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Anonymous
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I am a SAHM of a very energetic toddler. He’ll have his nanny 4x a week for the mornings. I’m thinking of getting more help for when my newborn is here. How do you SAHMs deal with 2+ kids especially a toddler and newborn. Any tips?
If I do get a part time evening helper. What should I have the helper do? Thinking around 10 hours a week. |
Anonymous
| Lol...or you could get a job if you are hiring that much help... |
Anonymous
Why? I do love being with my toddler. Getting some morning help with him so I can run errands, have some time to myself and do some housework uninterrupted is a great thing. |
Anonymous
| You shouldn’t be a SAHM if you need that much hired help. Just work. I stayed at home for 10 years with 3 kids and a spouse who traveled weekly. No hired help. I just can’t believe you think you need that much help with two kids when you don’t work. |
Anonymous
How many errands can you possibly have to do? |
Anonymous
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I’ve had some health issues so I do have an about 3 doctor appointments a week. The evening helper would be temporary. Thinking 6-12 weeks during postpartum.
My toddler has his nanny 3x a week for 12 hours total and will be seeing her one additional day during postpartum. I’m not sure what the issue is. |
Anonymous
So you’re saying you had zero help. Even no family help? |
Anonymous
Depends, I do have about 3 doctor appointments a week, then I do house related work and then some time for myself if I have extra time. |
Anonymous
Zero paid or regular help with childcare. 1 x month cleaning lady. When family would visit they’d help but that wasn’t often. I relied on friends if I had a Dr appt and spouse was out of town. I did do part-time morning preschool around age 3 for each kid. I don’t think this is only the way to do it, but the amount of help OP is describing is nuts for a SAHM. Just seems pointless to stay at home if you want to farm that many hours a week of childcare. |
Anonymous
So you find having a part time help to be nuts, but you find part time preschool to be what? My son’s part time nanny takes him to enrichment classes while I am off in the mornings. You see very judgy. What do you call having a cleaning lady as well? Oh and having a spouse available or friends available? Do you think everyone is in the same position as you? |
Anonymous
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Another SAHM with zero help also thinks it odd that you already have help with one (most SAHMs don't have amy), and need more help for a second. You can nurse the baby while reading bedtime stories to the toddler, but the baby in a bouncy seat on the floor of the bathroom while giving toddler a bath, in the bouncy seat or napping while making dinner, etc
What do you think you will actually need help with when the baby comes? |
Anonymous
NP. It sounds like you only like being with your toddler for a short amount of time each day. You can run errands with a toddler. Teach them how to behave in public without a screen. Your "time to yourself" is when you're in the shower. It doesn't seem like you want to be a full time parent at all, so you may as well go back to work and let people who love being with kids all day be with yours. |
Anonymous
“Time to yourself” is when you’re in the shower. Lol I bet you’re the mother who thinks a great mother is one who sacrifices everything and stresses herself out. Spare me! |
Anonymous
The extra help would be during the postpartum (about 6-8 weeks). I’m thinking I would need help with food prep, laundry, and cleaning. |
Anonymous
Are you a single parent? Why can't your partner do food prep, laundry and cleaning? |