1st Grader - Multiple Kissing Incidents by Other Student

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Email the Teacher, principal, vice Principal and Counselor. Tell them that your daughter is very upset with the boy forcing himself on her. Insist that they provide a safety plan for your daughter.

They won’t tell you what they are doing with the other child. Teach your child to knee him in the groin. If he is forcing himself on her, not listening to no, not stopping when pushed away, then knee him in the groin.

Problem is her child will get in trouble. My kid pushed another kid off him and he got sent to the office every day for a week (I didn't know till it was after the fact and I was pissed). I had no issue with my child protecting themselves after we complained repeatedly.

I would rather my kid get in trouble defending themselves than allow the behavior to continue. And I would raise hell if the school tried to punish my child for defending themselves when they had been sexually assaulted four times. The school is aware of the problem and is not addressing it. If my kid defends themselves because the school has not removed the assailant then they are to blame.

[Anonymous]

Would any adult laugh off a coworker repeatedly trying to kiss them? Even if the coworker had a disability?

No. Because it’s sexual harrassment/assault.

Why we expect kids to tolerate the same behavior is beyond me.

[Anonymous]

We received a phone call from the principal and vice principal today. They moved the child to a different classroom, and are sending him to recess and with an aide and he will not be allowed to be in the same playground zone as our daughter or on the same side of the lunchroom.

They offered school psychological services to our daughter, to have the psychologist talk to her about her feelings, and how she did the right thing telling adults and it’s never okay for someone to kiss you or touch you when you say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We received a phone call from the principal and vice principal today. They moved the child to a different classroom, and are sending him to recess and with an aide and he will not be allowed to be in the same playground zone as our daughter or on the same side of the lunchroom.

They offered school psychological services to our daughter, to have the psychologist talk to her about her feelings, and how she did the right thing telling adults and it’s never okay for someone to kiss you or touch you when you say no.

Wow. I bet they called the kid's parent and the parent immediately agreed to have the kid moved to a different class. I hope your daughter is comfortable with the outcome and I hope this kid does better in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We received a phone call from the principal and vice principal today. They moved the child to a different classroom, and are sending him to recess and with an aide and he will not be allowed to be in the same playground zone as our daughter or on the same side of the lunchroom.

They offered school psychological services to our daughter, to have the psychologist talk to her about her feelings, and how she did the right thing telling adults and it’s never okay for someone to kiss you or touch you when you say no.

Wow. I bet they called the kid's parent and the parent immediately agreed to have the kid moved to a different class. I hope your daughter is comfortable with the outcome and I hope this kid does better in the future.

Yes if they're good parents they want their kid to be taught social norms. Talking to the kid at home often doesn't get through for kids with autism or similar issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your child needs to learn self defense. Put her in a karate or jujitsu class.

Beat up an autist? Sound like a plan

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would any adult laugh off a coworker repeatedly trying to kiss them? Even if the coworker had a disability?

No. Because it’s sexual harrassment/assault.

Why we expect kids to tolerate the same behavior is beyond me.

LITERALLY NO ONE is laughing this off or saying the child should tolerate it. That doesn't mean that the first thing they should do is go to the police FFS. Use your heads, people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We received a phone call from the principal and vice principal today. They moved the child to a different classroom, and are sending him to recess and with an aide and he will not be allowed to be in the same playground zone as our daughter or on the same side of the lunchroom.

They offered school psychological services to our daughter, to have the psychologist talk to her about her feelings, and how she did the right thing telling adults and it’s never okay for someone to kiss you or touch you when you say no.

I am so glad to hear this update

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We received a phone call from the principal and vice principal today. They moved the child to a different classroom, and are sending him to recess and with an aide and he will not be allowed to be in the same playground zone as our daughter or on the same side of the lunchroom.

They offered school psychological services to our daughter, to have the psychologist talk to her about her feelings, and how she did the right thing telling adults and it’s never okay for someone to kiss you or touch you when you say no.

That is great. I think it is important that your daughter see that it was taken seriously and that the child was moved and she was protected.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t read the whole thread.

