Has anyone else just resigned to being single?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

I'm with you, but for very different reasons. I'm 40, very happily going through a divorce, and determined never to let another man into my life or house. Men are a massive waste of time. The whole time I was married, I felt anything else in the world would have been a better use of my life than dealing with my MIL's poorly raised idiot son. Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son. My life is worth more. All a man can do for me at this point is provide sex--and it better be good or I'm stopping midstream and showing him the door--and then get lost.

Wow. You must make your mother so proud.

I do! She lost 32 years to my father and wishes she had left a lot sooner. But, as I tell her, she walked so I could run. It's precisely because I watched her and other wonderful woman waste the best years of their lives on ungrateful, hateful pricks like you that I learned to throw trash away.

At least you're not bitter.

Too bad you are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

I'm with you, but for very different reasons. I'm 40, very happily going through a divorce, and determined never to let another man into my life or house. Men are a massive waste of time. The whole time I was married, I felt anything else in the world would have been a better use of my life than dealing with my MIL's poorly raised idiot son. Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son. My life is worth more. All a man can do for me at this point is provide sex--and it better be good or I'm stopping midstream and showing him the door--and then get lost.

Please do yourself and any prospective partner a favor: keep that energy and stay single.

Duh! I'll leave the bad marriages to people like you.

[Anonymous]

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Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son.

Apparently the majority of women are completely screwing up the raising of their children.

Or maybe, if you meet one man who is a poorly raised idiot, the problem was him, but if the majority of men you meet are poorly raised idiots, the problem is you.

I see someone's poorly raised idiot son has entered the chat. If you weren't such a mouth breather, it would occur to you that adult males being such useless wastes of space piss is why their sons continue to be damaged. It wasn't your mom's job to teach you how to be a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These posts make me sad, having a life partner is a really incredible thing. Besides companionship, sex, etc., relationships stretch you and make you grow as a person in a way that nothing else can. It’s true there are trade offs … you might actually have to make compromises and not do what you want to do all the time, and there may be times when you actually feel like you’re pulling much more than your weight (gasp!), and you need to be OK. Marriages are built over msny years, rough patches happen and are to be expected. But in my opinion it’s worth it. We are growing up in a time where selfishness is praised as a virtue. Yes, an abusive relationship would suck, but not all relationships are abusive just because they involve compromise. Sure, most people you meet you won’t be compatible with, but sometimes things that are worth having to work. It’s worth it to actively seek out a good partner. Don’t throw the baby out the bathwater.

If your marriage was so great, you'd be secure in that instead of trying to recruit to the thankless ordeal that heterosexual marriage is for women. Misery loves company and you, my poor dear, are miserable. I've been there. I sang the praises of marriage hardest when I used to fantasize about my ex being hit by a bus.

[Anonymous]

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Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son.

Apparently the majority of women are completely screwing up the raising of their children.

Or maybe, if you meet one man who is a poorly raised idiot, the problem was him, but if the majority of men you meet are poorly raised idiots, the problem is you.

I see someone's poorly raised idiot son has entered the chat. If you weren't such a mouth breather, it would occur to you that adult males being such useless wastes of space piss is why their sons continue to be damaged. It wasn't your mom's job to teach you how to be a man.

I’m sorry you are in denial about the very obvious fact that the primary influences on male children are women; mothers, day care workers, teachers. And that’s even leaving aside the large number of boys raised by single moms.

If you weren’t such a mouth breather it would occur to you that these women dropping the ball is why young men are damaged (if we even accept this premise).

It was, is, and always will be a mother’s job to raise her children properly. If your son is “damaged”, look in the mirror instead of blaming dad (you know, the guy you and all DCUM women insist doesn’t make any important decisions about the house or the children).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

I'm with you, but for very different reasons. I'm 40, very happily going through a divorce, and determined never to let another man into my life or house. Men are a massive waste of time. The whole time I was married, I felt anything else in the world would have been a better use of my life than dealing with my MIL's poorly raised idiot son. Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son. My life is worth more. All a man can do for me at this point is provide sex--and it better be good or I'm stopping midstream and showing him the door--and then get lost.

Wow. You must make your mother so proud.

I do! She lost 32 years to my father and wishes she had left a lot sooner. But, as I tell her, she walked so I could run. It's precisely because I watched her and other wonderful woman waste the best years of their lives on ungrateful, hateful pricks like you that I learned to throw trash away.

Yeah, you sound healthy and well-adjusted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

I'm with you, but for very different reasons. I'm 40, very happily going through a divorce, and determined never to let another man into my life or house. Men are a massive waste of time. The whole time I was married, I felt anything else in the world would have been a better use of my life than dealing with my MIL's poorly raised idiot son. Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son. My life is worth more. All a man can do for me at this point is provide sex--and it better be good or I'm stopping midstream and showing him the door--and then get lost.

Wow. You must make your mother so proud.

Mother of a daughter here— I’d be proud of my daughter for knowing her worth and not excusing/pandering to mediocre men! I’m so sorry for any daughters (or DiL) you have that you feel differently.

