Has anyone else just resigned to being single?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not "resigned" to it. I like being single. I make all the choices, I get what I want, nobody has any standing to have an opinion about how I live my life... Being single is pretty great. I don't get lonely because I have work to do and friends and a hobby (several, actually) that I love. I have pets for generic affection. I've always been able to get myself off just fine, and the thought of having another human around to "provide sex" is disgustingly transactional to me (not judging; you do you/yours however you like, provided it's consensual).

I've been happily single for long enough that it would take a minor miracle for me to ever couple up again. I'm not inherently opposed, but a potential partner's presence has to be better than my solitude. I don't need someone to complete me, or pay for me, or take care of me. I don't want someone who needs to be completed, or carried, or managed. That's a pretty slim window of opportunity. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, I'm good. I'm definitely not looking to give up my solitude to whatever nonsense headgames people are playing on dating apps and the like. I'm old-fashioned, or maybe just old, but OLD isn't for me.

Have you ever had a great romantic relationship? That's the part I would have a hard time living without. I love being in love.

She is pretty sad. This is extreme individualism. Humans need each other, as couples, as family members, as friends and community.

[Anonymous]

Has anyone else just resigned to being single?

Yes people with inflated sense of self worth and who try to find partners outside their lane.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not "resigned" to it. I like being single. I make all the choices, I get what I want, nobody has any standing to have an opinion about how I live my life... Being single is pretty great. I don't get lonely because I have work to do and friends and a hobby (several, actually) that I love. I have pets for generic affection. I've always been able to get myself off just fine, and the thought of having another human around to "provide sex" is disgustingly transactional to me (not judging; you do you/yours however you like, provided it's consensual).

I've been happily single for long enough that it would take a minor miracle for me to ever couple up again. I'm not inherently opposed, but a potential partner's presence has to be better than my solitude. I don't need someone to complete me, or pay for me, or take care of me. I don't want someone who needs to be completed, or carried, or managed. That's a pretty slim window of opportunity. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, I'm good. I'm definitely not looking to give up my solitude to whatever nonsense headgames people are playing on dating apps and the like. I'm old-fashioned, or maybe just old, but OLD isn't for me.

Have you ever had a great romantic relationship? That's the part I would have a hard time living without. I love being in love.

She is pretty sad. This is extreme individualism. Humans need each other, as couples, as family members, as friends and community.

Plenty of people opt into filling their lives with family members, friends, and community, and simply do not need a "one" person who is supposed to be their everything. It's actually the smarter decision to diversify.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone else just resigned to being single?

Yes people with inflated sense of self worth and who try to find partners outside their lane.

You sound personally offended - why? There are hundreds of millions of people in this country alone -- find one (or two, or three) that believes in romantic love and wants a partner and don't worry about those who opt out.

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I have four daughters. Three are married. Two have kids. Our single daughter is a great person with a full and rich life and many friends. She’s a fantastic aunt, sibling and daughter and we all adore her.

She also has zero interest in a romantic partner and never has. She’s not “resigned” to it like accepting a curse—she prefers it. Just as the of our married daughter without kids prefers that and isn’t “resigned” to you.

Some of you people really have a lot to learn. It’s 2025. The

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Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son.

Apparently the majority of women are completely screwing up the raising of their children.

Or maybe, if you meet one man who is a poorly raised idiot, the problem was him, but if the majority of men you meet are poorly raised idiots, the problem is you.

I see someone's poorly raised idiot son has entered the chat. If you weren't such a mouth breather, it would occur to you that adult males being such useless wastes of space piss is why their sons continue to be damaged. It wasn't your mom's job to teach you how to be a man.

You need to calm down.

-a woman (and the pp has a point: one is a fluke, but if "the majority" of the men you're attracted to are "someone's poorly raised idiot son", the common factor there is YOU).

Masterful defense. Your reward is having lost valuable minutes of your life. Men don't care about women like you and I certainly don't care either.

You speak for all men now? Maybe instead of arguing on the internet over things you claim to not care about, you should spend 5 quiet minutes taking some deep breaths and remembering where you and your responsibilities stop. Your arrogance is probably a large part of your problem with half the population.

Wow, the truth really hurt you. I guess I hope you're able to heal in time?