Also, for context, I frequently respond to posts telling parents to back off, to relax, to let their kids handle things. I’m a pretty free range parent (within reason).

I would raise holy hell about this. I would be the squeakiest wheel in the world. Three times? My child is never again to be in a room with this child. I will talk to the principal, the teacher, the AP, the school board, anyone. I’ll start a negative PR campaign if I have to - instagram, twitter, facebook, whatever “my child forced to be in a classroom with a child who has repeatedly tried to sexually abuse her at X school.”

I’d take a week off work and say I’ll be there, watching. I’d do things like bring her in in the morning, walk to the classroom, say “Is Larlo still in this class?” And if the answer was yes, take her home. Every day.

And I would do this all in full view and hearing of my daughter - she will know that this is NOT okay, that she is in charge of HER body, and mom will absolutely stand up for her on this no matter what.

Lawyers, advocates, whatever it takes. My child will NOT be in a class with that child, ever again, period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read the whole thread.

Also, for context, I frequently respond to posts telling parents to back off, to relax, to let their kids handle things. I’m a pretty free range parent (within reason).

I would raise holy hell about this. I would be the squeakiest wheel in the world. Three times? My child is never again to be in a room with this child. I will talk to the principal, the teacher, the AP, the school board, anyone. I’ll start a negative PR campaign if I have to - instagram, twitter, facebook, whatever “my child forced to be in a classroom with a child who has repeatedly tried to sexually abuse her at X school.”

I’d take a week off work and say I’ll be there, watching. I’d do things like bring her in in the morning, walk to the classroom, say “Is Larlo still in this class?” And if the answer was yes, take her home. Every day.

And I would do this all in full view and hearing of my daughter - she will know that this is NOT okay, that she is in charge of HER body, and mom will absolutely stand up for her on this no matter what.

Lawyers, advocates, whatever it takes. My child will NOT be in a class with that child, ever again, period.

PP here. I just saw the OP’s update - I’m so glad! Sounds like a great resolution!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other child absolutely needs to be moved to another classroom.

This will never happen. OP's child will be moved.

OP, you need to ask where the child's aide is in all of this. I assume s/he has a full time aide?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your child needs to learn self defense. Put her in a karate or jujitsu class.

Beat up an autist? Sound like a plan

This kid is going to get beat up in a serious way if he keeps it up with this kind of behavior. An early lesson via a knee to the groin from another 6 year old could truly be a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t read the whole thread.

Also, for context, I frequently respond to posts telling parents to back off, to relax, to let their kids handle things. I’m a pretty free range parent (within reason).

I would raise holy hell about this. I would be the squeakiest wheel in the world. Three times? My child is never again to be in a room with this child. I will talk to the principal, the teacher, the AP, the school board, anyone. I’ll start a negative PR campaign if I have to - instagram, twitter, facebook, whatever “my child forced to be in a classroom with a child who has repeatedly tried to sexually abuse her at X school.”

I’d take a week off work and say I’ll be there, watching. I’d do things like bring her in in the morning, walk to the classroom, say “Is Larlo still in this class?” And if the answer was yes, take her home. Every day.

And I would do this all in full view and hearing of my daughter - she will know that this is NOT okay, that she is in charge of HER body, and mom will absolutely stand up for her on this no matter what.

Lawyers, advocates, whatever it takes. My child will NOT be in a class with that child, ever again, period.

You are my kind of mom. I’d also demand that the school call me immediately the next time it happens so that I can file a police report.

And yes, I saw the update and am very glad to hear it. Hope he doesn’t start assaulting some other poor little girl in the new class. This is how we create men with no boundaries or accountability! They always have some excuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

Shame on you for telling someone to relax in this situation. His disability does not trump her (or any other child’s) ability to learn in a safe environment. Non-disabled students have rights too.

She is safe, that word is constantly misused. She is in a distressing situation and nobody seems to help her. The boy needs an aide. He can’t control himself and if they insist on putting him in a regular class they need to provide an aide.