I'd hope my kid would be able to spot a mediocre person before they were in the same bed, but you can set your standards where you like. Claiming all a man can "do for" you is "provide sex" is the exact sort of objectification women are always furious about. How is that an okay thing to do to men?

[Anonymous]

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Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son.

Apparently the majority of women are completely screwing up the raising of their children.

Or maybe, if you meet one man who is a poorly raised idiot, the problem was him, but if the majority of men you meet are poorly raised idiots, the problem is you.

I see someone's poorly raised idiot son has entered the chat. If you weren't such a mouth breather, it would occur to you that adult males being such useless wastes of space piss is why their sons continue to be damaged. It wasn't your mom's job to teach you how to be a man.

You need to calm down.

-a woman (and the pp has a point: one is a fluke, but if "the majority" of the men you're attracted to are "someone's poorly raised idiot son", the common factor there is YOU).

[Anonymous]

I have. If I meet someone really great, they would change…but I’m not actively looking. I am content with my self and my life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

I'm with you, but for very different reasons. I'm 40, very happily going through a divorce, and determined never to let another man into my life or house. Men are a massive waste of time. The whole time I was married, I felt anything else in the world would have been a better use of my life than dealing with my MIL's poorly raised idiot son. Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son. My life is worth more. All a man can do for me at this point is provide sex--and it better be good or I'm stopping midstream and showing him the door--and then get lost.

Why are you blaming his mom for his poor behavior?
Is your mom responsible for you picking a dud?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I accepted I would never marry in my early/mid 20's, and have never dated. I'm pushing 50 and maybe some day I'll get a dog.

That was early to throw in the towel. Why?

Well, when even homeless people are calling you ugly, it really says something. Nobody has ever liked me. I read the room. When I said above that I've never dated, it's not like I've turned down dates. I've never dated because nobody has ever wanted to date me. And I knew by 25 it wasn't as if I was going to get better looking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son.

Apparently the majority of women are completely screwing up the raising of their children.

Or maybe, if you meet one man who is a poorly raised idiot, the problem was him, but if the majority of men you meet are poorly raised idiots, the problem is you.

I see someone's poorly raised idiot son has entered the chat. If you weren't such a mouth breather, it would occur to you that adult males being such useless wastes of space piss is why their sons continue to be damaged. It wasn't your mom's job to teach you how to be a man.

I’m sorry you are in denial about the very obvious fact that the primary influences on male children are women; mothers, day care workers, teachers. And that’s even leaving aside the large number of boys raised by single moms.

If you weren’t such a mouth breather it would occur to you that these women dropping the ball is why young men are damaged (if we even accept this premise).

It was, is, and always will be a mother’s job to raise her children properly. If your son is “damaged”, look in the mirror instead of blaming dad (you know, the guy you and all DCUM women insist doesn’t make any important decisions about the house or the children).

Sorry your dad didn't care enough to teach you to be a man. I guess you can always hate mommy, as generations of (actually or effectively) fatherless men have.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I accepted I would never marry in my early/mid 20's, and have never dated. I'm pushing 50 and maybe some day I'll get a dog.

That was early to throw in the towel. Why?

Well, when even homeless people are calling you ugly, it really says something. Nobody has ever liked me. I read the room. When I said above that I've never dated, it's not like I've turned down dates. I've never dated because nobody has ever wanted to date me. And I knew by 25 it wasn't as if I was going to get better looking.

I am really sorry PP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

I'm with you, but for very different reasons. I'm 40, very happily going through a divorce, and determined never to let another man into my life or house. Men are a massive waste of time. The whole time I was married, I felt anything else in the world would have been a better use of my life than dealing with my MIL's poorly raised idiot son. Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son. My life is worth more. All a man can do for me at this point is provide sex--and it better be good or I'm stopping midstream and showing him the door--and then get lost.

Wow. You must make your mother so proud.

Mother of a daughter here— I’d be proud of my daughter for knowing her worth and not excusing/pandering to mediocre men! I’m so sorry for any daughters (or DiL) you have that you feel differently.

I'd hope my kid would be able to spot a mediocre person before they were in the same bed, but you can set your standards where you like. Claiming all a man can "do for" you is "provide sex" is the exact sort of objectification women are always furious about. How is that an okay thing to do to men?

It's not ok. But you have to realize that a high percentage of the women on DCUM are mentally ill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I prefer confirmed bachelorette, thanks!

Sometimes I get pondering what ifs and get melancholy over the marriage I dreamed of - but then my rational mind kicks in and I remember that in 50+ years I’ve not seen a marriage I envied or would wish to trade my complete independence for, never mind have I ever met a man I felt compelled to do domestic labor in support of and that’s something they all seem to expect.

My only real regrets are about not having a child and even those are greatly tempered by the state of the environment and outrageous income inequality so I’m good with dog as my copilot and a life that’s been full of adventure compared to the quiet desperation of most.

Pretty much this. Can't get past the man-baby thing in guys of my cohort (50s-60s). What's worse is that they THINK they're enlightened etc. I do think it's better with more recent generations, perhaps after women of my generation had a chance to raise some non-man-babies.