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Anonymous wrote:These posts make me sad, having a life partner is a really incredible thing. Besides companionship, sex, etc., relationships stretch you and make you grow as a person in a way that nothing else can. It’s true there are trade offs … you might actually have to make compromises and not do what you want to do all the time, and there may be times when you actually feel like you’re pulling much more than your weight (gasp!), and you need to be OK. Marriages are built over msny years, rough patches happen and are to be expected. But in my opinion it’s worth it. We are growing up in a time where selfishness is praised as a virtue. Yes, an abusive relationship would suck, but not all relationships are abusive just because they involve compromise. Sure, most people you meet you won’t be compatible with, but sometimes things that are worth having to work. It’s worth it to actively seek out a good partner. Don’t throw the baby out the bathwater.

If your marriage was so great, you'd be secure in that instead of trying to recruit to the thankless ordeal that heterosexual marriage is for women. Misery loves company and you, my poor dear, are miserable. I've been there. I sang the praises of marriage hardest when I used to fantasize about my ex being hit by a bus.

NP but I'm in a happy marriage and I think it's sad that you can't recognize that they exist. That's YOUR issue, but you'd rather project onto the PP. Talk about misery loving company... If you're so happy being single then why are you being so mean?

You're so happily married that you're trolling the relationship section of DCUM for people to fight with. Makes sense!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not "resigned" to it. I like being single. I make all the choices, I get what I want, nobody has any standing to have an opinion about how I live my life... Being single is pretty great. I don't get lonely because I have work to do and friends and a hobby (several, actually) that I love. I have pets for generic affection. I've always been able to get myself off just fine, and the thought of having another human around to "provide sex" is disgustingly transactional to me (not judging; you do you/yours however you like, provided it's consensual).

I've been happily single for long enough that it would take a minor miracle for me to ever couple up again. I'm not inherently opposed, but a potential partner's presence has to be better than my solitude. I don't need someone to complete me, or pay for me, or take care of me. I don't want someone who needs to be completed, or carried, or managed. That's a pretty slim window of opportunity. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, I'm good. I'm definitely not looking to give up my solitude to whatever nonsense headgames people are playing on dating apps and the like. I'm old-fashioned, or maybe just old, but OLD isn't for me.

Have you ever had a great romantic relationship? That's the part I would have a hard time living without. I love being in love.

NP. You have issues. Your life is worth more than the cheap high of idol worshipping someone until you get mugged by reality.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not "resigned" to it. I like being single. I make all the choices, I get what I want, nobody has any standing to have an opinion about how I live my life... Being single is pretty great. I don't get lonely because I have work to do and friends and a hobby (several, actually) that I love. I have pets for generic affection. I've always been able to get myself off just fine, and the thought of having another human around to "provide sex" is disgustingly transactional to me (not judging; you do you/yours however you like, provided it's consensual).

I've been happily single for long enough that it would take a minor miracle for me to ever couple up again. I'm not inherently opposed, but a potential partner's presence has to be better than my solitude. I don't need someone to complete me, or pay for me, or take care of me. I don't want someone who needs to be completed, or carried, or managed. That's a pretty slim window of opportunity. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, I'm good. I'm definitely not looking to give up my solitude to whatever nonsense headgames people are playing on dating apps and the like. I'm old-fashioned, or maybe just old, but OLD isn't for me.

Have you ever had a great romantic relationship? That's the part I would have a hard time living without. I love being in love.

She is pretty sad. This is extreme individualism. Humans need each other, as couples, as family members, as friends and community.

Plenty of people opt into filling their lives with family members, friends, and community, and simply do not need a "one" person who is supposed to be their everything. It's actually the smarter decision to diversify.

Not PP but I am a woman and I have very close girl friends, very close guy friends, wonderful co-workers, and tons of acquaintances, BUT I don't feel the same about any of them as I do my husband. Of course he's not my everything, but I couldn't replace our relationship with any combination of other ones.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not "resigned" to it. I like being single. I make all the choices, I get what I want, nobody has any standing to have an opinion about how I live my life... Being single is pretty great. I don't get lonely because I have work to do and friends and a hobby (several, actually) that I love. I have pets for generic affection. I've always been able to get myself off just fine, and the thought of having another human around to "provide sex" is disgustingly transactional to me (not judging; you do you/yours however you like, provided it's consensual).

