs if he starts coming into her space again. She absolutely does not have to go along with this in any way regardless of

I would move classes over this, if they are in the same class. The school is going to have its hands tied to some extent for better or for worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

This is akin to r ape

Get the F U C K out of here with that sht.


OP, does this child have a para or assigned a 1-1 staff member?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok this thread is out of control.

OP no, do not call the police. Do not signal to your child that this is the “same as rape.” Do talk to the school to make sure they understand how upset your child is. They won’t be able to tell you exactly what they are doing but you can ask for a safety plan for your child. I would also suggest that if this is happening in the classroom, that you ask for your child to be switched to a new class. Forget fairness etc, you want to separate them.

On the other side of this, I do know SN parents who don’t take this kind of thing (unwanted kissing/hugging) seriously and think it is even cute. So you are well within your rights to make a big deal of it so they get better supports.

And I know SN parents who DO take it incredibly seriously - please don’t lump us all together. The other kids’ parents may well BEGGING for more support for their kid or a more restrictive placement and getting the brush off.

Definitely report every time. To the principal’s boss. Demand a safety plan and if a classroom switch would help and your kid is on board, do that. It doesn’t solve the problem but it solves your problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok this thread is out of control.

OP no, do not call the police. Do not signal to your child that this is the “same as rape.” Do talk to the school to make sure they understand how upset your child is. They won’t be able to tell you exactly what they are doing but you can ask for a safety plan for your child. I would also suggest that if this is happening in the classroom, that you ask for your child to be switched to a new class. Forget fairness etc, you want to separate them.

On the other side of this, I do know SN parents who don’t take this kind of thing (unwanted kissing/hugging) seriously and think it is even cute. So you are well within your rights to make a big deal of it so they get better supports.

And I know SN parents who DO take it incredibly seriously - please don’t lump us all together. The other kids’ parents may well BEGGING for more support for their kid or a more restrictive placement and getting the brush off.

Definitely report every time. To the principal’s boss. Demand a safety plan and if a classroom switch would help and your kid is on board, do that. It doesn’t solve the problem but it solves your problem.

+1. The school is going to provide the absolute minimum services they can get away with in many cases due to the cost. Schools are asked to do more then their budgets can reasonably cover. You and your kid need to report, report, report.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

Shame on you for telling someone to relax in this situation. His disability does not trump her (or any other child’s) ability to learn in a safe environment. Non-disabled students have rights too.

I didn't say it did, you idiot. If you only read the rest of my post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

Parents like Relax Gladys are the ones whose sons turn out like the Alexander brothers.

Parents like you are the reason we have Trump in office. Incapable of reading. Incapable of sympathy. Calling a 6 year old autistic child sick is beoyod disgusting as are you. Now go back and read the rest of my post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

Oh yes and you probably relax when males nonchalantly go into female bathrooms because they can

Eff off!!! Seriously. These are 6 year olds. NEver once did I say this behavior is ok.

[Anonymous]

I would tell the principal the next time it happens you are filing police report. Document every discussion, every call first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

Shame on you for telling someone to relax in this situation. His disability does not trump her (or any other child’s) ability to learn in a safe environment. Non-disabled students have rights too.

I didn't say it did, you idiot. If you only read the rest of my post.

Don’t backtrack you loser