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SAHM with a second on the way. Need more help!
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Anonymous
It sounds like you make things up. What part did I write to show I don’t like my kids. You’re evil! |
Anonymous
As we know, everyone has flexible jobs and are in the same position. |
Anonymous
| Wild. Pretty sweet gig for the rich pillow princesses. |
Anonymous
What would you call yourself? |
Anonymous
Stay poor and jealous! 😭 |
Anonymous
Insane, I don’t even think a working mom needs that much help let alone a stay at home mom. |
Anonymous
| OP, hire as much help as you need. People here are so judgy. In other countries (Asia, Middle East, etc) it’s perfectly normal to have a full-time live-in nanny even if the wife doesn’t work. I don’t see what the big deal is if you have the means to afford it. |
Anonymous
It doesn't sound like op can afford full-time live-in help. She's too poor. |
Anonymous
| Definitely put your kids in daycare. You'll have enough time to focus on your appearance, you won't need as much house cleaning, and your kids will experience a bond with a caregiver. It's the perfect solution. |
Anonymous
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You guys are so nuts. If someone wants to be a SAHM, there's no reason not to hire help if she can afford it.
As a SAHM, time for myself is the thing I want to buy most. Over vacations, cars, houses, clothes, whatever else. It makes me a happier person. And a better mom. You can buy a Toyota instead of a Volvo and have 20 hours of childcare for a year. There's no clause in staying at home that says you have to be with your kids 24-7 and can never have a break. If that were the case, I wouldn't do it! I would work full time even if my whole salary went to child care. I don't understand why people on this board are so hard on moms paying for time off. |
Anonymous
| Yeah these moms are all nuts! The posts exudes jealousy. There’s no rule about being a SAHM. It’s normal to have help. With no husband help, why wouldn’t she hire help? |
Anonymous
Yikes! All these assumptions |
Anonymous
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If I was a SAHM of a toddler with #2 on the way, and I had endless money, I'd want:
1) A night nanny until baby sleeps through the night, 4-5 nights a week. 2) Daytime help for all hours when my husband was out of the house until the baby was about 4 months old. I have three, and I truly never understood how SAHMs handle the newborn stage - my kids were in their usual child care during the day when newborn #2 and #3 came around, so when I was on parental leave, it was just me and the newborn. I can't imagine also managing a toddler during that time. 3) After baby is about four months, I'd move the daytime help to just two mornings a week, and I'd take one to myself and one to do chores/deal with crap that's hard with tiny kids around while the nanny watched both kids. 4) After baby is sleeping through the night, a weekly evening sitter so my husband and I could go out on dates. 5) If I truly had a gazillion dollars, some way of getting meals during the newborn stage and maybe even beyond. Personal chef? Something delivered? Not sure what the options are. I love my kids to the moon and back and I love spending time with them but the newborn stage is HARD. If you've got money to throw at it, throw the money! |
Anonymous
| Are you using a surrogate? That would help because you won't have to get your body back. |
Anonymous
| Op, don't you miss the early 1900s when rich people had nannies take care of their children and they only had to see them for a short time before dinner. |