I've been happily single for long enough that it would take a minor miracle for me to ever couple up again. I'm not inherently opposed, but a potential partner's presence has to be better than my solitude. I don't need someone to complete me, or pay for me, or take care of me. I don't want someone who needs to be completed, or carried, or managed. That's a pretty slim window of opportunity. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, I'm good. I'm definitely not looking to give up my solitude to whatever nonsense headgames people are playing on dating apps and the like. I'm old-fashioned, or maybe just old, but OLD isn't for me.

Have you ever had a great romantic relationship? That's the part I would have a hard time living without. I love being in love.

NP. You have issues. Your life is worth more than the cheap high of idol worshipping someone until you get mugged by reality.

I don't even understand your drivel. I don't have issues. But I have a great marriage and other wonderful loving relationships and I cherish them. I'm sorry you haven't had great love in your life.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not "resigned" to it. I like being single. I make all the choices, I get what I want, nobody has any standing to have an opinion about how I live my life... Being single is pretty great. I don't get lonely because I have work to do and friends and a hobby (several, actually) that I love. I have pets for generic affection. I've always been able to get myself off just fine, and the thought of having another human around to "provide sex" is disgustingly transactional to me (not judging; you do you/yours however you like, provided it's consensual).

I've been happily single for long enough that it would take a minor miracle for me to ever couple up again. I'm not inherently opposed, but a potential partner's presence has to be better than my solitude. I don't need someone to complete me, or pay for me, or take care of me. I don't want someone who needs to be completed, or carried, or managed. That's a pretty slim window of opportunity. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, I'm good. I'm definitely not looking to give up my solitude to whatever nonsense headgames people are playing on dating apps and the like. I'm old-fashioned, or maybe just old, but OLD isn't for me.

Have you ever had a great romantic relationship? That's the part I would have a hard time living without. I love being in love.

She is pretty sad. This is extreme individualism. Humans need each other, as couples, as family members, as friends and community.

Plenty of people opt into filling their lives with family members, friends, and community, and simply do not need a "one" person who is supposed to be their everything. It's actually the smarter decision to diversify.

Not PP but I am a woman and I have very close girl friends, very close guy friends, wonderful co-workers, and tons of acquaintances, BUT I don't feel the same about any of them as I do my husband. Of course he's not my everything, but I couldn't replace our relationship with any combination of other ones.

I choose this lady's husband.

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No. Being married and having children was very important to me.

I dated a lot and later in life but I am so happy I never gave up after bad relationships.

My husband and children add immense happiness to my life.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not "resigned" to it. I like being single. I make all the choices, I get what I want, nobody has any standing to have an opinion about how I live my life... Being single is pretty great. I don't get lonely because I have work to do and friends and a hobby (several, actually) that I love. I have pets for generic affection. I've always been able to get myself off just fine, and the thought of having another human around to "provide sex" is disgustingly transactional to me (not judging; you do you/yours however you like, provided it's consensual).

I've been happily single for long enough that it would take a minor miracle for me to ever couple up again. I'm not inherently opposed, but a potential partner's presence has to be better than my solitude. I don't need someone to complete me, or pay for me, or take care of me. I don't want someone who needs to be completed, or carried, or managed. That's a pretty slim window of opportunity. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, I'm good. I'm definitely not looking to give up my solitude to whatever nonsense headgames people are playing on dating apps and the like. I'm old-fashioned, or maybe just old, but OLD isn't for me.

Have you ever had a great romantic relationship? That's the part I would have a hard time living without. I love being in love.

She is pretty sad. This is extreme individualism. Humans need each other, as couples, as family members, as friends and community.

Plenty of people opt into filling their lives with family members, friends, and community, and simply do not need a "one" person who is supposed to be their everything. It's actually the smarter decision to diversify.

Not PP but I am a woman and I have very close girl friends, very close guy friends, wonderful co-workers, and tons of acquaintances, BUT I don't feel the same about any of them as I do my husband. Of course he's not my everything, but I couldn't replace our relationship with any combination of other ones.

You think that but you probably could.

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Anonymous wrote:No. Being married and having children was very important to me.

I dated a lot and later in life but I am so happy I never gave up after bad relationships.

My husband and children add immense happiness to my life.

I'm not sure how you read the title and the introductory post and thought your reply was a meaningful contribution.

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I suppose I am. I'm 41 in a few weeks I would have liked to do the traditional marriage and family thing I think I would have even been okay without kids but men don't find me attractive so single it is. Honestly it's not so bad.