1st Grader - Multiple Kissing Incidents by Other Student

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other child absolutely needs to be moved to another classroom.

This will never happen. OP's child will be moved.

OP, you need to ask where the child's aide is in all of this. I assume s/he has a full time aide?

Did you read the update? The problematic child was moved, as he should have been.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

Shame on you for telling someone to relax in this situation. His disability does not trump her (or any other child’s) ability to learn in a safe environment. Non-disabled students have rights too.

She is safe, that word is constantly misused. She is in a distressing situation and nobody seems to help her. The boy needs an aide. He can’t control himself and if they insist on putting him in a regular class they need to provide an aide.

No, she was not safe. What is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

Shame on you for telling someone to relax in this situation. His disability does not trump her (or any other child’s) ability to learn in a safe environment. Non-disabled students have rights too.

She is safe, that word is constantly misused. She is in a distressing situation and nobody seems to help her. The boy needs an aide. He can’t control himself and if they insist on putting him in a regular class they need to provide an aide.

No that is ridiculous to say he can't control it. If there were a consequence like being made to go to recess at a different time or sent to a different area for recess like a kindergarten yard with other children he isn't kissing, he would actually learn you can't hold down other people and make sexual advances. Guarantee he isn't kissing anyone older, bigger, stronger, or anyone who is able to slug him back.

This is actually a public health risk to have a student force his mouth onto someone else's mouth. Kissing can transmit infections spread through saliva, respiratory droplets, or skin-to-skin contact,The student could be transmitting: Herpes Simplex Virus Type 1 (HSV-1, causes cold sores), Epstein-Barr virus (Mononucleosis), Cytomegalovirus (CMV); hand foot mouth disease, RSV, etc.

If a student with or without special needs gives my kid a push, a kick, a pinch, I obviously would not be thrilled, but it can be part of early elementary school and learning to get along. I just let those things go. However, I would be up in arms if another kid was physically holding my child and kissing them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your child needs to learn self defense. Put her in a karate or jujitsu class.

+1

We used to wear timberlands to school for things like this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We received a phone call from the principal and vice principal today. They moved the child to a different classroom, and are sending him to recess and with an aide and he will not be allowed to be in the same playground zone as our daughter or on the same side of the lunchroom.

They offered school psychological services to our daughter, to have the psychologist talk to her about her feelings, and how she did the right thing telling adults and it’s never okay for someone to kiss you or touch you when you say no.

Glad they saw this post!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

Shame on you for telling someone to relax in this situation. His disability does not trump her (or any other child’s) ability to learn in a safe environment. Non-disabled students have rights too.

It's not "sick."
And autistic or not, kids kissing others is still not sick, they are kids. The behavior needs to stop, and it will, but stop with the deviant $#!++.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your child needs to learn self defense. Put her in a karate or jujitsu class.

Beat up an autist? Sound like a plan

Why not? I’m autistic and I approve that method.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

This is akin to r ape

Omg, no it is not. This is really disgusting that this is where your mind goes. Get help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would any adult laugh off a coworker repeatedly trying to kiss them? Even if the coworker had a disability?

No. Because it’s sexual harrassment/assault.

Why we expect kids to tolerate the same behavior is beyond me.

They are not adults. They are 6 years old. Yes, this is not unusual for kids and certainly not for autistic kids. Get a grip.

Some of these answers are very concerning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other child absolutely needs to be moved to another classroom.

This will never happen. OP's child will be moved.

OP, you need to ask where the child's aide is in all of this. I assume s/he has a full time aide?

Did you read the update? The problematic child was moved, as he should have been.

No I didn’t fool

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would any adult laugh off a coworker repeatedly trying to kiss them? Even if the coworker had a disability?

No. Because it’s sexual harrassment/assault.

Why we expect kids to tolerate the same behavior is beyond me.

They are not adults. They are 6 years old. Yes, this is not unusual for kids and certainly not for autistic kids. Get a grip.

Some of these answers are very concerning.

+1. I'm glad that the school took several actions to address it, because the behavior is unacceptable and should not be tolerated. But the people suggesting a police report is the answer are unhinged. This kid is 6.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your child needs to learn self defense. Put her in a karate or jujitsu class.

Beat up an autist? Sound like a plan

So you would let someone assault you because they have autism and not defend yourself? What?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would any adult laugh off a coworker repeatedly trying to kiss them? Even if the coworker had a disability?

No. Because it’s sexual harrassment/assault.

Why we expect kids to tolerate the same behavior is beyond me.

They are not adults. They are 6 years old. Yes, this is not unusual for kids and certainly not for autistic kids. Get a grip.

Some of these answers are very concerning.

+1. I'm glad that the school took several actions to address it, because the behavior is unacceptable and should not be tolerated. But the people suggesting a police report is the answer are unhinged. This kid is 6.

Yes, they have suggested it's deviant and sick behavior, akin to rape- which is more shocking than the actual incident (s) here.
This is so concerning because it shows how out of touch people are with child development, special needs, children in general, school issues, and how so much is pathologized, and actually, their view of this as deviance is actually very, very disturbing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We received a phone call from the principal and vice principal today. They moved the child to a different classroom, and are sending him to recess and with an aide and he will not be allowed to be in the same playground zone as our daughter or on the same side of the lunchroom.

They offered school psychological services to our daughter, to have the psychologist talk to her about her feelings, and how she did the right thing telling adults and it’s never okay for someone to kiss you or touch you when you say no.

Thanks for the update.
Very appropriate actions taken by the school.

[Anonymous]

autists have rights too