1st Grader - Multiple Kissing Incidents by Other Student

[Anonymous]

My first grader is being forcibly kissed at school by a male classmate (who is autistic). She has resisted this and attempts to prevent it. Her teacher notified us that the assistant principal was involved in disciplinary action with the most recent incident last week.

We are aware of at least 3 such recents forced kissing incidents, and in the most recent two attempts our daughter has detailed how, in addition to saying no, she has physically attempted to ward off the student and he still comes back to try and force kiss her anyway, which is very concerning. This behavior is upsetting and we are very unhappy to hear about its continuation.

We are concerned for our daughter's safety and for potential escalation, as the student does not appear to respect our daughter's boundaries.

What should our next steps be?

[Anonymous]

If the Assistant Principal is involved then he/she should have contacted you. If they haven't yet, you should call them and ask for an update and what their plan is to protect your daughter.

[Anonymous]

This is sick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

It's pretty normal for some autistic kids.

[Anonymous]

You should request a safety plan (use that term) with specific information about keeping them apart.

[Anonymous]

The other child absolutely needs to be moved to another classroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

Shame on you for telling someone to relax in this situation. His disability does not trump her (or any other child’s) ability to learn in a safe environment. Non-disabled students have rights too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other child absolutely needs to be moved to another classroom.

That will likely not happen, everyone ties themselves into knots to make sure the problem kids get "the least restrictive environment". Op would have more luck getting their own child moved.

OP, document, document, document. Email the teacher, cc the vice president and the principal. Do not let up until this stops, be the squeaky wheel and protect your child. We all know darn good and well the other child has a parent advocating for them to be in the classroom. Eyeroll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other child absolutely needs to be moved to another classroom.

That will likely not happen, everyone ties themselves into knots to make sure the problem kids get "the least restrictive environment". Op would have more luck getting their own child moved.

OP, document, document, document. Email the teacher, cc the vice president and the principal. Do not let up until this stops, be the squeaky wheel and protect your child. We all know darn good and well the other child has a parent advocating for them to be in the classroom. Eyeroll.

It is not OP’s child’s responsibility to move. If admin won’t find a solution, document everything and be willing to file a police report (sexual harassment/assault). Because that’s what this is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

Shame on you for telling someone to relax in this situation. His disability does not trump her (or any other child’s) ability to learn in a safe environment. Non-disabled students have rights too.

And not shutting down this behavior does the autistic kid no favors. Coddling this stuff will lead him into worse situations later.

Your daughter is being harassed and assaulted at school, it is imperative thr school takes swift action.

[Anonymous]

A police report quickly reminds administrators what their actual responsibilities are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

This is akin to r ape

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

Oh yes and you probably relax when males nonchalantly go into female bathrooms because they can

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is sick

Relax Gladys. They are in 1st grade, and he is autistic.

OP. I'm sorry this is happening to your child. Absolutely demand a safety plan from the school. It's their job to keep your child safe while in their care.

Parents like Relax Gladys are the ones whose sons turn out like the Alexander brothers.